Having read through (almost) the entire thread I felt complelled to reply.
Ordered my iPhone 4S last Friday, around 11:00 and received the confirmation. Status of the order remains at Processing Items Dispatched: Ships by October 14th.
The odd thing for me is that they appeared to have reserved the cash out of my account over the weekend and up until yesterday, now it looks like that has been released. Maybe they just do a quick check to ensure that the funds are available, who knows?
Will I be disappointed if my shiny new iPhone doesn't arrive on Friday? Yes of course. Will it influence my decision to buy Apple products in the future, particularly on a pre-order basis? That is doubtful, providing Apple continue to release the products I want or at least that I think I want then I'll continue to be a loyal customer.
I completely understand everyone's concerns and am continuing to hit refresh on the order page but at the end of the day I will have to wait and see. If it doesn't arrive then life will go on and I'll just wait... for sure I won't be going and purchasing another one on the day to then have to return the pre-ordered one at a later date.