I like your response and now I feel that we are on the same page even though we disagree on certain parts.
$89 vs $890
I don't think its fair to scale the price of a gift based on the amount of money you make. In general it works for certain things but in general just because I make 10x more doesn't mean the gift should cost 10x more.
On your example, I think $89 is what it should be regardless if you earn $25k or $250k a year.
Why? Just because I can afford to buy something for my kid doesn't mean I should.
It has to be proportional not to your salary but to the kid and kid's age (and needs).
As for crappy jobs - well, here is another look. Having crappy job and having that experience often teaches us more than just value for money. It teaches us that nothing is perfect and that life is not always easy, It teaches us how to deal with these kinda situation and circumstances. It helps us grow as people and it often gives us better insight overall. Living in a bubble created and protected by parents is not really preparing us for the 'real' world. Yes, the kid may never need to know these things but that is for another discussion.
Here is another thought for a discussion. When we were kids we were taught how to use practical thinking, boy scout taught us how to survive in nature, start fire when its raining etc.
Kids these days don't know these things and you can rightfully say that you can find all the info on google which is correct. However, have a kid that is in outdoor, accident happen and phone battery is empty - that kid is most likely ****ed!
(exaggerated for demonstration but I think you understand my point)
Regardless, I think there should be balance so yeah, teach a kid how to make $1000 is great point and I like your thinking there but also, teach your kid that not everything is perfect and how to deal with it is also great point. The more experience the better, right? Consumerism is not helping anyone and it creates false impression about things.
Anyway, all good here.
$89 vs $890
I don't think its fair to scale the price of a gift based on the amount of money you make. In general it works for certain things but in general just because I make 10x more doesn't mean the gift should cost 10x more.
On your example, I think $89 is what it should be regardless if you earn $25k or $250k a year.
Why? Just because I can afford to buy something for my kid doesn't mean I should.
It has to be proportional not to your salary but to the kid and kid's age (and needs).
As for crappy jobs - well, here is another look. Having crappy job and having that experience often teaches us more than just value for money. It teaches us that nothing is perfect and that life is not always easy, It teaches us how to deal with these kinda situation and circumstances. It helps us grow as people and it often gives us better insight overall. Living in a bubble created and protected by parents is not really preparing us for the 'real' world. Yes, the kid may never need to know these things but that is for another discussion.
Here is another thought for a discussion. When we were kids we were taught how to use practical thinking, boy scout taught us how to survive in nature, start fire when its raining etc.
Kids these days don't know these things and you can rightfully say that you can find all the info on google which is correct. However, have a kid that is in outdoor, accident happen and phone battery is empty - that kid is most likely ****ed!
(exaggerated for demonstration but I think you understand my point)
Regardless, I think there should be balance so yeah, teach a kid how to make $1000 is great point and I like your thinking there but also, teach your kid that not everything is perfect and how to deal with it is also great point. The more experience the better, right? Consumerism is not helping anyone and it creates false impression about things.
Anyway, all good here.
that is correct..
however, it's all relative.
my parents were broke.. they made maybe $25,000/year (in today's money)..
my 'big' xmas gift would be something like an $89 bike from kmart..
i'll assume an $89 gift is something you'd consider acceptable, correct?
but, let's say they made $250k/yr.. then, buying an $890 item is equivalent to my parents buying an $89 item.
in a society with a different type of money distribution (in simple terms, say, communism instead of capitalism) then your argument holds more weight.. but in the society many/most of us are in right now, it's not really saying much and you're instead speaking of your personal experience as if it's the same for everyone else.. you're judging what someone else should buy based on the amount of money you're personally familiar with.. which is a mistake (imo).
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but again, as said by me a few times in this thread.. i didn't buy my childs' phone(s) (i have two daughters)... i pay their phone bill but the physical phones aren't bought by me.. their original phones were but they've since upgraded, a few times, on their own dime.
kids can earn money.. and considerably more than 'pennies'.
i think a key difference between my parenting style and that of those who are offended by my original post regarding this is:
they'll encourage a kid to get a paper route job in which they'll have to wake up at 3am, pack papers, deliver them to houses before anybody else wakes up, get back home by 7am.. and have 50 bucks to save that week..
then these particular adults are further encouraging by being proud of the kid as they're learning some sort of valuable life lesson.. etc.
whereas i-- would make the kid get the paper route job.. just so they can experience what a crappy job that is and the amount of time spent is a complete rip off considering the amount of spending power received.. their time, even as a child
idk, if you teach a kid to get a crappy job that's hardly enjoyable/stimulating and pays very little... and that this is a good thing.. well.. you figure out the rest but it's likely this lesson youre teaching is going to carry with them their entire life.
cool.
you could also show them how to earn $1000.. exploit the fact that they're 11 and that there are certain jobs for 11 year olds which can't be done by a 16+ year old..
teach the kid how to make money.
or, just tell them they're crazy instead.. up to you.