I pre-ordered a 64 GB black iPhone 5 about four hours after they went on sale. I received the pre-order confirmation with a delivery date of 9/21. At this time, my status page still shows that my order is in process and lists a ship date of 9/21. My card has not yet been charged.
I'm in the same boat as a lot of other people, and I know it can be frustrating to know that so many people are getting their confirmation numbers, but it really doesn't make a difference. If your confirmation shows a delivery date of 9/21, then you should be fine.
Verizon is getting probably two million phones ready to be shipped within just a few days, and it takes time. As it gets done and the database gets updated, emails go out. Since so many of the phones are going out overnight, though, it really doesn't matter if they got shipped yesterday or if some of us have to wait until tomorrow. They will arrive when they are supposed to, for the most part.
Patience.