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How to go from girl-friend to girlfriend ?
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Nice, get her wired, then scared, then screams and hugs, followed by some slap and tickle.
Hopefully.
Take her to one of your city's tourist attractions at around night time, like 6pm and later. Somewhere busy to minimize the awkwardness. Those always make for good dates. Thing is, most people just say dinner and a movie. Not really a good idea for a first date. You go out to get to know each other, why spend the time staring at a movie?
Don't wait though. It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. It makes no sense to wait. Oh damn I don't know if she likes me. Instead of maximizing my chances let's just sit around and wait and thus be too afraid to ever find out. No. Ask her out. Now. Go. In fact why are you even reading this, just go now. But don't do it over a text message/online, that's lame as hell.
Don't wait though. It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. It makes no sense to wait. Oh damn I don't know if she likes me. Instead of maximizing my chances let's just sit around and wait and thus be too afraid to ever find out. No. Ask her out. Now. Go. In fact why are you even reading this, just go now. But don't do it over a text message/online, that's lame as hell.
Give it a shot. She's giving you some pretty solid signs, and if you really like her, there is absolutely no reason not to. I wouldn't try to do anything fancy, maybe just call her up (or facetime, whatever) and ask if she wants to do something - get coffee, dinner, something basic where you will be able to talk, but without pressure or trying to look impressive, and you can leave it open-ended for her input. If you want to get dinner, go somewhere that is nice, but not expensive.
If she enjoys your company as much as it sounds, she isn't going to turn down a free meal with you.
If she enjoys your company as much as it sounds, she isn't going to turn down a free meal with you.
But I thought you were a Trannie.
KGB
Trannies need lovin' too. Plus they got anything you could want, usually.
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But I thought you were a Trannie.
KGB
Pre-op!! That way if I see a girl that tickles my fancy I can dip into a bathroom, take off my wig and eyeliner and make a pass at her.
It's a win/win as far as I'm concerned.
You should pay. Even if it was just as friends, it would be the gentleman thing to do. Point is, don't wuss out on making it a real date. If she asks if it would be a date, just say yes. I can't tell you exactly what to say, then it would be me talking, not you, and I think I have done my last bit of asking girls out.
Several of my really close friends have either been Drag or post-op Transexuals and I love them dearly.
KGB
I agree with James, keep it simple, ask her out...to dinner, just the two of you.
I've always found this to be true: "A man chases a woman until she catches him." If she's interested, and you now show some signals that you are, too, she'll take care of her part in closing the deal.
Keep it light, have fun, you're already both showing you're capable and interested in communicating one on one.
Good luck, have fun, and enjoy!
I've always found this to be true: "A man chases a woman until she catches him." If she's interested, and you now show some signals that you are, too, she'll take care of her part in closing the deal.
Keep it light, have fun, you're already both showing you're capable and interested in communicating one on one.
Good luck, have fun, and enjoy!
STOP OVERTHINKING IT!!!!!
Try this:
"Let's hang out this weekend. What do you feel like doing?"
Seriously... it's really that simple.
NO NO NO!!!!
This isn't high school. If she finds out you are doing awkward things like that it really will get strange.
Here, let's review again:
"Let's hang out this weekend. What do you feel like doing?"
Then giddy up! Remember that a girl likes a man that is confident. Don't ask around the office about her feelings. Don't try to find "a plan".
Just.
Ask.
Her.
Out.
The absolutely worst thing that can happen is she says no.... in which case you move on and you've lost nothing.
If you are over thinking this that much before even asking I would suggest makin sure the place you are going serves alcohol.
Several of my really close friends have either been Drag or post-op Transexuals and I love them dearly.
KGB
You must go to some craazzzyy parties.
If you are over thinking this that much before even asking I would suggest makin sure the place you are going serves alcohol.
And then, in the words of Biggie, ask her what her interests are, who she be with, things that make her smile, what numbers to dial, you gonna be here for a few, I'm gonna call my crew, you gonna call your crew, then we rendez-vous at the bar around two.
dont worry..just focus on being yourself....you can google topics like first date topics OR conversation starters..use open ended questions that dont have yes or no answers like "you like italian food..tell me about the best dish you ever had and where?" get it..?
Dude it's Friday, ask her to go out somewhere tonight....you're going to keep pushing it off until the next week. Man up.
Nah that's dumb! Your acting like a worry wart grandma. This is what you new to do plain and simple.
Call her up "hey how are you?" "want to go out tonight?"
Then take her to dinner, chat, ask her how her trip went take interest in her. Etc. Have some drinks and food then walk around a bit and feel it out! It's super simple!!
yeah nobody noticed that xD
dude, im gonna tell you this only one more time, if u ask a question again of what should you do, im gona find you, pay the 3.000 bucks that prob the airplane fee is gonna be, slap you till unconsciousness bring u over the girl and tell her ur in love xD
man, be chill, and for god sake
ASK HER OUT
and then,
BE YOUR SELF
and then then,
DON'T OVER THINK EVERYTHING
;D
the thing is, people who overthink everything, is the one who make the biggest mistkas and its going to happen to you, really, youll remember me someday if u keep like this.
ur a guy, shes a girl, go out
You guys are totally right. I am being silly. However it really does need to wait until next week. I have plans in place for this weekend. Also I don't want to arrange this on a moments notice. I will stick to my plan of texting a bit over the week and I will ask her mid week if she would like to have dinner next weekend.
That is that. I'm going for it!
That is that. I'm going for it!
So, talk to her today and ask her if she wants to do something next weekend, Before I ask her. Maybe I'll start sexting her.
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Maybe some of my experiences will give you the courage you need to ask this girl out. There are a few that I want to share with you:
A. I had been friends with girl A for a couple years. We were both at the same party, dancing together when I told her either that I loved her or that I liked more than as a friend. I don't remember exactly what I said. She did not like me as much as I liked her, and was a bit overwhelmed. She excused herself, went to the bathroom with her best friend, girl B, and shared it all with her. Girl A and I saw each other all the time as a normal part of our separate lives. It was awkward for a while, but since we were always around each other, we just kept talking to each other and worked through it. We remained friends.
B. Girl B, girl A's friend, was also my good friend. A year or two after the girl A incident, I believed I was in love with girl B. This time I just asked her if she wanted to go out with me on the weekend. I can't remember exactly where we went, but I just kept it relaxed and we had a great time. We went out a couple more times and the romance just did not blossom like I originally thought, so we remained friends and started going on double dates with people we were more romantically interested in. We are still on good terms.
C. I had actually known Girl C for longer than either girl A or B. We met again at a party after a long time of not being around each other. In our conversation at the party, she offered me her phone number and address. I told her flat out in front of some friends that I had no intention of calling her or visiting her. I said I had no interest in dating her. I also told her that I liked her fine as friend and she could count on me if she needed a ride somewhere or some help with something. It sounds harsh, but it took her all of 10 minutes accept that. We actually became good friends, did all kinds of things together, and had a lot of fun. We are still on good terms.
D. Girl D was also friends with girls A and B. They were a bit of a trio. I was friends with all of them. At some point, I asked girl C if she wanted to go on a date with me. I had previously obtained her father's permission to date her (we were still in high school), so when she said she had to ask her parents and she told me her dad said no, I chalked it up to her wanting to avoid personally rejecting me. I knew she was not interested in dating me, but I thought maybe she just needed to give me a chance. I asked her a couple more times and she eventually agreed to go out with me. It went nowhere, and we both just moved on to other people. There was no bitterness nor awkwardness. I spent my energies on other people from then on.
E. I met a girl in college. Asked her out to a movie in the park because she was interesting and focused on getting to know her and her sister who tagged along. In a few weeks, I fell in love with her (not the sister) and within a month we were engaged. 8 months later we were married. That was 8 years ago and we have two children now.
The point of these stories is DON'T UNDERVALUE FRIENDSHIP. And don't make this artificial separation between dating and friendship. You SHOULD date your friends. The purpose of dating is to find a spouse, a life-long companion, a life-long best friend.
Take the emotional risk. Just ask her out. Be a good friend and a gentleman. Treat her well and remain friends no matter what happens on the romance side. Also, take the physical stuff slowly. It seems like a lot of people want to start kissing or more right away. If you really like her romantically and you get the feeling she might be feel the same way about you, try holding her hand. If you are wrong, it is easier to recover from. If you are right, it is easy for her to accept and start forming a stronger romantic bond.
Good luck.
Maybe some of my experiences will give you the courage you need to ask this girl out. There are a few that I want to share with you:
A. I had been friends with girl A for a couple years. We were both at the same party, dancing together when I told her either that I loved her or that I liked more than as a friend. I don't remember exactly what I said. She did not like me as much as I liked her, and was a bit overwhelmed. She excused herself, went to the bathroom with her best friend, girl B, and shared it all with her. Girl A and I saw each other all the time as a normal part of our separate lives. It was awkward for a while, but since we were always around each other, we just kept talking to each other and worked through it. We remained friends.
B. Girl B, girl A's friend, was also my good friend. A year or two after the girl A incident, I believed I was in love with girl B. This time I just asked her if she wanted to go out with me on the weekend. I can't remember exactly where we went, but I just kept it relaxed and we had a great time. We went out a couple more times and the romance just did not blossom like I originally thought, so we remained friends and started going on double dates with people we were more romantically interested in. We are still on good terms.
C. I had actually known Girl C for longer than either girl A or B. We met again at a party after a long time of not being around each other. In our conversation at the party, she offered me her phone number and address. I told her flat out in front of some friends that I had no intention of calling her or visiting her. I said I had no interest in dating her. I also told her that I liked her fine as friend and she could count on me if she needed a ride somewhere or some help with something. It sounds harsh, but it took her all of 10 minutes accept that. We actually became good friends, did all kinds of things together, and had a lot of fun. We are still on good terms.
D. Girl D was also friends with girls A and B. They were a bit of a trio. I was friends with all of them. At some point, I asked girl C if she wanted to go on a date with me. I had previously obtained her father's permission to date her (we were still in high school), so when she said she had to ask her parents and she told me her dad said no, I chalked it up to her wanting to avoid personally rejecting me. I knew she was not interested in dating me, but I thought maybe she just needed to give me a chance. I asked her a couple more times and she eventually agreed to go out with me. It went nowhere, and we both just moved on to other people. There was no bitterness nor awkwardness. I spent my energies on other people from then on.
E. I met a girl in college. Asked her out to a movie in the park because she was interesting and focused on getting to know her and her sister who tagged along. In a few weeks, I fell in love with her (not the sister) and within a month we were engaged. 8 months later we were married. That was 8 years ago and we have two children now.
The point of these stories is DON'T UNDERVALUE FRIENDSHIP. And don't make this artificial separation between dating and friendship. You SHOULD date your friends. The purpose of dating is to find a spouse, a life-long companion, a life-long best friend.
Take the emotional risk. Just ask her out. Be a good friend and a gentleman. Treat her well and remain friends no matter what happens on the romance side. Also, take the physical stuff slowly. It seems like a lot of people want to start kissing or more right away. If you really like her romantically and you get the feeling she might be feel the same way about you, try holding her hand. If you are wrong, it is easier to recover from. If you are right, it is easy for her to accept and start forming a stronger romantic bond.
Good luck.