I have a similar problem, where the proxy sensor will basically lock the screen in the turned off mode during a call and won't let you access the in call menu or anything until you force end the call. really sucks.
I'm curious if this could simply be a software issue and if a restore would fix it. Did you guys restore from a previous phone? I restored mine from a 3gs backup. I'm starting to feel that this issue isn't as widespread as the others as these threads are not growing very large. It is really annoying.
Anyone report this to Apple yet, or at minimum all the Apple iPhone blog sites?
Nobody will fix it unless it is reported.....