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I've been following along with this thread mostly for the same reason that I can't help rubber-necking when I see a car crash.

To be honest, I'd have been done with her after the first round of "ghosting"-I don't have any patience to play games. I agree with the other assesments that, from the sidelines, despite what she may say, she seems to just want someone to take her out for a nice dinner/a good time and not want the attachment of a relationship. If her doing this causes anxiety, which it sounds like it does, she's not worth having in your life. I've dated girls where the entire relationship was a roller coaster, and even though I was devastated when they ended, in the rear view I can see that it was NOT good for me.

One of the things that I'm really glad of with my fiancé(still getting use to calling her that) is that she's never played games-our feelings about each other were pretty much straight out and on the table from the beginning, and her actions backed up what she said(and I'd like to think my actions did/do also).
 
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bunnspecial said:
I've been following along with this thread mostly for the same reason that I can't help rubber-necking when I see a car crash.

To be honest, I'd have been done with her after the first round of "ghosting"-I don't have any patience to play games. I agree with the other assesments that, from the sidelines, despite what she may say, she seems to just want someone to take her out for a nice dinner/a good time and not want the attachment of a relationship. If her doing this causes anxiety, which it sounds like it does, she's not worth having in your life. I've dated girls where the entire relationship was a roller coaster, and even though I was devastated when they ended, in the rear view I can see that it was NOT good for me.

One of the things that I'm really glad of with my fiancé(still getting use to calling her that) is that she's never played games-our feelings about each other were pretty much straight out and on the table from the beginning, and her actions backed up what she said(and I'd like to think my actions did/do also).
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i feel you brother.

I think your opinion is the “right” one meaning most guys would agree with you.

but for me personally, I really like this girl. I think she’s greaT. It’s hard to put a value on the X factor and why we are attracted to people for reasons no one else can understand.

i guess if we’re happy at the end of the day, that’s what matters most.
 
Zenithal said:
Perhaps take a page out of Romeo and Juliet and consume a vial of bitter liquid?
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Hieveryone said:
i haven’t see that movie so I don’t know what you mean haha
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Actually, originally, it was - and is - a play.

One that has indeed - subsequently - been made into both a ballet (very impressive) and a number of movies (more or less, meh).

Written by a chap from an attractive provincial town named Stratford-on-Avon who moved to London to make a career in the arts as an actor and playwright.

@bunnspecial: Read some of the other threads that the OP has written over the years.

The expression needy narcissism doesn't begin to do justice to some of these threads.

To the OP: You say you have gainful employment, while the lady who occasionally ghosts you is a student.

Riddle me this, as enquiring minds wish to know: Have you ever dated a lady who was actually gainfully professionally employed?
 
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Hieveryone said:
I think it’s important to show you do care, but not to a point where you’re desperate bc she knows I can get other girls. She even said that and she knows at least 2 girls I’ve dated in the past. If not 2, then definitely at least 1 because she mentioned her haha.
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Hieveryone said:
I’m starting to get over it. I don’t really care.
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Hieveryone said:
Yeah I’m over it I don’t really care that much anymore.
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Hieveryone said:
but it ain’t even about that like Idont care.

i just wanted it to work out and wanted to know why it didn’t but whatever I’m so over it

I don’t care anymore I’ll find someone else
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Hieveryone said:
well I ghosted her first a few months ago. But I don’t care about my ego it’s honestly not about that.
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Hieveryone said:
before theI do stuff I don’t care but after it gets heated I start develop the feels
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Hieveryone said:
Yeah I woke up pretty anxious like Its pretty severe.
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and another thought that crosses my mind is, who cares.
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The lady doth protest too much, methinks.
 
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@bunnspecial: Read some of the other threads that the OP has written over the years.

The expression needy narcissism doesn't begin to do justice to some of these threads.
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Oh indeed-I've been reading with amusement for years.

Just a few years ago, I seem to recall the OP bragging about how girls were throwing themselves at him when he drove down Wall Street in an E-Class.

I seem to recall a few other disturbing threads about things like wanting a trophy wife/girlfriend/whatever that he gave an "allowance" every week to do what she wanted to with.

I'm not @A.Goldberg but I think "delusions of grandeur" might also be an appropriate description of one of the OP's ailments.
 
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Things aren’t going smooth.

idk, I’ve been taking my “as needed” anti anxiety pill my doctor prescribed.

I’ve been needing it a lot more this past week.

this isn’t fun
 
TheAppleFairy said:
Just buy her a Honda Civic, then ghost her. She will get over it faster and civics are not too expensive.
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i just had a weak moment.

I know everything will be fine again.

she just likes drama. Drama queen lol.
But I’m drama king so I guess it’s a good match
 
I just feel like when everything is going good then I’m happy but then again some small drama here and there.

she hasn’t ghosted though. She’s been texting nonstop everyday and night

(Mostly night)
 
Hieveryone said:
On our first date we went to Nobu and spent 4 hours there. Afterwards we French kissed a few times and she went home.

Our second date was at one of Wolfgang Puck's restaurants but she wasn't in a great mood and the date was only 1.5 hours. I thought it went pretty bad. To my surprise we ended up making out at the end of it and she said text me, so I guess it went well in her mind.

I texted her shortly after making out but no reply, so I texted her again this morning and still no reply.

(Yes I had a mint before making out)
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A lot of women just don't give a darn anymore (note the divorce rate and the highest number of singles ever) Next time just meet for coffee. If coffee isn't enough for her, then you'll know for sure there's no need to waste your time.
 
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Hieveryone said:
bruh I think you’re on to something because this sounds exactly like my situation.

I feel like she’s controlling me because she’s super hot and dresses like a...”professional” even though she’s not at all lol

Massive heels, red lipstick, etc
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A Prostitute possibly?
 
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Well, while reading this thread, I have been sorely tempted - and have heroically resisted such temptation until now - to quote D H Lawrence - and no, this is not a quote from Lady Chatterley's Lover: Instead, it comes from one of his short stories, where the male of a pair of well matched lovers observes to his (female) partner: "Even the viper finds his mate and she has as much poison in her mouth as he has."
 
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Scepticalscribe said:
Well, while reading this thread, I have been sorely tempted - and have heroically resisted such temptation until now - to quote D H Lawrence - and no, this is not a quote from Lady Chatterley's Lover: Instead, it comes from one of his short stories, where the male of a pair of well matched lovers observes to his (female) partner: "Even the viper finds his mate and she has as much poison in her mouth as he has."
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I’m not a poem genius but IF I understood it right then I think it is accurate
 
I’ve honestly been able to handle everything a lot better.

It’s been about month.

more recently we’ve been talking everyday

still ups and downs but I don’t think they’re as bad as it was originally and I also am kind of used to it.

I also decided a couple days ago to take that medication my doctor prescribed to use as needed for anxiety. I plan on using it more frequently so will see a doctor to get more of it.

another thing I’ve noted is that I usually save a good bit of money every month. I like to save money while making sure I enjoy life reasonably well too. I still am saving decent sums of money overall but it is definitely less.

the main reason being is I got another place closer to town and it costs me a lot. But it’s 2 bedroom, has a nice hallway, great location, restaurant, bar, everything. It’s perfect :)
 
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Hieveryone said:
another thing I’ve noted is that I usually save a good bit of money every month. I like to save money while making sure I enjoy life reasonably well too. I still am saving decent sums of money overall but it is definitely less.

the main reason being is I got another place closer to town and it costs me a lot. But it’s 2 bedroom, has a nice hallway, great location, restaurant, bar, everything. It’s perfect :)
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