I'm thinking that the way people are perceiving this is more indicative of what goes on between their ears than what is going on between Jimmy Io's ears. The way I read it is, "picture a woman in this situation", and he describes the first 10-15 minutes of your basic romantic comedy. The way the SJW's are reading it is "Honey go fix me a drink and get back to your knitting."
Maybe the guy should speak his mind and do his job to the best of his ability, and only worry about it if he suddenly drops an F bomb against his will. If I were in his position I wouldn't apologize. I definitely wouldn't explain myself. I'd simply say "grow up".
Well, that's certainly an option.
But I wouldn't respond at all. I'd chalk it up to experience, try to learn a little from it, and move on.