Okay I know this isn't probably the best place to ask this type of question, but here we go.
I have been hiding smoking cigarettes from my girlfriend for about 2 and a half years. I finally told her the other day because I haven't smoked since October 1st and I just wanted to get it off my chest. I've always wanted to tell her but never did because of the fear of how she would react, plus I was addicted.
She didn't care as much if we were out drinking and I smoked but she would still freak out about it. Now get this... she didn't care if I smoked Black and Milds (cigar's) daily because they smelled differently than cigarettes. I hid the cigarettes in the trunk of my car and I told her about that too.
Long story short... She is devastated that I lied to her for this long about this and said she is even considering leaving me over it. She is also very upset that all of my friends and family knew and never told her. I honestly never looked at it as a lie, it was more of me not wanting to disappoint her. Plus I kind of used her as a quitting tool - it helped me finally quit knowing I couldn't smoke around her. I would have never told her if I would have known she was going to get this upset over it.
Honestly is it worth getting this upset over? She says she has trouble trusting me now. What's your opinions? I know I should have just told her from the beginning, but I didn't. I just need some advice.
I have been hiding smoking cigarettes from my girlfriend for about 2 and a half years. I finally told her the other day because I haven't smoked since October 1st and I just wanted to get it off my chest. I've always wanted to tell her but never did because of the fear of how she would react, plus I was addicted.
She didn't care as much if we were out drinking and I smoked but she would still freak out about it. Now get this... she didn't care if I smoked Black and Milds (cigar's) daily because they smelled differently than cigarettes. I hid the cigarettes in the trunk of my car and I told her about that too.
Long story short... She is devastated that I lied to her for this long about this and said she is even considering leaving me over it. She is also very upset that all of my friends and family knew and never told her. I honestly never looked at it as a lie, it was more of me not wanting to disappoint her. Plus I kind of used her as a quitting tool - it helped me finally quit knowing I couldn't smoke around her. I would have never told her if I would have known she was going to get this upset over it.
Honestly is it worth getting this upset over? She says she has trouble trusting me now. What's your opinions? I know I should have just told her from the beginning, but I didn't. I just need some advice.