I’ve had the Pro Max two years running now and have to say you do not get used to the size lol. You get used to (and love!) the screen real estate, especially when compared to the Pro.So I am guessing the pro max you prefer?
The pro max is perfect apart from the size imo
it is uncomfortable to hold/
But the size and ‘uncomfortableness’ to hold stays with you. I don’t even use a case and I find it a tad awkward - using a MagSafe wallet helps with the grip though!