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I Regret Breaking Up with Her!
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This is not the first place I turned to for advive. Beleive me! I have posted on relationship forums. But Get a lot of people that are down in the dumps as well, and all the same advice. I posted here so I can get a much broader range of opinions. From regular people who are not going through any crisis in a relationship right now. But most everyone has. .. And I'm glad I did. Lots of good advice here guys, thanks. except the one about masturbating to her picture, I dont think that would help me move on...lol.
I do agree that I need to "Man UP". I'm trying. But when you think about someone all of your free time, it tends to wear out your mind, and consume your dreams. I know I will be fine, It's just going to take some time. And I'm trying to speed up the process...
mac people are very understanding and caring thats why mwahaha.
OP:
maybe you can just cruise here 24/7, its what i do! keeps me very happy.
havent read whole thread yet but
This is almost the exact same story between my two friends.
Slightly older guy. Slightly younger girl. Break up, guy goes to boarding school. Months pass, girl meats new guy (whom I have met and much better couple
) and old guy gets uber jealous via facebook. Now sending constant emails like"I wana get back with you"
" i dont wana visit you again"
"i take that back, i love you"
I know from the girls point of view, this makes him appear lame and makes her angry. Shes happy
Ahhh life. Sucky, just the way I like it
P.S. Get over it, seriously man.
She sounds she could be a serial dater. Has no girl friends, can't be alone, and she defines herself through her boyfriends.
If so, she's quite likely to pour herself into the new relationship as if it's the answer to all her problems. She'll gush over Mr. New to prove she is whole again. Since you are the one who rejected her, she'll need to prove that to you most of all. Rejecting your attempts to reconcile will give her a feeling of independence and strength, which is more important to her than you actually were.
Stay strong, and enjoy the company of friends and family that you couldn't while being her emotional support system.
If so, she's quite likely to pour herself into the new relationship as if it's the answer to all her problems. She'll gush over Mr. New to prove she is whole again. Since you are the one who rejected her, she'll need to prove that to you most of all. Rejecting your attempts to reconcile will give her a feeling of independence and strength, which is more important to her than you actually were.
Stay strong, and enjoy the company of friends and family that you couldn't while being her emotional support system.
One of my faves too..
And your advice to the OP is spot-on. What was that he said about feeling sad? Stop feeling sad and be awesome!
At least we agree on something.
Stop crying daily and don't visit relationship forums. Watch Sports Center and rededicate yourself to at least one major league sports team per sport (baseball, football and basketball).
It was something along the lines of "When I feel sad, I just stop feeling sad and just be awesome instead! True Story!"
The best part is that he uses it for anything that could be wrong with him. You could substitute "sick" "scared" or any number of other uncomfortable things in there.
Funny Stuff!
SLC
guy...you say she's arrogant with no friends yet young an beautiful and you want her back?
me thinks you need to assess what it's important?
keep doing what you're doing (gym, eating right etc..) and just forget about it. sure, it sucks now, but life is short...
me thinks you need to assess what it's important?
keep doing what you're doing (gym, eating right etc..) and just forget about it. sure, it sucks now, but life is short...
my advice is go out there and just f*ck. I had almost a similar situation while i was in iraq and when i got back, things weren't going right with her and she didnt want a relationship with anyone and her feelings that she had so strong for me before i left where gone when I got back but i played the game and we still had sex all that couply **** but we stayed single, she hasn't gone out with anyone else since then. this was in september, but ive been with 6 girls since november. Just go out there and meet woman it will get your mind off it, and plus you know you need to get some stress out so go sleep around be safe though. Thats my goal for 2009 sleep with as many women as possible
you just need to do other stuff to get your mind off of her. go buy yourself a new mac, that should help
Thanks guys. A lot of help with a little humor. It's very nice to have complete strangers care for me. This is a very rough time for me. But I am doing everything I can to make myself better. It's just so hard to let go. I miss her so much, and I know we wont be able to reconcile. Time will help I know. But my days are so long, and my nights even longer... Anymore advice? keep it coming! Thanks again!
First off, do I have to point out that posting your girl woes on the internet is pretty lame? Lets face it you are wasting valuable time that should be spent browsing for porn, which is the reason the internet was invented.
Why are you are getting all het up about some little missy who you hardly really knew and who you clearly weren't destined to be with?
You don't really need her, you don't really need anyone, so the conflict you are going through really isn't about her at all. You are just focusing all of your negative thoughts and projecting them into this one episode in your life.
Sorry to re-open this Thread
I just re-read this thread, and man you guys were so right. Everyone of you! Long story short... We did get back together in March, lasted about 3-4 months, and wouldn't you know it. Nothing had changed. All the same BS was still there. She is still very arrogant, rude, mean, Hateful, angry, insensitive, controlling, Heartless, still no friends... The list goes on and on. But the sex was great.
I kicked her out in July, She tried to get back with me for about a month or so, I kept pushing her away, now shes with someone else, and I'm freaking out again. And I want her back. lol. I may be losing my mind. WTF? Is there any hope for me at all? Why do I give her so much power over me? Why cant I forget about her and just move on! Dammit!
I just re-read this thread, and man you guys were so right. Everyone of you! Long story short... We did get back together in March, lasted about 3-4 months, and wouldn't you know it. Nothing had changed. All the same BS was still there. She is still very arrogant, rude, mean, Hateful, angry, insensitive, controlling, Heartless, still no friends... The list goes on and on. But the sex was great.
I kicked her out in July, She tried to get back with me for about a month or so, I kept pushing her away, now shes with someone else, and I'm freaking out again. And I want her back. lol. I may be losing my mind. WTF? Is there any hope for me at all? Why do I give her so much power over me? Why cant I forget about her and just move on! Dammit!
There is only one answer. Eharmony.com =D. Seriously. Find someone else. Don't make things worse.
Sounds like you only want here when you can't have her. I say get her name tattood on your knuckles. That'll help.
Some ideas:
- Stop visiting her site.
- Meet other women and have fun.
- Develop a hobby and pursue it.
Not advice, but IMHO you haven't lived until you've had a woman rip your heart out of your chest (figuratively of course) and show it to you.
The pain. The agony. The not wanting to live. All good character and life building experiences.
Of course doing it again with the same woman, well, that just adds to your character.
Just remember, many others have done the same. Time to move on and forget her. Life will get much better that way!
If you say she is arrogant and self centered, why the hell do you want her back?
As Russel Arnold says, "BE A MAN"
As Russel Arnold says, "BE A MAN"
