I got an original date of 10/4-10. My phone, like those of many others here, went PFS on 9/16, sat until it "shipped" 9/19. UPS gave me a delivery date of 9/22. Apple said it would be here 9/23. Last time I checked, my phone was sitting in Anchorage. I won't be here until next week. That is still ahead of the 10/4-10 dates, so I can live with that.
Crap happens. Attitude about how to handle that crap is key. Life goes on. You just have to keep using your old phone until the new one gets here. Not the worst thing one could encounter.