That is not true. Why do you people have this idea stuck to your head? Screw society and the standards it set.
I said "to me," lack of body hair is feminizing, which implies that it was in my opinion. But that said, it is not just opinion; it is biology that body hair is a secondary-sex characteristic, meaning it is a secondary characteristic of your sex, and more directly, a result of male androgen production and reception. It is, most literally, a masculine trait. I'm not talking about opinions or society here! Men grow way more body hair than women on average, and while gender is actually a continuum, there are clear lines, such as when you have a 'y' chromosome. So please, do not mistake my words for some societally-brainwashed simp just because my natural, biologically-aware opinion
happens to coincide with some closed-minded societal beliefs.
Exactly- it's my body. F*** other people if they don't like it. The fact of the matter is that there are always people out there who won't like you for something. If I like it, that's all that really matters. Will I date guys who are au naturel? Of course! It has nothing to do with what I want from someone else. It only has to do with me, and what I am comfortable with for my own body. It's just like I don't workout all the time because I want to date a body builder. I do it because it's how I like to look and it makes me feel good. I'm attracted to all kinds of body types. They all have their pluses and minuses.
I feel bad that you too have mistaken my intents. I see your posts around and I think you're a really great person and I'm glad that you post at MR. I even look up to you. But I do not tell people how to be. I was expressing my opinion.
I used to have facial piercings, a mohawk, dye my hair unemployable colors, wear makeup (and I don't just mean emo eyeliner, I was a makeup artist), theatrical contact lenses, wear crazy mashed-up reconstructed clothes, and as I said I've even shaved almost every part of my body (save eyebrows/eyelashes! that would be awful). So I am no stranger to bucking the norm for appearance. But my experiences have shown me that every appearance can cause a reaction: I had friends who, because of my appearance, did not think they were attractive/cool/punk/alt/beautiful/daring/whatever enough. So just being myself was enough to tell other people "I don't like you" or "I'm better than you," when that was never even my intent. Just as with this: I'm only doing what I want, and stating my own opinions. Such is the discourse of a forum.
Anyway, I never meant to disrespect anyone else's choices. I just wanted to bring to the table that there are some of us who love body hair and think it's great. I wouldn't dream of the choice to shave, let alone the investment of work or some of the downsides (bumps, rash, ingrown hairs, stubble, time, cost--and yes, I know there are ways to eliminate or defeat these issues, as I said I have been there and done that). I have been with guys of all body shapes and types and I can say that I would prefer a guy who left at least some body hair, but that could all be swayed by the guy and his preferences and his style and his reasons for being himself and doing what he does. To each his own.
