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Love, Abnormal Relationships, and Age Difference
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lol i was being sarcastic and that was very presumptious about guys that are my age.
i know alot of "immature" older guys lol
Since you quoted Lau on that, I'm going to assume it was directed toward them. The driver is no one other than.... Lau!
I'm sorry, but if you're 24 years old and with a 16 year old, you are pathetic. There are plenty of 20-24 year old women out there, and they would be on the same lifestyle/maturity level.
If you're a 24 year old male dating a 167 year old girl, you're going to be perceived as a pervert. Which is true because 16 year old girls are vulnerable and ignorant. Plus, how much stuff can you have in common with someone 8 years younger than you? If she's not even paying her own insurance, and you're paying for everything you own.... and you've obviously experienced far more than she has, simply because in 8 years, a lot of stuff freaking happens.
If I had a daughter and she came home saying she was going out with a 24 year old, I would flip out completely.
HOWEVER.
When you hit the 25's+, i think it doesn't matter because your maturity level is high. IF a guy is 30 and his wife is 40, it might be weird, but it's not that big of a deal because you've both experienced life.
If you're a 24 year old male dating a 167 year old girl, you're going to be perceived as a pervert. Which is true because 16 year old girls are vulnerable and ignorant. Plus, how much stuff can you have in common with someone 8 years younger than you? If she's not even paying her own insurance, and you're paying for everything you own.... and you've obviously experienced far more than she has, simply because in 8 years, a lot of stuff freaking happens.
If I had a daughter and she came home saying she was going out with a 24 year old, I would flip out completely.
HOWEVER.
When you hit the 25's+, i think it doesn't matter because your maturity level is high. IF a guy is 30 and his wife is 40, it might be weird, but it's not that big of a deal because you've both experienced life.
There we go, a 16 year old who is wise beyond her years. I knew we had one around here somewhere...
By the way, I'm very interested in hearing more about this 24 year old guy who's dating a 167 year old woman...
There we go, a 16 year old who is wise beyond her years. I knew we had one around here somewhere...
By the way, I'm very interested in hearing more about this 24 year old guy who's dating a 167 year old woman...
correct me if I'm wrong, but I think that's called necrophilia
...isnt that what makes it all so tempting?
Hey man, keep your laws out of my bedroom!
oh man, whats wrong w/ you - I mean who in their right mind stores corpses in their BEDROOM! - I mean sheesh, atleast use a basement, but bedroom... thats going a lil too far
oh man, whats wrong w/ you - I mean who in their right mind stores corpses in their BEDROOM! - I mean sheesh, atleast use a basement, but bedroom... thats going a lil too far
Yeah, I do have to keep the A/C on 24/7... Ok, this is grossing me out now
Sadly I think you hit the nail on the head with this one, my friend. Let's keep our children safe from the evils of the world. They'll grow up soon enough...
So what your saying basically is that this is wrong because of experience level and maturity.
But you would rather have your 16 year old date a guy who is 17 and will just sleep with her, probably not know what the hell he is doing, possibly just do it for a quick lay and knock her up and or hurt her emotionally.
Most girls who date older men date them and love them for the emotional protection and stability that they percieve them to provide. Usually it has to do with the girls upbringing and if she has had any problems or hurt in the past. I don't know what the motivativation for an older man to date a young girl is but some of them due it because they are attracted to vulnerability.
Some men do have a guardian angel complex.
I would too; because given how old you are: Your daughter could only be 4 or 5 at a push.
I don't disagree, it has it's downsides but overall I like it.
It does however result in my life resembling a Heinlein novel; Poly, BDSM, gender bending and some rather strange philosophy are all prominent themes.
The reasons kids get so screwed up with high school relationships is because they get into relationships with no idea what they really want in a partner (nor a relationship). You need to find out why you want a girlfriend/boyfriend, why you want a relationships, and how long you expect it to last, before you get into one.
Aren't relationships all about finding your future mate? If you're getting into relationships with people you KNOW you can never stay with, what is the point (besides physicalness)? When you get into relationship after relationship with people you know will never last, do you not think that after a while, it's going to start to hurt you?
And are shallow relationships even REAL relationships? Nah. I don't think so.
I know quite a broad variety of 16-18 year old guys. Some of them are mature enough to have a relationship because their head is on straight. some of them just think with the wrong head.
Just my opinion maybe.
Sorry, but for me, it's not that hard to see right through a guy and know whether or not he is sincere. If you don't want to get laid, don't get laid. Unless you're being raped, it's not hard to say no to sex. I'm quite against teenage sex, which is also what makes teenage relationships so complex and hurtful.
Aren't relationships all about finding your future mate? If you're getting into relationships with people you KNOW you can never stay with, what is the point (besides physicalness)? When you get into relationship after relationship with people you know will never last, do you not think that after a while, it's going to start to hurt you?
And are shallow relationships even REAL relationships? Nah. I don't think so.
I know quite a broad variety of 16-18 year old guys. Some of them are mature enough to have a relationship because their head is on straight. some of them just think with the wrong head.
Just my opinion maybe.
Sorry, but for me, it's not that hard to see right through a guy and know whether or not he is sincere. If you don't want to get laid, don't get laid. Unless you're being raped, it's not hard to say no to sex. I'm quite against teenage sex, which is also what makes teenage relationships so complex and hurtful.
When I was 20 I dated a 33 year old girl (I'm 27 now). She was Korean, and I was in the Army at the time and stationed in Korea. So not only was she 13 years older than me, we were also an interracial couple. People for the most part didn't make a big deal about the age difference, cause she could have passed for a 19 year old, she looked so young.
Yes, and I heartily disagree with it. We hardly know what "point" we are at in our lives, and successful relationships are not built on "points," but over the long-term.
If I had a daughter and she came home with anyone I would flip out but what can you do...ground her...I guarantee she will do what she have to do.
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That's a bit harsh - she's going to have boyfriends (or girlfriends
) whether you like it or not. Better to meet them and get to know them than not, surely?
That's a bit harsh - she's going to have boyfriends (or girlfriends
Well of course thats why I said she'll do what she has to...I wouldn't be ready for it but theres nothing I could really do about it.
Not like I could wait at my front step with a shotgun....wait ummm
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Interesting question. I find myself in that situation. I'm 30 and dating a woman 9 years older than me. She is divorced and has baggage. Having just turned 30, I began reminiscing of what young love was like, and recalled my first relationships. They were totally in the moment, with no baggage filtering your love for the other. There was still no experience of heartbreak. So I thought about what it would be like to be with a young girl again and see that unfiltered love in her eyes. I think you never fall as deeply in love as you do with your first love, and that's a feeling I'd like to recapture. So in my case, any interest in a girl much younger than me does not exist in a predatory sense. Maybe others are in the same boat.
Why would you this? Sounds a tad unhealthy to me ...
She sounds like a great catch to me. A woman with her own baggage is great for holidaying with, especially if she'll carry it all herself