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You hit the nail right on the head. I really don’t care about sports, either. I know some people think they’re a big deal and obsess over everything related, but I just think it’s a waste of time. It’s like television for me. TV shows are a waste of time, and so are sports (and therefore sports on TV, too).

Of course sports are a good conversation starter/something to talk about, but I just don’t get it, and I talk to people about other things.

My high school was a BIG sports school, in that nearly everyone was an athlete themselves, and they’d also obsess over the Super Bowl, etc. (I was also only one of two musicians there, but that’s another discussion.)
Yeah, TV is a complete waste of time. I hardly ever watch anything on TV. My high school was also a big sports school as well, all my friends back then were absolutely glued to Football. Never understood any of it. I always thought there were more important things in life.
 
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What’s on my mind? Nothing good. I’ve really had enough of today already….. Hopefully tomorrow is better. Suspect it won’t be.
Well, daffodils, blood oranges, and shortbread (as I also bought some shortbread over the weekend) are all on my mind.

While blood oranges - which I love and am devouring in vast quantities - are currently in season, for me, shortbread season is, well, short: Basically, in essence, it runs from mid, or late, November to early March.
 
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Well, daffodils, blood oranges, and shortbread (as I also bought some shortbread over the weekend) are all on my mind.

While blood oranges - which I love and am devouring in vast quantities - are currently in season, for me, shortbread season is, well, short: Basically, in essence, it runs from mid, or late, November to early March.
You remind me of my favorite fruit. The Pomelo.
 
Just pointing out here in the northeast the temps have been quite low. My heat is on constantly and it fails to keep the house warm. So the heating bill is definitely on my mind and its going to be an expensive February.
Whenever I think of the heat that I'm using and which is running up my bill, I prefer to think it's cheaper than the cost to repair the damage from frozen water pipes.
What’s on my mind? Nothing good. I’ve really had enough of today already….. Hopefully tomorrow is better. Suspect it won’t be.

Not with THAT attitude!
 
My morning citrus juice comprised three oranges (two ordinary oranges and one blood orange), one lemon, and one pink grapefruit, all of which I took an almost atavistic pleasure in juicing.

Sunshine in a glass.

Divine.
 
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My current "light reading" book included one line that made me think of the winter talk here:

"It's been so cold lately we've been getting sympathy cards from penguins."​

(From Puddin on the Blitz by Tamar Myers. P. 15.)
 
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The vehicle details are sort of irrelevant.
If you drive a Ford and then buy a Ferrari you expect the insurance premium to go up. I wasn’t expecting anything other than that.

But if the existing company wants more money to change your car for the remaining 8 months of the policy than lots of other companies want for a FULL year that’s bonkers.

As is only refunding you 7.5% of your annual premium when you are not even halfway through the year.

I wasn’t really looking for advice. Just ranting about what was on my mind.
I guess if ranting makes one feel better, then by all means. Sometimes the obvious is overlooked, that's all my point was. Will refrain from advising to rant posts!
 
Just seeing another person pass away from cancer (in the news) brings back sad memories of friends who had it and couldn't beat this miserable disease.
My daughter (who is an adult) is currently fighting cancer (Leukemia) and has been since August 2024. She is in maintenance mode and we travel to Boise, ID (it's our closest major hospital...about a 3 hour drive) once a month for her to receive chemo where it was once a week with inpatient stays interspersed. She is doing well, but all the meds and the two chemos (she gets one in her spinal fluid through a port in her brain called an Omaya) is starting to wear on her. Her hair is growing back slowly but the chemo/meds have caused her to gain a lot of weight and lose most of her teeth so while she's feeling better physically, these things are beginning to bother her mentally. When she is finished with chemo (assuming that happens), her father, myself, and hopefully her insurance will look into dentures or implants for her.

To add insult to injury, her fiancée, who had promised to ALWAYS BE THERE FOR HER, broke up with her OVER A TEXT and no explanation. He promised me he would come talk to her, then he ghosted both of us. What a jerk. She seems to slowly be getting over that, but to say that it was NOT something she expected or needed is an understatement. Breaks my heart.

Unfortunately, we are pretty close to the beginning of this maintenance mode (she has to skip treatment if she gets labs and her platelets are too high and/or her nutricels are too low.) so she's going to have to live this way for quite a while longer.

I live next door to her so I try to help her out as much as I can. Overall, she's taken this VERY well (much better than I would) and except for pain in her joints and some freak bleeding here and there, she's been blessed. We (her friends and family) just pray she continues to do well and beat this thing.
 
My daughter (who is an adult) is currently fighting cancer (Leukemia) and has been since August 2024. She is in maintenance mode and we travel to Boise, ID (it's our closest major hospital...about a 3 hour drive) once a month for her to receive chemo where it was once a week with inpatient stays interspersed. She is doing well, but all the meds and the two chemos (she gets one in her spinal fluid through a port in her brain called an Omaya) is starting to wear on her. Her hair is growing back slowly but the chemo/meds have caused her to gain a lot of weight and lose most of her teeth so while she's feeling better physically, these things are beginning to bother her mentally. When she is finished with chemo (assuming that happens), her father, myself, and hopefully her insurance will look into dentures or implants for her.

To add insult to injury, her fiancée, who had promised to ALWAYS BE THERE FOR HER, broke up with her OVER A TEXT and no explanation. He promised me he would come talk to her, then he ghosted both of us. What a jerk. She seems to slowly be getting over that, but to say that it was NOT something she expected or needed is an understatement. Breaks my heart.

Unfortunately, we are pretty close to the beginning of this maintenance mode (she has to skip treatment if she gets labs and her platelets are too high and/or her nutricels are too low.) so she's going to have to live this way for quite a while longer.

I live next door to her so I try to help her out as much as I can. Overall, she's taken this VERY well (much better than I would) and except for pain in her joints and some freak bleeding here and there, she's been blessed. We (her friends and family) just pray she continues to do well and beat this thing.
Some guys are complete jerks. I’m sorry this happened to her on top of everything else she has going on.

Best of luck with it for you both.
 
Difficult people on trips are on my mind. On a retreat for the long weekend and it’s been absolutely wonderful overall, but one guy I’m rooming with just keeps complaining and complaining and being in my face all the time. Trying to bend rules, too. I’m rooming with five people (six to a room) and the other guys are wonderful. All friends of mine. I hate to do this, but I did just now have to tell the one guy to back off, leave me some space, and suck it up (I said it nicer than that but I think I got the message across).

That one classmate I think I’ve mentioned before, who’s played at Carnegie Hall and is insanely good—he and I are going to go on a walk together pretty soon just to get out of this and enjoy the outdoors a little bit, which should help. I think he’s a bit irritated at this one individual as well.

You can never have perfection, and this individual, who it strikes me comes from quite an affluent family, expects everything to be perfect, etc. That’s just not how it works. But also, I can’t expect perfection on trips, either, so honestly I’m not that annoyed. I’m just tired.
 
Difficult people on trips are on my mind. On a retreat for the long weekend and it’s been absolutely wonderful overall, but one guy I’m rooming with just keeps complaining and complaining and being in my face all the time. Trying to bend rules, too. I’m rooming with five people (six to a room) and the other guys are wonderful. All friends of mine. I hate to do this, but I did just now have to tell the one guy to back off, leave me some space, and suck it up (I said it nicer than that but I think I got the message across).

That one classmate I think I’ve mentioned before, who’s played at Carnegie Hall and is insanely good—he and I are going to go on a walk together pretty soon just to get out of this and enjoy the outdoors a little bit, which should help. I think he’s a bit irritated at this one individual as well.

You can never have perfection, and this individual, who it strikes me comes from quite an affluent family, expects everything to be perfect, etc. That’s just not how it works. But also, I can’t expect perfection on trips, either, so honestly I’m not that annoyed. I’m just tired.
Sharing living spaces is always a test of character. I have a group of friends I tend to go away with for a few days each year. They like to stay in youth hostels etc. I usually find a local hotel. I'm too old to want to share a room. I never get a good nights sleep when sharing with a group like that.
 
I am really tired of winter. There is an "idealized" concept of Winter and then there is the real thing - the grueling cold, long nights, depression, and a feeling that you are being held back. I look forward to seeing the snow melt and the beginning of Spring.
God I feel this too. There's just been so much snow, and the wind has been so intense. I can totally see the idyllic winter wonderland parts of it all too... If I were off all day and could just look out on it all with a hot cup of coffee or cocoa. But the trip to work, to shops, out with trash, freezing all the time; And the darkness. When you head to work it's dark, when you come back home it's dark. That part fortunately has already improved quite a lot compared to mid December, but damn it's sad
 
Sharing living spaces is always a test of character. I have a group of friends I tend to go away with for a few days each year. They like to stay in youth hostels etc. I usually find a local hotel. I'm too old to want to share a room. I never get a good nights sleep when sharing with a group like that.
I due to go to Dubrovnik in May with 2 friends and am not really looking forward to it. Since becoming single just over a year ago, it'll be my first trip without my ex. I booked the trip and got an Airbnb and made sure there are 3 separate bedrooms. It was always nice and relaxing with my ex but with 2 guys will it be a booze trip? Maybe worrying too much...
 
I due to go to Dubrovnik in May with 2 friends and am not really looking forward to it. Since becoming single just over a year ago, it'll be my first trip without my ex. I booked the trip and got an Airbnb and made sure there are 3 separate bedrooms. It was always nice and relaxing with my ex but with 2 guys will it be a booze trip? Maybe worrying too much...
None of us are big drinkers. We tend to go hiking and nice coffee shops etc, with just a couple of drinks in the evening.

I'd much prefer to go away with Mrs AFB but that's not going to happen. Our last holiday together was 15 years ago.
 
So, this is kinda a reply/update on the topic about what I talked about with socializing online.

I started brainstorming guidelines for engaging online, it's not meant to be set in stone but more inspiration for action;

Guidelines for Internet
  • Be mindful of how many accounts you’re creating for various services, if possible, close or delete accounts you’re not using
  • Limit email and SMS notifications as much as possible
  • Use online communications for people you’ve met in person
  • Video calls are best, voice is acceptable, text should be for quick info or to set up a video call/voice call
  • Online friends are not impossible, but kinda difficult for different reasons from IRL friends
  • Never let an online friend (or even an IRL friend for that matter) talk you into another platform. Platform changes should be a friend group/community discussion
  • Use SMS/RCS, iMessage/Facetime, Google Messages/Video, and maybe ONE alternative communication software if it’s self-hosted and agreed upon. Avoid having too many of these beyond this.
  • Online communications with strangers should be similar to a park/3rd place (Inclusive, Open Group spaces, Group discussions, work, and play but it’s okay if someone just wants to be by themselves)
  • Debating online has questionable value, especially with strangers over text
  • Adblock forever
  • Self host your own homepages on your devices
  • Have a list of tasks/roles for each of your devices and install software accordingly
  • Just because you can have all of your devices sync up notifications, doesn’t mean you have to
So, after I wrote this down in my notes, I thought about I focused on "online accounts" and "notifications". So one thing I ended up doing was stopped using Youtube as much and getting my local NPR news and music stations on my Home Assistant + Music Assistant. I have my NPR playing over my monitor speakers right now, they will for now until I can get a smart speaker system that doesn't give me problems the second it can't connect to the Internet.

And that's just one example, but after about a week of reducing accounts, notifications, trying to become more local from news to gaming and everything else, I do feel a lot better. The transportation situation is a bit harder but can be solved.

I wanted to point out, just in case, I'm not anti-computer or even anti-Internet. I just need my devices to not stress me out. I've learned even more about computers and self-hosting!
 
So, this is kinda a reply/update on the topic about what I talked about with socializing online.

I started brainstorming guidelines for engaging online, it's not meant to be set in stone but more inspiration for action;


So, after I wrote this down in my notes, I thought about I focused on "online accounts" and "notifications". So one thing I ended up doing was stopped using Youtube as much and getting my local NPR news and music stations on my Home Assistant + Music Assistant. I have my NPR playing over my monitor speakers right now, they will for now until I can get a smart speaker system that doesn't give me problems the second it can't connect to the Internet.

And that's just one example, but after about a week of reducing accounts, notifications, trying to become more local from news to gaming and everything else, I do feel a lot better. The transportation situation is a bit harder but can be solved.

I wanted to point out, just in case, I'm not anti-computer or even anti-Internet. I just need my devices to not stress me out. I've learned even more about computers and self-hosting!
I’ve never had a single notification via email or SMS for any platform. Why would I? I log into MR when I want to. I don’t want it telling me what’s going on when I’m not on here (or anywhere else).

Remember you are in control. Not the default system settings.
 
Blood oranges are still available - though their quality is beginning to deteriorate, a sign that the season will come to a close fairly shortly - while my eye alighted on the wonderful sight of daffodils spreading the glory of their presence earlier today.
 
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Ended up being a fun trip! It was with the piano studio, and we did a lot of sight-reading of four and eight-hand transcriptions of symphonies and other orchestral pieces. We did Rachmaninov, Debussy, and Tchaikovsky transcriptions. I loved that, I'd never done any kind of two-piano thing before. My friend (the insanely good pianist I'd mentioned earlier) and I sight-transposed Bach preludes in real time up/down specific intervals tonight, right before we packed up to go back to campus. That was fun, too. I'm really glad I went! And I'm glad that friend came, too. He's just the sweetest guy and really fun to be around (and that's a high complement coming from me, because I know VERY few people like that). He's in his first year, so I'm sure we'll be hanging out together a lot more.
 
(Today is) A dirty, dull, dreary day, a freezing and frigid February day, with frozen water in the form of sleet and spitting hail stones slanting from the skies.

And, it is so, so, so, dismally and dreadfully dark, - almost like a reversion to the deepest darkest, dismal days of winter.
 
(Today is) A dirty, dull, dreary day, a freezing and frigid February day, with frozen water in the form of sleet and spitting hail stones slanting from the skies.

And, it is so, so, so, dismally and dreadfully dark, - almost like a reversion to the deepest darkest, dismal days of winter.
Oh I hear you and sympathise. My goodness… it has been the longest and dreariest year so far. Rain… rain… and more rain. Positively diluvial!

That being said, today we were offered a glimmer of hope. Blue skies for a few hours.
But alas, back to grey and deeper grey as I write this.
*sigh*

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