Sex in the Backseat! (I hate it!)

[renewed]

Exactly.

I may just call her up in a bit and post pone it till tomorrow afternoon. Who knows. I have to make a decision soon too.

Hell no. Like stated before, go have fun man and let it flow naturally. Over thinking too much isn't good. Also, why cancel a date with a chick because you may not have sex? Go out and at least enjoy the company of a (assuming) cute girl for the night and take on tomorrow when it gets here.

 

[Rhalliwell1]

Wow, I really hope you are kidding about this. I just about got kicked out of the library because I laughed so hard when I read it.

Seriously!? Thats hilarious!

i think because, people in europe would not care if they see people having sex outdoors.

They'd join in, It's called dogging.

I hate the backseat. But the thrill of the potential for getting caught makes it more exhilarating especially when you're dating the daughter of a bible thumping police officer.

However, I still vote backseat if you can't find a place to do it outside on a blanket. Hotels are sleazy.

Very comical!

To the OP: Enjoy your night and don't plan for sex, take condoms though! Maybe subtly mention your Mums in at home. She may ask you back to hers then... Or ask to go back to hers... thats gotta be better than saying "Wanna come back to my pla.... Car?"

But whatever happens, make sure you let us all know. We're all nosey bitches! (well i am.)

 

[GoCubsGo]

Amazing. You want to have sex on the first date and here you are saying a girl is sleazy if she agrees to go to a hotel that you would have asked her in the first place.

If I were a girl, I would think a guy wanting to have sex on the first date in the backseat of his car is as sleazy as it gets. In fact, I would ager that if she were to read this thread, she would lose interest in the date due to this mindset of "getting some"

Why not have the mindset of having a good time with girl, enjoying her company, than being primitive and only thinking of getting in her pants...

Sorry, your comment struck a nerve

Did some dude try to get you to have sex with him in the backseat of his car? Preach on sista!!!

If my girl was to say yes, considering tonight is our first date, I would immediately see her as being a bit sleezy herself.

Douchepocalypse man. You're the one worried about bringing her back to your mommy's house and somehow you're going to assume she is sleazy if she say ok? Is she perhaps on the Windows Forums asking what to do if asked to bump no-nos on the first date? Just curious.

Heres the thing. For me, I think I may just rather not have sex tonight...especially the first time. Iono, i'll report later on tonight.

Thanks still everyone!

So you'd rather not have sex? Good because I bet you don't get it. It's like this bipolar posting going on. First she is a sleaze if she were to even begin to put out but you'd rather not after all but then again you want to prepare should she want to then you may want to .... yeah you're not "27" as you said ... it's obvious.


Pics please, btw.

 

[tikidoc]

I obviously can't take her to a hotel. I know of one guy thats done this and he's only done it cause he's married and kinda sleezy. If my girl was to say yes, considering tonight is our first date, I would immediately see her as being a bit sleezy herself.

You would see her as sleazy if she goes to a hotel with you, yet you are posting about your reservations about having sex in a car on a first date on an internet computer forum? SERIOUSLY? Look in the mirror if you want to see sleazy.

 

[pilotError]

Did some dude try to get you to have sex with him in the backseat of his car? Preach on sista!!!


Douchepocalypse man. You're the one worried about bringing her back to your mommy's house and somehow you're going to assume she is sleazy if she say ok? Is she perhaps on the Windows Forums asking what to do if asked to bump no-nos on the first date? Just curious.


So you'd rather not have sex? Good because I bet you don't get it. It's like this bipolar posting going on. First she is a sleaze if she were to even begin to put out but you'd rather not after all but then again you want to prepare should she want to then you may want to .... yeah you're not "27" as you said ... it's obvious.


Pics please, btw.

Gotta Love Jessica.

Just look at her Avatar to see what your gonna be doing after that first date! LOL

 

[darkplanets]

More threads on MR need to be like this.

OP, I'm in a similar situation-- when I'm back from school for the summer I live with my parents and work-- there's nothing wrong with this, despite what everyone says. I have a place at school during the school year, and during the summer I crash at home (~500 mi away), thats what ~130k in student loans does for you.

During high school I was like you, I shagged in the back of cars, on cars, on the sides of roads, on minigolf fields, hell, even in front of a herd of cattle. I pretty much did it everywhere except my parents house or her house, because c'mon, we were in high school. (As a side note; vans = epic win back then, as removable back seats were sweeeet.) But that was highschool.

Now that I've been in college awhile, my apartment is the adobe for sex with the gf during the school year, and I'm in a similar position right now.

My advice?

Suck it up. Cars the last option, especially if you're trying to be "classy", and so is that basement. That should be the second to last choice. Shoot for her house, or if that's her parent's too, outside. Being outside on a clear night is actually really quite nice, try it and enjoy the beauty of nature/the stars. If she's a special girl, maybe get a hotel room, but that really depends more on the girl and what she'll interpret it as.

But that's all assuming I'd behave like you, which I don't. The above are the best options for you, for your preferences and needs.
Below, I'm going to be a pretentious ******* and judge you based on my standards. You can ignore this, as the upper half was what you were looking for.

With that said, some food for thought:

Is having sex on the first date really that important? (The answer is no).

Should you have sex on the first date? (The answer is no, sex driven relationships never work out).

Is sex really important in a relationship? (People debate this all the time, I'd say its important but not paramount; you can't have sex all the time or forever).

Doesn't spending time with her count for more than the fulfillment of erroneous sexual agendas/desires? (Yes).

Does where you have sex really matter? (The answer is no, it shouldn't, it should be more about the interaction, emotions, and meaning than the location and sexual gratification associated with it).

Is judging a girl based on her choice of limited choices of places to have sex even valid? (No, it shouldn't matter what she does/doesn't pick, see the above.)

Are you sleazy for wanting to have car sex? (No, IMO nothings really "sleazy" provided the emotions are there, but judging her is sleazy, and expecting her to is sleazy, and doing it just for the sex and nothing else is sleazy).

But that's just me; there seems to be varied opinions here which is always healthy, as everyone is different and has their own moral, sexual, opinion-driven preferences

 

[ethical]

More threads on MR need to be like this.

OP, I'm in a similar situation-- when I'm back from school for the summer I live with my parents and work-- there's nothing wrong with this, despite what everyone says. I have a place at school during the school year, and during the summer I crash at home (~500 mi away), thats what ~130k in student loans does for you.

During high school I was like you, I shagged in the back of cars, on cars, on the sides of roads, on minigolf fields, hell, even in front of a herd of cattle. I pretty much did it everywhere except my parents house or her house, because c'mon, we were in high school. (As a side note; vans = epic win back then, as removable back seats were sweeeet.) But that was highschool.

Now that I've been in college awhile, my apartment is the adobe for sex with the gf during the school year, and I'm in a similar position right now.

My advice?

Suck it up. Cars the last option, especially if you're trying to be "classy", and so is that basement. That should be the second to last choice. Shoot for her house, or if that's her parent's too, outside. Being outside on a clear night is actually really quite nice, try it and enjoy the beauty of nature/the stars. If she's a special girl, maybe get a hotel room, but that really depends more on the girl and what she'll interpret it as.

But that's all assuming I'd behave like you, which I don't. The above are the best options for you, for your preferences and needs.
Below, I'm going to be a pretentious ******* and judge you based on my standards. You can ignore this, as the upper half was what you were looking for.

With that said, some food for thought:

Is having sex on the first date really that important? (The answer is no).

Should you have sex on the first date? (The answer is no, sex driven relationships never work out).

Is sex really important in a relationship? (People debate this all the time, I'd say its important but not paramount; you can't have sex all the time or forever).

Doesn't spending time with her count for more than the fulfillment of erroneous sexual agendas/desires? (Yes).

Does where you have sex really matter? (The answer is no, it shouldn't, it should be more about the interaction, emotions, and meaning than the location and sexual gratification associated with it).

Is judging a girl based on her choice of limited choices of places to have sex even valid? (No, it shouldn't matter what she does/doesn't pick, see the above.)

Are you sleazy for wanting to have car sex? (No, IMO nothings really "sleazy" provided the emotions are there, but judging her is sleazy, and expecting her to is sleazy, and doing it just for the sex and nothing else is sleazy).

But that's just me; there seems to be varied opinions here which is always healthy, as everyone is different and has their own moral, sexual, opinion-driven preferences

TLDNR


Like I said...take her to a club and do the nasty in the toilet.

 

[Leareth]

there is a difference between moving back to parents into my old room and moving in with parents in their one bedroom apt.

Sex on a first date ? wow high expectations.

after this thread I would definitely not go out with you, never mind do more.

are you sure you 21 ? You sound like a fresh out of high school teen

 

[GoCubsGo]

Gotta Love Jessica.

Just look at her Avatar to see what your gonna be doing after that first date! LOL

I lol'ed! One can only hope to be able to do that to themselves. Ball Licker™ is Legendary!

 

[colourfastt]

there is a difference between moving back to parents into my old room and moving in with parents in their one bedroom apt.

Sex on a first date ? wow high expectations.

after this thread I would definitely not go out with you, never mind do more.

are you sure you 21 ? You sound like a fresh out of high school teen[/QUOTE]

I thought only 16 yos had sex in the backseat of the car.

 

[h1w1nd]

Back seat is uncomfortable unless your in a big car.

Try the passenger seat, have her get on your reverse cowgirl!

Get one of those sun deflectors, and cover up the windows with your clothes... lol

 

[spillproof]

Very comical!

The first time I met her dad, our conversation somehow led to him talking about how Mary Magdalene was the town whore and what the "price" was for people who participated "in such acts."

 

[iBlue]

So I wake up to all these interesting answers...

I obviously can't take her to a hotel. I know of one guy thats done this and he's only done it cause he's married and kinda sleezy. If my girl was to say yes, considering tonight is our first date, I would immediately see her as being a bit sleezy herself.

As for wooded areas...not really. I mean, there will always be empty park parking lots but in truth it really is creepy. That and not optimal.

As John Hammond from Jurassic Park once said, "..Life finds a way."

Heres the thing. For me, I think I may just rather not have sex tonight...especially the first time. Iono, i'll report later on tonight.

Thanks still everyone!

Wait, so this is a first date and you're hoping enough to get some that you're actually trying to plan it out on a forum but paradoxically if she does give you some, she's a sleaze? http://upc.*************/uploads/smilies/insane.gif

I was foolishly under the impression that you two were actually seeing each other and just having the temporary dilemma of where to bump uglies while you're staying at your mom's. Would it also be foolish of me to get the impression that you might actually try getting to know her and seeing what happens from there before making wild assumptions and judgements about her character and what you two may or may not do?

i think because, people in europe would not care if they see people having sex outdoors.

in the states, they would call the cops and they would probably arrested for doing something "indecent".

Maybe but I'm pretty sure you can still be arrested for it here too. Generally (and stereotypically) Europeans do seem less uptight than Americans typically/stereotypically are about sex though.

 

[pilotError]

Uh Oh, the MR ladies have invaded the thread...

Your in for it now!

 

[mkrishnan]

I was foolishly under the impression that you two were actually seeing each other and just having the temporary dilemma of where to bump uglies while you're staying at your mom's. Would it also be foolish of me to get the impression that you might actually try getting to know her and seeing what happens from there before making wild assumptions and judgements about her character and what you two may or may not do?

Now where was that thread about the kid who was concerned about his girlfriend refusing to use condoms, or something like that, and they hadn't even been out on a date, yet?

Ahhh, good memories.

 

[iBlue]

Now where was that thread about the kid who was concerned about his girlfriend refusing to use condoms, or something like that, and they hadn't even been out on a date, yet?

Ahhh, good memories.

Really. SexRumors - where one can always count their chickens before they hatch.

 

[greygray]

This thread must include videos to have more page views than The Spaz's "blogs".

 

[rdowns]

Uh Oh, the MR ladies have invaded the thread...

Your in for it now!

If he was in for it, this thread wouldn't be necessary.

 

[Abstract]

You know, in my dreams, you mum finds out and gets involved.


Or just bang in the woods.

 

[pilotError]

You know, in my dreams, you mum finds out and gets involved.


Or just bang in the woods.

Ewww, creepy 3 way!

 

[eawmp1]

You know, in my dreams, you mum finds out and gets involved.


Or just bang in the woods.

Just don't forget to hide the body (?bodies) well.

 

[HappyDude20]

Update

Hey everyone, so man interesting answers. Let me clear somethings up first; of course these are my opinions, if yours may differ then I totally respect that too:

As for being 21 yrs of age and the whole seeing her as a sleeze ordeal..allow me to mention that I'm a guy that enjoys the chase. I like women to flaunt their sexuality and know I want it..it's all part of the experience. If a woman gives it up on the first night it's not that I don't respect her or anything like that; it's just that I crossed an important point in any relationship almost immediately. I was explaining this situation to a co-worker yesterday and she agreed that a relationship started on and based on orgasms never last.

The reason I decided to ask about this on MR is cause for the first time in months I really liked this girl. Take for example last month: I was dating my friend's co-worker who i'm sure any guy would rank this girl at least an 8+..and even though she was insanely attractive, this girl and I last month simply did not click on an emotional level and truthfully flat-out she just wasn't interesting. We did the first night and I only continued seeing her to see if our conversations would better, though they did not. This same girl I was seeing a month ago was very ditzy, unaware and could not stop talking about her favorite TV show, which @ the time was American Idol.

The girl I went out with last night was different and I kept wondering why I kept giving a damn..the answer was cause I liked her. We could speak for @ least an hour on end and it would seem like only 5 minutes cause our convos would go so smoothly..Our convos would consist of something abstact such as something with Anthropology and then a minute later we'd transfer to something as childish as the Power Rangers. This is why I asked this Q on MR's and also why I asked everyone @ work about this.

As for sex itself. Perhaps I am a bit confident and bit of a narcissist to assume for sex on the first date but thats only because its happened before. The plain reality is ppl my age like to have sex and it really isn't that tough start it.

So as for last night...

(I won't get too into details)

..But I pick her up. Minutes before picking her up I tell her I'm stuck on the freeway and a huge gas tanker explosion just occurred and was going to cancel our date. She was bummed but like 3 minutes later showed up at her door just to mess with her. We head on out and drive to Toys R' Us where the plan is she was to help me pick out a toy for little baby bro. That store is huge and we wasted almost an hour in there just running around, messing around with toys and starting to get a bit physical. I then tell her of this awesome place that serves the best cookies a few blocks away; rather than driving we walk a few blocks over there. Along the way is this sex shop, which of course I acted like I didn't know was there and in a spur-of-the-moment kinda thing we went inside. We spend about 15 minutes in there at first laughing at the toys but it did open up the convo for sex which was a great transition. We continued out walk to the dessert shop and finished our snacks before we even got back to the car...where we made out for about 10 minutes but then stopped her as I could tell we were both thirsty. She invited me to some nearby asian Tea shop where we got these really good honey milk teas that were so sweet. We took our drinks to this park nearby that has this huge hill which is where we planted ourselves and hung out. I we both had our iPod Touches on us so we opened up that star gazing app..of course we then made out for a bit but after 15 minutes the grass tends to feel to wet any annoying so went back to the car. We went to the back seat (me w/ only the intention of making out seeing as I really didn't want to have sex in the backseat) but of course after 15 minutes I couldn't take it anymore and we did end up having sex...my biggest pet peeve about sex in the back seat is that its not the greatest area to cuddle in after sex...but I digress.

Anywho, that's what happened and I'm actually really glad we did. It like, kinda cemented in the fact that we click so well together and that everything went well. I don't have to freak out whether we're gonna hang out again or not you know? I'm pretty sure we'll go out again.

Anywho...The end.

 

[dukebound85]

As for being 21 yrs of age and the whole seeing her as a sleeze ordeal..allow me to mention that I'm a guy that enjoys the chase. I like women to flaunt their sexuality and know I want it..it's all part of the experience. If a woman gives it up on the first night it's not that I don't respect her or anything like that; it's just that I crossed an important point in any relationship almost immediately. I was explaining this situation to a co-worker yesterday and she agreed that a relationship started on and based on orgasms never last.

hmm ok

The reason I decided to ask about this on MR is cause for the first time in months I really liked this girl. Take for example last month: I was dating my friend's co-worker who i'm sure any guy would rank this girl at least an 8+..and even though she was insanely attractive, this girl and I last month simply did not click on an emotional level and truthfully flat-out she just wasn't interesting. We did the first night and I only continued seeing her to see if our conversations would better, though they did not. This same girl I was seeing a month ago was very ditzy, unaware and could not stop talking about her favorite TV show, which @ the time was American Idol.

...

As for sex itself. Perhaps I am a bit confident and bit of a narcissist to assume for sex on the first date but thats only because its happened before. The plain reality is ppl my age like to have sex and it really isn't that tough start it.

So you have no issue sleeping with one on the first night? So you basically admitted you don't want a relationship as you yourself say they can't be based on "orgasms" and it is crossing an important part right away

Why does your post reek of hypocrisy to me at least? as you seem to imply you want a relationship but also just want to screw any attractive girl on the first night

So as for last night...

(I won't get too into details)

..But I pick her up. Minutes before picking her up I tell her I'm stuck on the freeway and a huge gas tanker explosion just occurred and was going to cancel our date. She was bummed but like 3 minutes later showed up at her door just to mess with her.

Really? I mean really?

We head on out and drive to Toys R' Us where the plan is she was to help me pick out a toy for little baby bro. That store is huge and we wasted almost an hour in there just running around, messing around with toys and starting to get a bit physical. I then tell her of this awesome place that serves the best cookies a few blocks away; rather than driving we walk a few blocks over there. Along the way is this sex shop, which of course I acted like I didn't know was there and in a spur-of-the-moment kinda thing we went inside. We spend about 15 minutes in there at first laughing at the toys but it did open up the convo for sex which was a great transition. We continued out walk to the dessert shop and finished our snacks before we even got back to the car...where we made out for about 10 minutes but then stopped her as I could tell we were both thirsty. She invited me to some nearby asian Tea shop where we got these really good honey milk teas that were so sweet. We took our drinks to this park nearby that has this huge hill which is where we planted ourselves and hung out. I we both had our iPod Touches on us so we opened up that star gazing app..of course we then made out for a bit but after 15 minutes the grass tends to feel to wet any annoying so went back to the car. We went to the back seat (me w/ only the intention of making out seeing as I really didn't want to have sex in the backseat) but of course after 15 minutes I couldn't take it anymore and we did end up having sex...my biggest pet peeve about sex in the back seat is that its not the greatest area to cuddle in after sex...but I digress.

Anywho, that's what happened and I'm actually really glad we did. It like, kinda cemented in the fact that we click so well together and that everything went well. I don't have to freak out whether we're gonna hang out again or not you know? I'm pretty sure we'll go out again.

Anywho...The end.

Sounds like you don't want a relationship but rather a **** buddy....

Just my thoughts

PS: Thanks for not giving us the details of like you said

 

[HappyDude20]

hmm ok


So you have no issue sleeping with one on the first night? So you basically admitted you don't want a relationship as you yourself say they can't be based on "orgasms" and it is crossing an important part right away

Why does your post reek of hypocrisy to me at least? as you seem to imply you want a relationship but also just want to screw any attractive girl on the first night


Really? I mean really?

Sounds like you don't want a relationship but rather a **** buddy....

Just my thoughts

PS: Thanks for not giving us the details of like you said

Hi.

Um let's see.. the whole thing about telling her there was a gas tanker explosion on the freeway was hilarious! I could tell she was bummed when I told her I had to cancel. And the look of surprise on her face when I picked her up. I gotta make it fun somehow.

Secondly, in terms of waiting for sex...I can do either or. But lets face it, if I'm in a situation for sex and I back out then i'm conveying i'm a weak guy. Yes, to a degree I did go in there expecting sex but hours before the date even began I went into it with the intention to just go with the flow.

In terms of w/e else was said, i'll just say that people are having sex all the time. What happened last night, happens. People all over are getting laid on a regular basis and are enjoying it. Last nite with her and I went very well, no problems at all.

I don't want a F-buddy, I'd very much enjoy a relationship with her. It's not all about if i'm "Boyfriend Material", many more things are taken into account...i'm sure from her end if she finds me compatible, sees me as a reliable mate, good sexually, makes her laugh..etc. I was considering the same things last night too.

Last things i'll say is:

It seems like you're attacking me as you may be seeing me as the default/cliche guy that will f*ck any girl he sees but its not really like that. It's just..i'm not one of those numerous nice guys that we sell shyfully walking around everywhere. Here's the thing..I'm fully aware that normally, an attractive girl has at least 3 guys that are constantly trying to get at her. If I didn't do all that I could to show her who I was last night, then more time would have elapsed and some other guy would've swooped in there. Perhaps I am that narcissistic but even though I don't know who these other guys are, I'm think i'm the best. I really am the sh*t. But thats me.

 

[dukebound85]

Last things i'll say is:

It seems like you're attacking me as you may be seeing me as the default/cliche guy that will f*ck any girl he sees but its not really like that. It's just..i'm not one of those numerous nice guys that we sell shyfully walking around everywhere. Here's the thing..I'm fully aware that normally, an attractive girl has at least 3 guys that are constantly trying to get at her. If I didn't do all that I could to show her who I was last night, then more time would have elapsed and some other guy would've swooped in there. Perhaps I am that narcissistic but even though I don't know who these other guys are, I'm think i'm the best. I really am the sh*t. But thats me.

I am not attacking you, just seems that you are contradicting yourself in portraying you want a relationship (or do you not?) and recognize that you can't have one when based on physical right away (as you said you and your co-worker have talked about) but you make it seem as if that is what your end goal on the first date no?

Regardless, there are many nice guys and girls who do not need to bang right away in order to be swept off their feet in terms of liking each other

Anyways, wish you luck in whatever you are seeking to find