As for the rest, I don't know if I'm an idiot or an eternal child, but with a couple of terminal commands, I can install whatever I want on macOS.
You've never had Gatekeeper stop you from installing something you downloaded from the internet, and then have to go into System Preferences to allow it?
I use Homebrew but not everything is in HB - just yesterday I installed some mouse software that the OS didn't like. Plus the nanny operating system wants to tell me every 30 days that Google Meet or Alttab can access my screen (I did turn that off). Whenever I use Rio or Raycast Tahoe demands I re-give them access to outside folders.
Because sure, it's only 3 clicks for security, maybe a few more for software to access to Accessibility, and one terminal command to turn off the screen sharing notifications, and one click every time I use Rio or Raycast, but I also don't like the implications of my nanny operating system keeping me from installing software, and all this unnecessary babysitting from the OS is adding up. If you enjoy fighting the OS (or don't install anything you get on the internet), more power to you, I just think it should do what I tell it to; it's an OS not a kiosk.
When I started using OSX, people called Macs toys, but that wasn't really accurate. Because of Darwin, you could do a lot of powerful stuff and it seemed like Apple cared about power users. Hell, does anyone remember way-back-when Apple advertised that Macs wouldn't nag you as much as Windows machines? I run Linux, Windows, and Mac on various machines, and Tahoe is giving Win11 a run for it's money in terms of unnecessary notifications.
It seems like in every release since the big cats Apple has done at least one thing to make the OS more restrictive, and it feels like it is becoming more toy-like (or maybe like an amusement park) so that you can freely install software (if you get it off the app store), buy music and movies (off their respective stores) but when you try to slightly get off the beaten path (for the crimes of using open-source software or using an app that clearly accesses the screen) some security guard is there to usher you back to attractions.
And again this is all besides the increased illegibility of Tahoe when using Liquid Glass, the harder to parse square icons, and the harder to read be-iconed menus.