Think she moved on, feel awful

[Scepticalscribe]

I have not been needing too much of my anti anxiety prescription. In fact, I only took it once in the recent week or two

So, are you still "gonna leave sooner" and are you still "looking for other girls"?

How can she know that you are "the one"?

What do you bring to this (transactional) relationship since she doesn't seem to want whatever financial goods you claim to be able to bring to this relationship?

 

[Hieveryone]

So, are you still "gonna leave sooner" and are you still "looking for other girls"?

How can she know that you are "the one"?

What do you bring to this (transactional) relationship since she doesn't seem to want whatever financial goods you claim to be able to bring to this relationship?

who knows? Haha

 

[Hieveryone]

I will say that @bunnspecial post about anti-anxiety medication has many truths in it.

I haven't needed it because everything is going fine with this girl, but boy would I love to take some anyway lol. But I'm not going to.

life just seems much more fun with it in my system. Definitely love it.

I have a doctor's appointment coming up which I made awhile ago to ask for more. I only have 1 left actually. I used it up quicker than I thought. One day I was like "where did they go???"

Was debating not even going though and just cancelling the appt. since I haven't really needed it recently

I've just gotten used to the drama haha and it no longer drives me as nuts *knock on wood*

 

[Hieveryone]

I'm looking for a new girl and have decided to move on. It's over.

 

[0388631]

Might I suggest taking a vow of chastity whilst you find yourself once again, young lad.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

I'm looking for a new girl and have decided to move on. It's over.

Quelle surprise.

Might I suggest taking a vow of chastity whilst you find yourself once again, young lad.

The Jesuits swore by cold showers, I seem to recall.

 

[Huntn]

Quelle surprise.



The Jesuits swore by cold showers, I seem to recall.

Now that made me laugh.

 

[Huntn]

I'm looking for a new girl and have decided to move on. It's over.

Might I suggest taking a vow of chastity whilst you find yourself once again, young lad.

Now might be an appropriate time as any to offer this valuable Don advice, but it’s adult in nature: 😁

Spoiler: Something About Mary

Dom : You choke the chicken before any big date, don't you? Tell me you spank the monkey before any big date. Oh my God, he doesn't flog the dolphin before a big date. Are you crazy? That's like going out there with a loaded gun! Of course that's why you're nervous. Oh my dear friend, please sit, please. Look, um, after you've had sex with a girl, and you're lying in bed with her, are you nervous? No, you're not, why?

Ted : Cause I'm tired...

Dom : Wrong! It's 'cause you ain't got the baby batter on the brain anymore! Jesus, that stuff will **** you're head up! Look, the most honest moment in a man's life are the few minutes after he's blown his load - now that is a medical fact. And the reason for it is that you're no longer trying to get laid, you're actually... you're thinking like a girl, and girls love that

 

[0388631]

The Jesuits swore by cold showers, I seem to recall.

I don't know if this is fact or not, but my post was somewhat serious. Slinking from relationship to relationship isn't very healthy for anyone's mental health. A cool off period where an individual can find themselves, maybe do a bit of travel can help tremendously. In the grand scheme of things, the problem with people and not necessarily young people such as the OP is they go head first into a relationship thinking the other individual is the one, their true soulmate. That isn't the case. Rarely is it in fact.

 

[D.T.]

Might I suggest taking a vow of chastity whilst you find yourself once again, young lad.

Heck, I was thinking he should follow Mark Hanna's advice in The Wolf of Wall Street and go the __other__way (his, ummm, methodology doesn't require a partner )

 

[Scepticalscribe]

I don't know if this is fact or not, but my post was somewhat serious. Slinking from relationship to relationship isn't very healthy for anyone's mental health. A cool off period where an individual can find themselves, maybe do a bit of travel can help tremendously. In the grand scheme of things, the problem with people and not necessarily young people such as the OP is they go head first into a relationship thinking the other individual is the one, their true soulmate. That isn't the case. Rarely is it in fact.

I'm not sure that we can dignify the form of encounters that the OP has been engaged in with the noun "relationships".

Even before he thinks to resume "slinking from relationship to relationship", he might want to give consideration - or thought - as to how he views women.

When women are viewed solely as arm candy, or trophies, or "hot women", - something to validate the ego of the OP, - the challenges of building or crafting a genuine "relationship" - one that calls for greater reciprocity than the old traditional trade of "my money for your looks" - may require skills apparently in short supply at present.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

I'm looking for a new girl and have decided to move on. It's over.

Riddle me this: Did she end it, or did you terminate matters?

Or, was it a decision arrived at by mutual agreement?

 

[Hieveryone]

Riddle me this: Did she end it, or did you terminate matters?

Or, was it a decision arrived at by mutual agreement?

I’m the one who decided to move on but changed my mind.

we’re still on for now, but I’ve started seeing girls from my past too and I just told her directly that I’m hanging out with friends from my past. she knows they’re girls.

I’d rather be straight about what I’m unhappy about with her and tell her directly what I’m gonna do to fix it. if she wants to continue fine and if not I don’t care.
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I don't know if this is fact or not, but my post was somewhat serious. Slinking from relationship to relationship isn't very healthy for anyone's mental health. A cool off period where an individual can find themselves, maybe do a bit of travel can help tremendously. In the grand scheme of things, the problem with people and not necessarily young people such as the OP is they go head first into a relationship thinking the other individual is the one, their true soulmate. That isn't the case. Rarely is it in fact.

I love the drama though...that’s 90% of the fun

 

[dukebound85]

I'm looking for a new girl and have decided to move on. It's over.

meanwhile I had a hamburger for lunch

 

[ericwn]

I’m the one who decided to move on but changed my mind.

What a difference a day makes. Hilarious.

 

[Hieveryone]

What a difference a day makes. Hilarious.

well I’m still moving on in the sense I’m looking for someone new and reconnecting with girls from my past but keeping her too, unless she moves - then fine i don’t care

and I’m fairly open about It without being rude to her bc id rather just be honest.

Why lie about these things or hide it?

at least if you’re honest there’s a chance things will change and if it stays the same and things aren’t meant to work it’s best to find out ASAP and move on with life

 

[Scepticalscribe]

well I’m still moving on in the sense I’m looking for someone new and reconnecting with girls from my past but keeping her too, unless she moves - then fine i don’t care

and I’m fairly open about It without being rude to her bc id rather just be honest.

Why lie about these things or hide it?

at least if you’re honest there’s a chance things will change and if it stays the same and things aren’t meant to work it’s best to find out ASAP and move on with life

And if she is also exploring other options, - while simultaneously stoking the flames of endless drama that you both seem to find so compelling - I assume that you are perfectly fine with that?

 

[retta283]

I'm not sure that we can dignify the form of encounters that the OP has been engaged in with the noun "relationships".

Even before he thinks to resume "slinking from relationship to relationship", he might want to give consideration - or thought - as to how he views women.

When women are viewed solely as arm candy, or trophies, or "hot women", - something to validate the ego of the OP, - the challenges of building or crafting a genuine "relationship" - one that calls for greater reciprocity than the old traditional trade of "my money for your looks" - may require skills apparently in short supply at present.

I've seen this too many times. I've known a lot of guys who have wives that are not very bright, they are mostly just eye candy for the men. It's really wild how many people will date a girl for looks only. I want my partner to be somebody I can hold a good conversation with, and somebody who is able to impart some knowledge onto me. I of course, try to do the same.

 

[Hieveryone]

I've seen this too many times. I've known a lot of guys who have wives that are not very bright, they are mostly just eye candy for the men. It's really wild how many people will date a girl for looks only. I want my partner to be somebody I can hold a good conversation with, and somebody who is able to impart some knowledge onto me. I of course, try to do the same.

if you’ve actually dated the women you call not smart, you would know just HOW smart they are.

Wrapping a wealthy man around your little pinkie is no easy task for any woman to accomplish
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And if she is also exploring other options, - while simultaneously stoking the flames of endless drama that you both seem to find so compelling - I assume that you are perfectly fine with that?

yes I actually mentioned that already When we got into an argument a few weeks ago but she didn’t like it

 

[1196403]

Did you have a mint during both kisses? Maybe she would have preferred your natural breath instead of something artificial?

 

[Scepticalscribe]

if you’ve actually dated the women you call not smart, you would know just HOW smart they are.

There are different kinds of "smart".

I think what you have argued is "smart", is one kind of "smart", but this is not - I submit - what @retta283 has in mind; what he is describing is an intellectual partnership of equals for whom intellectual engagement and exchange is a core part of the relationship (and is also something with which I would find myself in complete agreement).

Wrapping a wealthy man around your little pinkie is no easy task for any woman to accomplish

Actually, it is dead easy when the transaction or trade in question - for both parties - is "your looks for my money".

yes I actually mentioned that already When we got into an argument a few weeks ago but she didn’t like it

So, it is okay for you to roam but not her?

Double standards, my boy.

Sauce for goose, double helping of seriously spiced sauce for gander.

 

[Hieveryone]

There are different kinds of "smart".

I think what you have argued "smart" is one kind of "smart", but this is not - I submit - what @retta283 has in mind; what he is describing is an intellectual partnership of equals for whom intellectual engagement and exchange is a core part of the relationship (and is also something with which I would find myself in complete agreement).




Actually, it is dead easy when the transaction or trade in question - for both parties - is "your looks for my money".




So, it is okay for you to roam but not her?

Double standards, my boy.

Sauce for goose, double helping of seriously spiced sauce for gander.

most people in their early 20s aren’t interested in Socrates.

I think dating for people who are older like in their 50s or something might be more keen on intlectual conversations.
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There are different kinds of "smart".

I think what you have argued "smart" is one kind of "smart", but this is not - I submit - what @retta283 has in mind; what he is describing is an intellectual partnership of equals for whom intellectual engagement and exchange is a core part of the relationship (and is also something with which I would find myself in complete agreement).




Actually, it is dead easy when the transaction or trade in question - for both parties - is "your looks for my money".




So, it is okay for you to roam but not her?

Double standards, my boy.

Sauce for goose, double helping of seriously spiced sauce for gander.

I said YES it is IS ok for her to roam around

But when I told her idc if you see other guys she didn’t like it
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There are different kinds of "smart".

I think what you have argued is "smart", is one kind of "smart", but this is not - I submit - what @retta283 has in mind; what he is describing is an intellectual partnership of equals for whom intellectual engagement and exchange is a core part of the relationship (and is also something with which I would find myself in complete agreement).




Actually, it is dead easy when the transaction or trade in question - for both parties - is "your looks for my money".




So, it is okay for you to roam but not her?

Double standards, my boy.

Sauce for goose, double helping of seriously spiced sauce for gander.

And no it’s not that easy bc while you may think it’s a transaction in your mind, in reality it is not that simple at all.
It’s all to easy for people to stereotype “her looks” for “his money” but the real world is different than whatever magazine article you’re reading these false narratives from

 

[Scepticalscribe]

most people in their early 20s aren’t interested in Socrates.

I was interested in Socrates as a teenager.

most people in their early 20s aren’t interested in Socrates.

I think dating for people who are older like in their 50s or something might be more keen on intlectual conversations.

No, teens, and twenties, and thirties, and forties.......and yes, of course, fifties.

For me, even as an undergrad, the musical (and political) preferences of an individual (male), mattered enormously - and I expected someone to be able to converse intelligently in full sentences while defending their stance; other things that mattered were a sense of humour, generosity (emotional generosity is what I have in mind here, lest a gold digging narrative be suggested), kindness, knowledge of books, (and maybe movies, and of course music), serious knowledge of history, interest in the world, good food.......

And yes, some knowledge of political philosophy never went amiss.

 

[Hieveryone]

I was interested in Socrates as a teenager.



No, teens, and twenties, and thirties, and forties.......and yes, of course, fifties.

For me, even as an undergrad, the musical (and political) preferences of an individual (male), mattered enormously - and I expected someone to be able to converse intelligently in full sentences while defending their stance; other things that mattered were a sense of humour, generosity (emotional generosity is what I have in mind here, lest a gold digging narrative be suggested), kindness, knowledge of books, (and maybe movies, and of course music), serious knowledge of history, interest in the world, good food.......

And yes, some knowledge of political philosophy never went amiss.

I said MOST people.

 

[retta283]

most people in their early 20s aren’t interested in Socrates.

I think dating for people who are older like in their 50s or something might be more keen on intlectual conversations.
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I said YES it is IS ok for her to roam around

But when I told her idc if you see other guys she didn’t like it
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And no it’s not that easy bc while you may think it’s a transaction in your mind, in reality it is not that simple at all.
It’s all to easy for people to stereotype “her looks” for “his money” but the real world is different than whatever magazine article you’re reading these false narratives from

Unless there has been a drastic shift since the late 1970s and I am blind to it, even somebody in their early 20s will want a partner that is at least somewhat intelligent. There will not be much depth or development if it is basically a sexual relationship. I do of course understand that younger people may put more value on looks, but there needs to be more substance for a true, long lasting relationship.