Wow, wow, wow. So many myths.
The iPad maximum current draw is 2.1 amp at approx 5 volts (5.1 on the charger because there will be some voltage drop on that tiny little cable. I don't know how think the wire is but I have an old cord that's fraying and can see in, insulation thickness and the similarity at tiny sizes affects it, but I don't think it's even 18AWG. It looks honestly similar to 24AWG like in CAT5. Many USB cables ARE 24AWG for power and 28 for data, and the standard allows just 28AWG - remember, 0.5a is the USB spec. It could be 20 or 22? Anyone know for sure? I can't find an exact answer clearly in a quick Google search.
Using this table -
http://www.powerstream.com/Wire_Size.htm , the maximum loads for power transmission are 18AWG - 2.3a; 20AWG - 1.5a, 22AWG - 0.92a, 24AWG - 0.577a. Standards for chassis wiring are higher - 3.5a for 24AWG, since more resistance is acceptable (with corresponding voltage drop and head dissipation). Shorter runs have less voltage drops than longer runs.
Clearly, Apple (and other tablet makers) are literally pushing the edge of current draw over USB. Also, there aren't the standards for drawing 2amps that there are for phone chargers and normal USB ports.
Phone chargers have the data pins shorted with some resistance. The phones (and even the iPad!) will detect this is a 1 amp power source (technically they're not chargers the actual charger is in the device with Li-Ion) and not draw over 1 amp. The iPad will negotiate for 2.1amps with Apple's chargers and newer Macs. All devices designed to spec NEVER draw over 0.5a (standard USB spec) if they are uncertain of current availability. This is so your iPad doesn't burn up your PC's motherboard
Given the physical limits of this, the iPad charger is pretty much at the limits of power that can be done over standard USB - and pushing them. USB extension cables could EASILY result in too much voltage drop.
Firewire was FAR superior for this, since it's an unregulated, but nominally 25 volt connection (though many implementations were much lower and straight off the 12V rail; and Apple's chargers were 12V; Firewire devices had to be able to handle and use if they needed bus power, anywhere from 9 to 40 volts!). Much lower current involved. Much more complex electronic design. But if Apple HADN'T abandoned FireWire, they'd be reaping the benefits today by being able to offer much higher voltage wall chargers supplying much more power to the iPad 3 to charge.
So yeah, basically, quit complaining, even Apple has to live within the laws of physics. Either, make the battery life shorter, make the device use less power, live with the long charge times, or use a totally proprietary charger connection (or back to FireWire lol).
As for charging. Nothing kills a li-ion battery quicker than letting it totally die

Other than that, don't worry