Think she moved on, feel awful

[MacNut]

it’s not like she’s trying any less hard. She asked if I wanted children on our first date! Which isn’t a big deal but still

Did she say she wanted to have children with you or was she asking you a question if you wanted to have children.

 

[Hieveryone]

Did she say she wanted to have children with you or was she asking you a question if you wanted to have children.

Well she did say she was “tempted” to have sex with me while we were French kissing on first date But that we should wait bc it’s only our first date. I told her it’s up to you, of course.

 

[Apple_Robert]

If anyone has an answer to your question, it is the girl you went out with. If she was interested, she would have responded to you. If she was interested but had a concern, she should have responded to you.

If you need closure from strangers on this forum, the problem is you. You post with the mentality of a teenager, which I think you really are.

if your talk and actions on the dates were anything like the phoney baloney you post here, chances are she saw you for what you are, and decided she didn’t want any part of it.

 

[Strelok]

This reads like some Highschool story, but it’s most likely not 🤔

 

[Hieveryone]

If anyone has an answer to your question, it is the girl you went out with. If she was interested, she would have responded to you. If she was interested but had a concern, she should have responded to you.

If you need closure from strangers on this forum, the problem is you. You post with the mentality of a teenager, which I think you really are.

if your talk and actions on the dates were anything like the phoney baloney you post here, chances are she saw you for what you are, and decided she didn’t want any part of it.

I’m here to get answers as to possible reasons why I got ghosted. Not to convince people whether or not I’m lying.

like I said it’s been miserable for me for the past couple days and I just want to know why this happened.

whoever makes out, the last thing we did after a second date, then don’t hear from her.
This is beyond anything I’ve ever seen.

She really made it seem like she was sooo interested in me on our first date sitting at the restaurant for 4 hours then later when they closed we sat at their bar for a bit before leaving.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

it’s not like she’s trying any less hard. She asked if I wanted children on our first date! Which isn’t a big deal but still


I’m not trying to convince anybody I just want An answer.

like why? this is crazy. Never happened before

Perhaps she is just not that into you.

You know, it is entirely possible that she prefers - for example - a talented penniless artist with emotional intelligence to an ambitious, materialistic, Wall St millionaire.

I’m here to get answers as to possible reasons why I got ghosted. Not to convince people whether or not I’m lying.

like I said it’s been miserable for me for the past couple days and I just want to know why this happened.

whoever makes out, the last thing we did after a second date, then don’t hear from her.
This is beyond anything I’ve ever seen.

She really made it seem like she was sooo interested in me on our first date sitting at the restaurant for 4 hours then later when they closed we sat at their bar for a bit before leaving.

Have you ever ghosted anyone?

(At least, have you ever ghosted a "perfect 10"?

Naturally, and needless to say, I assume that you may well have ghosted mere passing eights).

 

[user_xyz]

On our first date we went to Nobu and spent 4 hours there. Afterwards we French kissed a few times and she went home.

Our second date was at one of Wolfgang Puck's restaurants but she wasn't in a great mood and the date was only 1.5 hours. I thought it went pretty bad. To my surprise we ended up making out at the end of it and she said text me, so I guess it went well in her mind.

I texted her shortly after making out but no reply, so I texted her again this morning and still no reply.

(Yes I had a mint before making out)

She wanted the big Italian Sausage!! 🙂

 

[Hieveryone]

Perhaps she is just not that into you.

You know, it is entirely possible that she prefers - for example - a talented penniless artist with emotional intelligence to an ambitious, materialistic, Wall St millionaire.


Have you ever ghosted anyone?

(At least, have you ever ghosted a "perfect 10"?

Naturally, and needless to say, I assume that you may well have ghosted mere passing eights).

I actually ghosted her. She wanted to go on a date several months ago. It’s a long story but I couldn’t at the time.
And she already knew who I was so if she wanted a penniless artist she wouldn’t have met me. She knows me from women she knows I’ve dated in the past, at least one.

and yes I’ve ghosted many, many women but have never been ghosted myself until now

 

[Apple_Robert]

I’m here to get answers as to possible reasons why I got ghosted. Not to convince people whether or not I’m lying.

like I said it’s been miserable for me for the past couple days and I just want to know why this happened.

whoever makes out, the last thing we did after a second date, then don’t hear from her.
This is beyond anything I’ve ever seen.

She really made it seem like she was sooo interested in me on our first date sitting at the restaurant for 4 hours then later when they closed we sat at their bar for a bit before leaving.

You just don't get it do you? There are no answers for you here. The answers are found in you and her. If she hasn't responded to you, she isn't interested in you any further. She doesn't owe you any explanation.

The way you have denigrated women (as a whole) in your posting history here, amongst other things, I don't know why you feel so bad that she made out with you as eagerly as you say you did.

If I had to take a guess based on just what you posted here, I would say you are the reason why there are no more dates. Your own words here shed light on your heart.

You said she mentioned being excited enough to possibly have sex and you said you were ok with it if she wanted to. She saw right through your hormonal reply.

If you were wanting to grow into a relationship with this girl, you don't do it by doing and saying what you did. She may have been testing you to see if you would show your true intentions, which you did. You grow into a relationship over time, much like how an oak tree develops deep broad roots to help withstand the varying toils of the conditions around it.

Time to mature, treat women with the respect they deserve, speak and act honestly with others, and maybe one day you will be capable of having a real meaningful, long-lasting relationship that is built on something besides pretentious behavior, vanity, and hormonal centeredness.

Sex is not the basis for a meaningful relationship. Anyone can have sex.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

I actually ghosted her. She wanted to go on a date several months ago. It’s a long story but I couldn’t at the time.

Karma, perhaps.

Think of it as karma.

And she already knew who I was so if she wanted a penniless artist she wouldn’t have met me. She knows me from women she knows I’ve dated in the past, at least one.

Well, it is entirely possible that she was simply satisfying her curiosity when she agreed to meet you, and nothing more.

You know, I have this theory that many of the great stories - eating that apple, opening that box, exploring that labyrinth - were all about satisfying curiosity rather than testing taboos or defying deities.

.........
and yes I’ve ghosted many, many women but have never been ghosted myself until now

So, what is your problem?

Sauce for the goose, extra spicy sauce for the gander.

 

[Hieveryone]

You just don't get it do you? There are no answers for you here. The answers are found in you and her. If she hasn't responded to you, she isn't interested in you any further. She doesn't owe you any explanation.

The way you have denigrated women (as a whole) in your posting history here, amongst other things, I don't know why you feel so bad that she made out with you as eagerly as you say you did.

If I had to take a guess based on just what you posted here, I would say you are the reason why there are no more dates. Your own words here shed light on your heart.

You said she mentioned being exited enough to possibly have sex and you said you were ok with it if she wanted to. She saw right through your hormonal reply.

If you were wanting to grow into a relationship with this girl, you don't do it by doing and saying what you did. She may have been testing you to see if you would show your true intentions, which you did. You grow into a relationship over time, much like how an oak tree develops deep broad roots to help withstand the varying toils of the conditions around it.

Time to mature, treat women with the respect they deserve, speak and act honestly with others, and maybe one day you will be capable of having a real meaningful, long-lasting relationship that is built on something besides pretentious behavior, vanity, and hormonal centeredness.

Sex is not the basis for a meaningful relationship. Anyone can have sex.

That’s not how it works unless you’re dating senior citizens

 

[TheAppleFairy]

You need to show her your bank account, she will come crawling back.

 

[MacNut]

That’s not how it works unless you’re dating senior citizens

What’s not how it works.

 

[Hieveryone]

Karma, perhaps.

Think of it as karma.



Well, it is entirely possible that she was simply satisfying her curiosity when she agreed to meet you, and nothing more.

You know, I have this theory that many of the great stories - eating that apple, opening that box, exploring that labyrinth - were all about satisfying curiosity rather than breaking taboos or defying deities.




So, what is your problem?

Sauce for the goose, extra spicy sauce for the gander.

I’m not sure I agree with the labyrinth part but the karma part and the spicy sauce part sounds fair enough to me. Oh well.

I’m starting to get over it. I don’t really care.

I’m a young person in 2019, so getting ghosted at least once is basically guaranteed

 

[ZeitGeist]

Perhaps you weren't at her level, you know, something along the lines of an accomplished male equivalent of a "10".

That’s be my guess, based on the rather immature behavior the OP is displaying over this. This whole thread sounds like a windup.

 

[ZeitGeist]

Sorry OP but these threads really are difficult to take seriously... your levels of materialism, narcissism and insecurity are more in line with what I'd expect as a wind-up rather than someone's earnest personality.

THIS!

 

[ZeitGeist]

like why? this is crazy. Never happened before

so, you’re basically 14-15 years old, since that, and your behavior, is congruent with that age range.

 

[Hieveryone]

AND

at least it happened with someone I’ve ghosted before too so I guess we’re even haha @Scepticalscribe

 

[ZeitGeist]

If you need closure from strangers on this forum, the problem is you. You post with the mentality of a teenager, which I think you really are.

Yep, THIS!

if your talk and actions on the dates were anything like the phoney baloney you post here, chances are she saw you for what you are, and decided she didn’t want any part of it.

Yep, if this situation were genuine, women can detect phoneys or unstable personalities ... that’s why she bailed.

 

[ZeitGeist]

....and yes I’ve ghosted many, many women but have never been ghosted myself until now

Yeah, this guy is a teenager.

Here, let me join that girl in ghosting your as well.

/unsubscribe

 

[Falhófnir]

Perhaps she is just not that into you.

You know, it is entirely possible that she prefers - for example - a talented penniless artist with emotional intelligence to an ambitious, materialistic, Wall St millionaire.


Have you ever ghosted anyone?

(At least, have you ever ghosted a "perfect 10"?

Naturally, and needless to say, I assume that you may well have ghosted mere passing eights).

You need to show her your bank account, she will come crawling back.

I struggle to believe OP is a Wall St high flyer, they tend to be the self-confident type with the gift of the gab. OP comes across as a bit of a nervous wreck who hides behind possessions to make up for his (own perceived) lack of interesting personality. Hence the 'will this phone colour make me look gay' type threads. In my experience at least a little bit of self confidence is necessary to woo a woman. Maybe this is where OP went wrong in this case? Again I'm probably being a bit harsh with this, but this thread is meaningless without examining this sort of thing.

 

[Ulenspiegel]

AND

at least it happened with someone I’ve ghosted before too so I guess we’re even haha @Scepticalscribe

Don't let it touch you. Not easy, I know.
People don't appreciate what they can easily get.
If she wants, she'll find you. If, not not worth a second of your time.

 

[TheAppleFairy]

I struggle to believe OP is a Wall St high flyer, they tend to be the self-confident type with the gift of the gab. OP comes across as a bit of a nervous wreck who hides behind possessions to make up for his (own perceived) lack of interesting personality. Hence the 'will this phone colour make me look gay' type threads. In my experience at least a little bit of self confidence is necessary to woo a woman. Maybe this is where OP went wrong in this case? Again I'm probably being a bit harsh with this, but this thread is meaningless without examining this sort of thing.

All I know is that if the OP told this girl about her allowance she wouldn't have ghosted him. I am not sure if $5k a month would be enough to date him though.

What do you think is a reasonable gift allowance for one these "sugar babys" or whatever if she's a college girl like lets say 20 years old and is super gorgeous. Like really really pretty. 5 grand a month?

 

[Scepticalscribe]

I struggle to believe OP is a Wall St high flyer, they tend to be the self-confident type with the gift of the gab. OP comes across as a bit of a nervous wreck who hides behind possessions to make up for his (own perceived) lack of interesting personality. Hence the 'will this phone colour make me look gay' type threads. In my experience at least a little bit of self confidence is necessary to woo a woman. Maybe this is where OP went wrong in this case? Again I'm probably being a bit harsh with this, but this thread is meaningless without examining this sort of thing.

And what many (men) seem to overlook, confidence doesn't necessarily mean cocky or demanding or arrogant or entitled.

Confidence can include the ability to indulge in witty and urbane self-deprecation - a man who can laugh at himself while including you in the joke can be a very attractive companion indeed.

But, yes, I am in agreement with you.

Don't let it touch you. Not easy, I know.
People don't appreciate what they can easily get.
If she wants, she'll find you. If, not not worth a second of your time.

Take a look at some of the OP's earlier threads.

 

[Hieveryone]

Don't let it touch you. Not easy, I know.
People don't appreciate what they can easily get.
If she wants, she'll find you. If, not not worth a second of your time.

Yeah I’m over it I don’t really care that much anymore.

I just mentally Broke down because things seemed so great and I’ve never been ghosted in my life

but at least I can say I’m officially a young person in 2019 because EVERYONE has been ghosted at least once these days

I struggle to believe OP is a Wall St high flyer, they tend to be the self-confident type with the gift of the gab. OP comes across as a bit of a nervous wreck who hides behind possessions to make up for his (own perceived) lack of interesting personality. Hence the 'will this phone colour make me look gay' type threads. In my experience at least a little bit of self confidence is necessary to woo a woman. Maybe this is where OP went wrong in this case? Again I'm probably being a bit harsh with this, but this thread is meaningless without examining this sort of thing.

IMO Wall Street guys are the most narcissistic, self entitled, jerks you will ever meet. they care for no one but themselves. I’m talking about the successful ones.

The losers are also arrogant though bc they think they’ll make it one day