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how to ask a girl out

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Easy. Stop putting the ***** on a pedestal. Don't be intimidated by women. Be the man. Women are people too.
 
Live Young, Die Fast.
Listen to the song by Alkaline Trio.

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It's no big surprise
We turned out this way
It's in our eyes
Like shallow graves
But we are one with the lover and grace
We don't discriminate at all
For what it's worth

So live young, die fast
No one will last
So sit back and relax
Enjoy the crash
You're fading to black and you're gone
Live young, die fast
Die fast

Young easy life
And untimely death
This doesn't work at all for me
So save your breath
You took your time
And stashed it away
Deep down inside of a cardboard box
Marked "rainy day"

Live young, die fast
No one will last
So sit back and relax
Enjoy the crash
You're fading to black and it's gone
Live young, die fast

And I feel a miracle
In every breath that I breathe
Won't let this miracle
End in tragedy 
I sense a miracle 
In all that I see
Won't let this miracle
Slip away from me

Live young, die fast
No one will last
So sit back and relax
Enjoy the crash
You're fading to black and it's gone
Live young, die fast
Live young, die fast
Die fast
Live young, die fast
No one will last
So sit back and relax
Enjoy the crash
You're fading to black and it's gone
Live young, die fast
Die fast
 
Sorry if this has been posted already but just go up to her and ask "Does this smell like chloroform to you?"

:D
 
I cringe now but one of my most successful lines was

"are you wearing stocking and sussies (garter belt & nylons..for the colonials) under your bike leathers?" she was and we are still together 25 years later:D

PS I used to find being drunk was a good ice breake in my pubescent days...it was amazing how few are put off by this..perhaps I just approached the wrong kinda gal:eek:
 
All this stuff about how to start a conversation with a girl, or what pick up line to use, etc, is completely superficial and bears no relevance to how a relationship will actually work out once the people get to know each other. In a socially dysfunctional level that comes before getting to know somebody, there exists all this crap about how to dress to make them like you, or what to say, or how to behave. It's all meaningless in reality. I feel really sad when I think about guys who get rejected by immature barbie dolls and then feel like they're never gonna have a girlfriend. It doesn't mean anything. It bears no relevance whatsoever on a real relationship between two people who have gotten to know each other. It's like a stupid game people play before they just cut it out and get to know each other.
 
Most girls/women these days tend to be a little on the dumb side, so it doesn't make sense to take the intelligent approach. Just asking them if they want to go back to your place seems to work as well as anything else.
 
zombie1210 said:
Most girls/women these days tend to be a little on the dumb side, so it doesn't make sense to take the intelligent approach. Just asking them if they want to go back to your place seems to work as well as anything else.
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:rolleyes:

You mean the ones that think being dumb is the same as being cute. Otherwise thats a massive insult.
 
MegaMillions said:
I registered here just to answer the OPs question.

Here's how to ask a girl out. I'm not gonna give you childlike details. You've gotta figure out how to do some of it by yourself, but i'll give you an outline.

1. Arrange to hang out with her sometime. Not a date. Just you and her, hanging out. This shouldn't be hard to do. Be creative in how you manipulate circumstances in such a way that it ends up just being you and her. Just asking her is probably the best way. Ask her if she wants to hang out with you after school or something.

2. Repeat step 1 until you can manage to get her into your house, or get yourself into her house. Get to know her well enough that you feel comfortable around each other, but not well enough that you drift into the friend zone. This should all still be well within your comfort zone because you haven't said a word to her about asking her out or dating her.

3. After you've established these circumstances, wait until a time when just you and her are hanging out together, and tell her that there's something you have to ask her, but that you're scared to. She'll show interest, and find your shyness and insecurity attractive. Keep her on the hook for a while, even a few hours (i've done it). Tell her that you really want to ask her this question, but you're really scared. Try and start asking her but then fail to have the courage to bring the words out. Eventually, you can finally ask her something like "do you think i'm attractive?" Tell her that that's not your actual question, but that you chickened out. Based on her answer, you'll know whether you can ask her out or not. Finally, after she thinks you're adorable, and has repeatedly encouraged you to just ask her whatever it is you want to ask her, ask her if she'd like to go out with you. If she doesn't want to by this point, then it wasn't meant to be, you have been spared and there is nothing to be sad about.

4. Keep in mind, these steps can be mutated slightly depending on the reality of each persons situation, but the bottom line is, you've got to be one on one with her, be scared to ask her "something" and make sure that there's enough of a connection between you two that she shows interest and strongly encourages you to ask the question, and shows signs of liking you. It's that encounter when you finally get down to asking the question that is the ultimate goal of these steps. That's all you're working towards.
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shyness and insecurity? If i was a chick and you acted like that I wouldn't want to date you...first of all don't show your insecure that'll just give her a hint on how **** would be like if you where to be in a relationship together. Shyness? there's a fine line between being shy and having no balls. Acting like you're scared to ask her something will just either make her want to know cause of course everyone wants to know something they don't know or she can just say oh well whatever. Either way its hard to READ a girl acting like that.

btw what "incidents" happened in middle school?
 
wywern209 said:
lol,i'm pretty sure she is a a person who is between USB and firewire. firewire would be way too awesome. either way, no progress. i am sorry to disappoint you guys but this is something that i have to take at my own pace due to past "incidents" in middle school. i will post if there are any updates:)
- :apple: wywern209
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Whatever you do... don't compare her to Firewire or USB. :eek:
 
MegaMillions said:
3. After you've established these circumstances, wait until a time when just you and her are hanging out together, and tell her that there's something you have to ask her, but that you're scared to. She'll show interest, and find your shyness and insecurity attractive. Keep her on the hook for a while, even a few hours (i've done it). Tell her that you really want to ask her this question, but you're really scared. Try and start asking her but then fail to have the courage to bring the words out. Eventually, you can finally ask her something like "do you think i'm attractive?" Tell her that that's not your actual question, but that you chickened out. Based on her answer, you'll know whether you can ask her out or not. Finally, after she thinks you're adorable, and has repeatedly encouraged you to just ask her whatever it is you want to ask her, ask her if she'd like to go out with you. If she doesn't want to by this point, then it wasn't meant to be, you have been spared and there is nothing to be sad about.
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That's really, really embarrassing. Grow a pair and ask out the girl rather than ask her a lame ass pre-question to see if she's interested or attracted to you so that you can be spared the pain of asking your real question: "Do you want to go out with me?" She's not stupid enough not to realize what's going on, so when she answers your question with a yes or no, you already have your answer, and she has already given hers. I know that's what you're going for in order to spare yourself any "pain", but in reality, you're not really sparing yourself at all. "Yes" means success, and "no" means failure. The only difference between asking, "Are you attracted to me?", and, "Do you want to go out with me?" is that you end up looking like a coward. That's it. You still get your answer, but you're a coward.


Do you watch a lot of Adam Sandler movies or something?
 
If you want to take things at your own pace that's perfectly fine. Maybe compliment her about the way she wears her hair one day or what she's wearing or something. Women always enjoy it when people (regardless of gender) notice something like that. It doesn't have to be flirty, just something that she will remember when you finally decide to ask her. :)
 
phas3 said:
btw what "incidents" happened in middle school?
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the "incidents" were very relevant to this as i asked a friend of mine to ask this one girl if she wanted to go out with me sometime. i was turned down and it felt like a frikin stake was driven into me. since then, this has been a not so good topic for me.
 
wywern209 said:
the "incidents" were very relevant to this as i asked a friend of mine to ask this one girl if she wanted to go out with me sometime. i was turned down and it felt like a frikin stake was driven into me. since then, this has been a not so good topic for me.
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Never ask someone to do it for you...its weak and very unlikely to work.
 
dukebound85 said:
grow a pair and do it
sorry,but thats really the only way lol
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Truer words have never been spoken. Every guy has been there before and those of us that get over it and just get it done reap the rewards...or the EPIC fail...either way...this IS your ONLY option buddy. Good luck!! ;)
 
MegaMillions said:
I registered here just to answer the OPs question.

Here's how to ask a girl out. I'm not gonna give you childlike details. You've gotta figure out how to do some of it by yourself, but i'll give you an outline.

1. Arrange to hang out with her sometime. Not a date. Just you and her, hanging out. This shouldn't be hard to do. Be creative in how you manipulate circumstances in such a way that it ends up just being you and her. Just asking her is probably the best way. Ask her if she wants to hang out with you after school or something.

2. Repeat step 1 until you can manage to get her into your house, or get yourself into her house. Get to know her well enough that you feel comfortable around each other, but not well enough that you drift into the friend zone. This should all still be well within your comfort zone because you haven't said a word to her about asking her out or dating her.

3. After you've established these circumstances, wait until a time when just you and her are hanging out together, and tell her that there's something you have to ask her, but that you're scared to. She'll show interest, and find your shyness and insecurity attractive. Keep her on the hook for a while, even a few hours (i've done it). Tell her that you really want to ask her this question, but you're really scared. Try and start asking her but then fail to have the courage to bring the words out. Eventually, you can finally ask her something like "do you think i'm attractive?" Tell her that that's not your actual question, but that you chickened out. Based on her answer, you'll know whether you can ask her out or not. Finally, after she thinks you're adorable, and has repeatedly encouraged you to just ask her whatever it is you want to ask her, ask her if she'd like to go out with you. If she doesn't want to by this point, then it wasn't meant to be, you have been spared and there is nothing to be sad about.

4. Keep in mind, these steps can be mutated slightly depending on the reality of each persons situation, but the bottom line is, you've got to be one on one with her, be scared to ask her "something" and make sure that there's enough of a connection between you two that she shows interest and strongly encourages you to ask the question, and shows signs of liking you. It's that encounter when you finally get down to asking the question that is the ultimate goal of these steps. That's all you're working towards.
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Bro, let's be real here. If you come at any self respective chic with shtick like that your liable to be laughed at, forever. C'mon now...there really isn't any "strategy" involved with women; yes I'll admit different "tactics" can be used, but for the most part you either step up and TALK to her like a real guy would or you let it pass and try to be in the "friend zone" while Spencer [captain of the football team] steps in and takes care of business...just saying...

While we're on the subject, you know you're wrong for getting that script from the "How to talk to Chics for Dummies" book....shame shame shame on you... :p
 
wywern209 said:
the "incidents" were very relevant to this as i asked a friend of mine to ask this one girl if she wanted to go out with me sometime. i was turned down and it felt like a frikin stake was driven into me. since then, this has been a not so good topic for me.
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Do you want your friend to have sex with her too? :D Ask yourself, just ask and don't think too much about it. :)
 
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