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We don't really have that many trick or treaters coming around out here any more. Lots of parents especially with quite young kids do prefer the party that the village throws down at the firehall. That shingdig definitely beats trudging around rural roads (sometimes in a couple inches of snow!) with toddlers getting cranky, or spooked by some of the decorations on lawns ans houses... and either the Mom or Dad having to drive the car along the way slowly, so as to be able to fetch everybody home when the kids get too tired. "But the candy!"

Hope those weekend plans re the new place do work out well.
When we were kids Halloween wasn't much of a holiday Not really celebrated in the UK. Now we have become more Americanised its getting more like things are over there. I'd rather not have strangers banging on my door demanding sweets thanks.

So we normally just watch TV and ignore the door knocking. Kids cause Mrs AFB enough heartbreak as it is.

Apparently we are going to a kitchen showroom enrolee to the house and builder meeting.
 
I love this thread because it's like a microcosm of the universe in a way. For one thing it's hard to end up so off topic as to fall into the clutches of the overworked moderators. For another, I love mosaics, and that's what this thread continues to roll out as: random collision of soup and nuts, sacred and profane, cats, dogs, mortgages, death, taxes and of course those hilarious retrospectives of life in the moment, for instance a member's account of inadvertently showing up to work with a daughter's underwear in his pocket...

@Gutwrench thanks for brilliant idea in starting this thread. To the rest of us, long may we strive to match or perhaps avoid topping the experiences of post #20.

On my mind tonight: 13 days to Halloween and not so much as a packet of jellybeans or M&Ms in the house for the hordes of little trick-or-treaters. I remember with scorn the old geezers who only offered apples or pears, and swore I'd never be one of them "when I grow up". Not sure I've ever grown up but so far I've not disappointed anyone who thinks the way I did about Halloween and fruit "treats" when I was a kid. Time to re-up in the candy aisle.

I second the thanks proffered by both @kazmac & @LizKat to @Gutwrench for having started this thread.

A lovely, relaxed, yet slightly quirky thread, as @LizKat has observed, a veritable mosaic (and I love them, too - Guy Gavriel Kay's pair of books - Sailing to Sarantium and Lord of Emperors - an alternative world set in the time of an alternative Justinian and Theodora features, as the protagonist in a large and fascinating cast of well drawn characters, a gifted mosaicist of the late classical period) of human life and experiences, soup, recipes, cats, dogs, death, mothers, taxes, travels, and sundry other matters, too.


I‘ve skipped the last couple Halloweens, but thinking to participate again this year.

Candy for the cute little kids (and airline bottles of wine and booze for their parents) and sneers at the older kids.

Re kids, and Hallowe'en, I have been spoiled for the past few years.

The carer took it all so seriously, and therefore stocked the house (having requested funds from me) well in advance with sweets, chocolate bars and what Our Transatlantic Cousins term "candies".

This year, in the absence of both Mother and carer (and Mother was partial to the tradition, as well) I shall have to trot out and acquire some sweets for the visiting urchins myself.

Actually, in recent years, I've been impressed at the work they have put into their costumes.
 
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Dinner - today's and tomorrow's (as I am just back from the farmers' market).

And Mother - had a pang thinking of her while waiting for the bus - it is a little more than seven years since she was able to take a bus with me, and, even then, I was minding her, and shepherding her onto the bus, guiding her to her seat - she was like an excited child on an outing - and minding and using her pensioner's bus pass for her, - but a neighbour, the kind electrician next door, spotting me at the bus-stop, swiftly pulled up, drove me to town, and the talk (and thoughts) switched to the more mundane recent - namely, Brexit and football.
 
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Oh sweet inconsistencies.
Got a New Yorker membership because I want to read curated news and op-eds on paper (even - if not especially - considering that the editorial line is not in agreement with me)... on the same day I shelled $5 for a month of Medium.
I have been browsing it for a couple of months and I found in it good content especially in comparison with most blogs/news sites.

visiting Waco, TX today.
 
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When I was a librarian in the local county library system, the various branches would decorate for Hallowe'en, have a jar of candies on the circulation desk, and some of us would dress up in costume for the day. That was always fun! One branch in which I worked was in a town which always has an annual Hallowe'en parade, and of course the library always participated. I'll never forget gleefully dancing and prancing down the middle of Maple Avenue dressed as Pippi Longstocking, long red braids and all!

In the condo community where I now live, we have very few children so I don't even bother buying candy or treats any more. I do think, too, that as was mentioned earlier, there is now a different attitude on the part of parents about Hallowe'en and its potential danger as opposed safety for their children, and that makes a difference, too.
 
A few minutes ago I found this on my (Alexa app) Target List.
I was stumped. My step-daughter just admitted via text doing it during her visit months ago. That little rascal! It also shows how seldom I use the app.


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I’m shocked that an insurance company, to sell their product in the name of humor, would choose to enrage cat owners across the country, lol. As a former owner of three cats who never experienced anything like this, it did make me laugh, but many cat owners don’t have my sense of humor. 😁

 
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boredom can be very good actually.

Agreed.

People have lost the art of being able to switch off, and do nothing.

Paradoxically, that is when some of your very best ideas and thoughts can come to you.

Likewise, to creatively fill your time is often a lot more satisfying than "structured" recreation (as a child, or adult), or play, or activities.

Sometimes, people need a bit less structure in their lives.
 
I so agree, SS!!! I find it rather disturbing how overly-structured children's lives today seem to be. The poor things don't have any time to just "be." They're either in school or daycare or are being ushered off to dance class, music instruction, sports team, etc., or to "play dates." When I was a child, we were given so much more freedom -- After school or on a weekend, if there weren't family things going on we could go outside and play either alone or with other kids in the neighborhood, ride our bikes around the area, make up games and just be kids. On rainy days we'd get together at someone's house and play board games and make up our own little games. Sometimes a kid would just feel like curling up in a comfortable chair and reading a good book, or going off by him/herself..... That kind of freedom fostered creativity and imagination far more than structured "play dates" are likely to do.....
 
Agreed.

People have lost the art of being able to switch off, and do nothing.

Paradoxically, that is when some of your very best ideas and thoughts can come to you.

Likewise, to creatively fill your time is often a lot more satisfying than "structured" recreation (as a child, or adult), or play, or activities.

Sometimes, people need a bit less structure in their lives.

Another great reply of yours. Just this morning - after the mandatory cup of coffee - I was re-reading Book IV chapter 3 from Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations.
Some of its thought really speak to us.

The very first part is important to keep in mind, “Men seek retreats for themselves, houses in the country, sea-shores, and mountains; and thou too art wont to desire such things very much. But this is altogether a mark of the most common sort of men, for it is in thy power whenever thou shalt choose to retire into thyself. For nowhere either with more quiet or more freedom from trouble does a man retire than into his own soul


What’s better than our own minds and experiences? Tasting (actually tasting, feeling the hot liquid, its texture, its acidity etc) the freshly brewed coffee in the morning, in complete silence and without distraction is in my opinion more powerful for our minds than an hour of “active” entertainment. The emperor is right in saying that “that tranquillity is nothing else than the good ordering of the mind.”
I already discussed it - and I already mentioned the great points about boredom and solitude that Cal Newport makes in Digital Minimalism - but I am disturbed when I see kids (and sadly even adults) plugged even in the most common situations. Kids, often fat, sitting in a cart at a store, playing video games while their parents do the errands. Will they ever appreciate the regularity of life (and mind you, no one can escape how regular our life is most of the times). Families on their phones while they eat at a restaurant; will they ever taste their food? Just yesterday I was at an important musical event for high schools in Waco, TX at the Baylor football stadium (so an important one). As I was walking out of the restrooms this kid (14 or 15 I’d say) bumped on me, didn’t even say sorry, he kept walking; he didn’t even notice me. He was playing his Nintendo Switch, with huge headphones on, while walking... and going to the restrooms (I assume he knew he was going there). Is real life that bad? Is waiting ten minutes while thinking your own thoughts that bad? “Remember to retire into this little territory of thy own, and above all do not distract or strain thyself, but be free, and look at things as a man, as a human being, as a citizen, as a mortal

Full text from Marcus Aurelius, I recommend reading it.
Men seek retreats for themselves, houses in the country, sea-shores, and mountains; and thou too art wont to desire such things very much. But this is altogether a mark of the most common sort of men, for it is in thy power whenever thou shalt choose to retire into thyself. For nowhere either with more quiet or more freedom from trouble does a man retire than into his own soul, particularly when he has within him such thoughts that by looking into them he is immediately in perfect tranquillity; and I affirm that tranquillity is nothing else than the good ordering of the mind. Constantly then give to thyself this retreat, and renew thyself; and let thy principles be brief and fundamental, which, as soon as thou shalt recur to them, will be sufficient to cleanse the soul completely, and to send thee back free from all discontent with the things to which thou returnest. For with what art thou discontented? With the badness of men? Recall to thy mind this conclusion, that rational animals exist for one another, and that to endure is a part of justice, and that men do wrong involuntarily; and consider how many already, after mutual enmity, suspicion, hatred, and fighting, have been stretched dead, reduced to ashes; and be quiet at last.—But perhaps thou art dissatisfied with that which is assigned to thee out of the universe.—Recall to thy recollection this alternative; either there is providence or atoms [fortuitous concurrence of things]; or remember the arguments by which it has been proved that the world is a kind of political community [and be quiet at last].—But perhaps corporeal things will still fasten upon thee.—Consider then further that the mind mingles not with the breath, whether moving gently or violently, when it has once drawn itself apart and discovered its own power, and think also of all that thou hast heard and assented to about pain and pleasure [and be quiet at last].—But perhaps the desire of the thing called fame will torment thee.—See how soon everything is forgotten, and look at the chaos of infinite time on each side of [the present], and the emptiness of applause, and the changeableness and want of judgment in those who pretend to give praise, and the narrowness of the space within which it is circumscribed [and be quiet at last]. For the whole earth is a point, and how small a nook in it is this thy dwelling, and how few are there in it, and what kind of people are they who will praise thee.

This then remains: Remember to retire into this little territory of thy own,[2] and above all do not distract or strain thyself, but be free, and look at things as a man, as a human being, as a citizen, as a mortal. But among the things readiest to thy hand to which thou shalt turn, let there be these, which are two. One is that things do not touch the soul, for they are external and remain immovable; but our perturbations come only from the opinion which is within. The other is that all these things, which thou seest, change immediately and will no longer be; and constantly bear in mind how many of these changes thou hast already witnessed. The universe is transformation: life is opinion.
 
I so agree, SS!!! I find it rather disturbing how overly-structured children's lives today seem to be. The poor things don't have any time to just "be." They're either in school or daycare or are being ushered off to dance class, music instruction, sports team, etc., or to "play dates." When I was a child, we were given so much more freedom -- After school or on a weekend, if there weren't family things going on we could go outside and play either alone or with other kids in the neighborhood, ride our bikes around the area, make up games and just be kids. On rainy days we'd get together at someone's house and play board games and make up our own little games. Sometimes a kid would just feel like curling up in a comfortable chair and reading a good book, or going off by him/herself..... That kind of freedom fostered creativity and imagination far more than structured "play dates" are likely to do.....

Excellent post, and I agree completely with you. My childhood was pretty similar, and was inhabited by parents who were present (but discreetly in the background), freedom to explore and ask questions, and an absence of fear - a welcome absence of fear - but an awareness of the need for judgment and prudence and being abe to exercise caution.

In common with yourself, I am more than a little concerned with how "full" and "structured" children' lives, - especially their non-academic lives - are these days.

As you say, there is no time to "be", no time to imagine games with different rules, (something I used to do quite a lot as a child - while I was poor at organised games, I was intrigued by the rules that governed them, and, sometimes we came up with our own - fresh - interpretations of how these should take place), no time just to be "free" and hang around, or curl up by yourself and read (something I was always doing).

And playing alone, or with other kids spontaneously, board games, riding bikes and exploring places, just "being" - and I'm in complete agreement with you that this kind of unstructured play fostered creativity and imagination far more than those perfectly ghastly sounding structured "play dates".

Thanks! I do enjoy it actually, it really helps for introspection, creativity, and problem solving.

Actually, I enjoy it also, and find that it fosters creativity, imagination, introspection, and yes - all kinds of problem solving.
 
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Unfortunately, yes, much as we adults love and utilize our electronic devices for this, that and the other -- I don't think that in the long run in many situations that they are as beneficial to children. Sure, in some specific situations they can be valuable and are actually serving as a communication tool for those who for whatever reason cannot speak or who have other issues where verbal/oral communication isn't effective. In those situations it opens up a whole new world of communication.

The problem comes in where it seems all too easy to a parent or a caregiver to just hand a child an iPad to keep him/her amused (and hopefully quiet) for a given time period or when children become too interested in, too absorbed in, and dependent upon their own electronic devices and the (artificial) world they present so that they aren't really fully aware of or functioning in the real world that is actually surrounding them. That is just really sad.....
 
What would I do with my life if there weren't computers? Probably kill myself out of boredom.
I can somewhat relate to this, but I would not go that far. ;)

Computer gaming is a diversion for me. I walked out of a cryo pod after 200 years in stasis, looking for my lost son, jumping between 4 factions, fighting feral goul’s and egotistical, but slow witted super mutants, while I help establish and nurture human settlements around the Commonwealth which used to be known as Boston, seeking a future where the clans are not killing each other.

I still read books, but as likely as not, books put me to sleep after 9pm. :)
 
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