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Last couple of days wife had appointments so I spent at least 2 hours on Saturday and 3 hours today at the park, just reading and enjoying the passage of time. 75 degrees made the experience even better.

On the other side of the coin, I truly don’t understand people who smoke at a park, in the presence of their own children, and when it’s expressively forbidden. Hate the smell.

Actually, I don't understand anyone who smokes anywhere - it is a disgusting smell.

But, sitting in a secluded sunny park, reading, enjoying the passage of time, has to be one of the most agreeable and civllised pleasures known to humanity.
 
But, sitting in a secluded sunny park, reading, enjoying the passage of time, has to be one of the most agreeable and civllised pleasures known to humanity.

It truly is; it is incredible what the outdoors and some non-screen, relaxing activity can do to one's soul. It's cheap, refreshing, and relaxing.

To my pleasure, I noticed that the vast majority of kids (teens included) at the park barely looked at their phones, at least when I observed it (I am a people watcher, another great activity).
 
It truly is; it is incredible what the outdoors and some non-screen, relaxing activity can do to one's soul. It's cheap, refreshing, and relaxing.

To my pleasure, I noticed that the vast majority of kids (teens included) at the park barely looked at their phones, at least when I observed it (I am a people watcher, another great activity).

My mother used to be a real people watcher, also, in the yeas when she still had her health and mind and formidable quotient of intellectual curiosity.

And very pleased to learn that the kids were not as absorbed and obsessed by their devices, but actually engaged with life while in the park.
 
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It's 12 hour shifts. On 3, off 4. On 4, off 3. Fun how law enforcement agencies can make it so you don't get overtime even if you're over 40 hours.

It's really about which shift gives the stability right now. His mids are bouncing around like a kid in a ball pit. It's driving him ragged really.
I think OT pay is dumb like most everything else is different for nearly every state. I know some states where you would already get OT for over 8h in one day and others where you only get OT by pay period. So you could get paid every two weeks and work 60h one week but only 20 another but still get no OT.
Wish they would just make more stuff consistent.
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Actually, I don't understand anyone who smokes anywhere - it is a disgusting smell.

But, sitting in a secluded sunny park, reading, enjoying the passage of time, has to be one of the most agreeable and civllised pleasures known to humanity.
The thing that annoys me more is why do places even hang prohibited signs but do NOTHING when someone is doing the prohibited actions. Toss them out and ban their asses or don't have a freaking sign.
 
Last couple of days wife had appointments so I spent at least 2 hours on Saturday and 3 hours today at the park, just reading and enjoying the passage of time. 75 degrees made the experience even better.

On the other side of the coin, I truly don’t understand people who smoke at a park, in the presence of their own children, and when it’s expressively forbidden. Hate the smell.

In NYC public parks, beaches, pedestrian malls etc., smoking is definitely forbidden. Enforcement may or may not be random and is mostly via pressure by other New Yorkers, but if you're busted by an enforcement officer, the fine is fifty bucks. What's weird is that at the perimeter of a park, like on the sidewalks just outside them, smoking is permitted, so one may have to pass through a veritable haze of secondhand smoke on a windless day just to get into a park to spend a lunch hour in the fresh air!

 
On my mind in advance of the kickoff of Daylight Saving Time: yes I love having that jumpstart towards the daylight lasting longer into the evenings. But my body and spirit always resist adapting to the change, whether in spring or autumn.

It's not the one-day effect of a change in sleep/wake time: one can run into that any time with an early appointment or a decision just to sleep in on some morning.

It just takes so long --weeks!-- for my body twice a year to buy into the idea that

"yeah we're gonna do this a whole hour earlier (or later) EVERY DAY now... so get with the program and quitcherbitchin."

At least in spring it's nice to have the extra light tacked onto the end of the day. In fall the change seems worse to me since I truly loathe being plunged into nightfall an hour early on some doleful Sunday afternoon in a grey November. They can keep that "Extra Hour of Sleep!" that's pitched to us in the fall as some kind of elixir. I'd rather have the later sunset that's already too early by that time of year, and deal with darkness lasting longer in the morning: by time I've muddled though how to make a cup of coffee while needing a cup of coffee, it's almost light anyway.
 
I woke up in such a funk and I can't seem to beat it today. Ever have a day where everything seems just downright drab? Hopefully tomorrow I'll be in better spirits.

The good news is my father in law is out of the hospital. Nothing too serious with his heart but they'll be keeping an eye on it.
 
In NYC public parks, beaches, pedestrian malls etc., smoking is definitely forbidden. Enforcement may or may not be random and is mostly via pressure by other New Yorkers, but if you're busted by an enforcement officer, the fine is fifty bucks. What's weird is that at the perimeter of a park, like on the sidewalks just outside them, smoking is permitted, so one may have to pass through a veritable haze of secondhand smoke on a windless day just to get into a park to spend a lunch hour in the fresh air!

We have the same issues here with hospitals. A wall of smoke as you pass all the people with the cigarette in one hand and a drip attached to the other!
 
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Last couple of days wife had appointments so I spent at least 2 hours on Saturday and 3 hours today at the park, just reading and enjoying the passage of time. 75 degrees made the experience even better.

On the other side of the coin, I truly don’t understand people who smoke at a park, in the presence of their own children, and when it’s expressively forbidden. Hate the smell.
Actually, I don't understand anyone who smokes anywhere - it is a disgusting smell.

But, sitting in a secluded sunny park, reading, enjoying the passage of time, has to be one of the most agreeable and civllised pleasures known to humanity.

...because communion with nature, even if it manicured and directed by man (and we like controlling it in relative intimate setting) is good for the soul, as a subtle or outright acknowledgement of the wonder of our existence and of Mother Nature, the giver and sustainer of life.

Even more magnificent are the wild un-manicured settings. My brother who is of similar perspective although he does not put it into those words, makes annual or biannual pilgrimages to Alaska to get that feeling. I know why he’s there, less people is better. The only specific time I can remember feeling a reverence for my existence is walking/running or just hanging out in a natural landscape, surrounded by nature/woods and sometimes the added bonuses of lakes and mountains makes it something approximating a mystical experience.

And although Alaska is stunning, you can find it a lot closer to home, in just about any wildlife refuge forest preserve, State Park, National Forests here in the States, or even green belts in the middle of civilization if you can detach yourself, just as long as there are not too many human beings about. :)

One of my favorites is Mohongahelia National Forest in West Virginia and although parts of it were logged at some point, there is an unmatched feeling of being in something that approximates old growth forest, plus it‘s in ancient mountains, with bubbling springs, rivers with rushing water, water falls, hidden grottos, and mysterious caves asking to be explored, but not trampled. 🥰
 
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We have the same issues here with hospitals. A wall of smoke as you pass all the people with the cigarette in one hand and a drip attached to the other!
I work in a hospital. The methods patients come up with to light a cigarette would surprise you 😂 Saw someone on oxygen try to get one going with a curling iron once 😂
 
We have the same issues here with hospitals. A wall of smoke as you pass all the people with the cigarette in one hand and a drip attached to the other!

I work in a hospital. The methods patients come up with to light a cigarette would surprise you 😂 Saw someone on oxygen try to get one going with a curling iron once 😂

In a way - for being in hospital can be a miserable, challenging and depressing experience, and one where a sneaked smoke can offer some temporary or imagined relief - I feel a certain reluctant sympathy for them, but am also rather torn, and caught on the horns of a dilemma - as I personally (and, for all of my life) absolutely loathe smoking.
 
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In a way - for being in hospital can be a miserable, challenging and depressing experience, and one where a sneaked smoke can offer some temporary or imagined relief - I feel a certain reluctant sympathy for them, but am also rather torn, and caught on the horns of a dilemma - as I personally (and, for all of my life) absolutely loathe smoking.
I DO see where you're coming from. I've got some pretty darn strong opinions against smoking, as well. (Healthcare employee, so what do you expect? 😂) Can't stand the smell of it or marijuana smoke (which is a problem that has become VERY prominent ever since our state legalized that crap. Plus, the smell of marijuana smoke actually does make me nauseous. Walked past someone at the store the other day who absolutely reeked of it and I thought I was going to be sick). Admittedly...I tend to have very negative opinions of people who smoke, no matter what they're smoking. Smoking ANYTHING is ****ing stupid. Out in public...if you want to smoke...don't be surprised if I'm not hanging around you. (But it's because of childhood stuff. Family members smoked cigarettes like nothing else mattered. Family members smoked pot and it was nothing but problems for them and those of us around them, and that's in addition to what I said before about the smell making me feel sick). So for that...I tend to have VERY negative opinions of smokers, whether it's tobacco or pot. But you are right. Being a hospital patient sucks. No denying that. You're going to try as hard as you can to find a way to deal with that.

My original comment was about something that happened a few years ago. Back then...wasn't funny. The person was on oxygen...and the floor had a separate air system. That person (if he actually succeeded in lighting that cigarette) would have basically messed up the entire floor. Looking back on it now...I do laugh about it because, well...gotta give points for creativity 😂 I've seen a lot so far in my career. But that was a first. 😂
 
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I DO see where you're coming from. I've got some pretty darn strong opinions against smoking, as well. (Healthcare employee, so what do you expect? 😂) Can't stand the smell of it or marijuana smoke (which is a problem that has become VERY prominent ever since our state legalized that crap. Plus, the smell of marijuana smoke actually does make me nauseous. Walked past someone at the store the other day who absolutely reeked of it and I thought I was going to be sick). Admittedly...I tend to have very negative opinions of people who smoke, no matter what they're smoking. Smoking ANYTHING is ****ing stupid. Out in public...if you want to smoke...don't be surprised if I'm not hanging around you. (But it's because of childhood stuff. Family members smoked cigarettes like nothing else mattered. Family members smoked pot and it was nothing but problems for them and those of us around them, and that's in addition to what I said before about the smell making me feel sick). So for that...I tend to have VERY negative opinions of smokers, whether it's tobacco or pot. But you are right. Being a hospital patient sucks. No denying that. You're going to try as hard as you can to find a way to deal with that.

My original comment was about something that happened a few years ago. Back then...wasn't funny. The person was on oxygen...and the floor had a separate air system. That person (if he actually succeeded in lighting that cigarette) would have basically messed up the entire floor. Looking back on it now...I do laugh about it because, well...gotta give points for creativity 😂 I've seen a lot so far in my career. But that was a first. 😂

We're pretty much in agreement about this.

Actually, I cannot abide any smoking of any description, least of all marijuana. For what it is worth, I have had the very worst sinus attacks of my life, ones where I was blowing my nose into kitchen tissue - ordinary tissue was woefully inadequate for my voluminous needs - for hours on end having fled to the kitchen to escape the smokers and their cloud of weed - such was the force of my allergic reaction - at parties where some 'cool' people insisted on smoking marijuana.
 
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In a way - for being in hospital can be a miserable, challenging and depressing experience, and one where a sneaked smoke can offer some temporary or imagined relief - I feel a certain reluctant sympathy for them, but am also rather torn, and caught on the horns of a dilemma - as I personally (and, for all of my life) absolutely loathe smoking.

A friend's dad with a 40-year smoking history came out of surgery having had a lung removed... and yet was begging for a cigarette from everyone who showed up in the ICU later on to visit him, including us, both college students at the time. We were already hooked on nicotine ourselves, but were still appalled at the demo of its power to keep someone in thrall. Not that it persuaded us to quit, because we were young and invincible and figured we could quit any time if we wanted to.

I thought about that a lot later on before finally becoming a former smoker, and one who had to quit a whole lot of times before staying quit finally stuck.

It's not impossible to quit and we do know so much more now about the dangers of second hand smoke even in proximity to a smoker out in the fresh air.

Best thing is never start smoking to begin with. I know more than a few folks around here who finally quit because they couldn't take their kids nagging at them any more. I'm a fan of preventive education in the schools, it does seem to have made an impact (along with taxing the hell out of the product and putting sting busts on sales to minors in convenience stores).
 
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My late husband was a smoker, had been doing so since he was still in his teens. A few days after coming home from the hospital with a diagnosis of cancer, thoughtfully fingering his oxygen cannula, he asked me to please bring him an ashtray and his package of cigarettes, and to temporarily turn off the oxygen tank. I stared at him for a couple of minutes and then offered objections, but he really, really, wanted a cigarette..... It's an addiction, plain and simple. I did as he had asked, figuring, well, with the tank turned off he wouldn't be blowing the house up and, as a friend said to me when I talked about it with her, did I want to spend what limited amount of time we were going to have together arguing about his smoking?

He smoked his last cigarette three days before he died.....
 
My father had smoked a pipe all of his life.

None of the rest of us, my mother, brothers or myself ever touched a cigarette and increasingly voiced our displeasure and disapproval of smoking - as the decades passed - which meant that he had agreed by the 90s to confine himself to the kitchen after dinner (which was when and where he usually did the wash up - I cooked, when I was home) whenever he decided to light up, and not smoke anywhere else in the house.

He would announce - after dinner was well over and everything cleared away - (smokers lighting up while others are still eating is something that has always struck me as the height of bad manners) that he was about to have a smoke (while doing the washing up) and that therefore, we were free to go, but welcome to stay, but that he would be having a smoke should we wish to remain in the kitchen.

Usually, we left, but occasionally, one of us stayed - I remember grading student papers seated at the kitchen table while he smoked, and ironed, and sipped red wine, and chatted, classical music playing softly on the radio.

As he also did the ironing in the kitchen, while sipping a whiskey or glass of red wine, Turkish handmade pipe to hand, the kitchen - after meals - was his domain.

However, he was admitted to hospital for a cardiac operation (stents and a bypass) - the very week of 9/11 - and I remember sitting with him the night before the operation, which was scheduled for the following morning.

He was sitting on his bed, in his room, fully and immaculately dressed in elegant tweeds, proper dress shirt with tie, pressed corduroys, and polished brogues, and after his meal, (pasta, he liked pasta), he smoked his pipe with a slow, sensual, pleasure. Then he sighed, smiled, and announced that that was the last smoke he would ever have, that he would not smoke again (he had been advised not to) once his operation had taken place.

And, to our astonishment, he never did. Rather, he went cold turkey, and stayed well away from nicotine (though he still enjoyed Italian red wine, and Scottish or Irish whiskey) for the remaining four years of his life.
 
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Yeah, smoking marijuana is ridiculous ...





... just stick with edibles :p
Or don't do it at all. Outside of legitimate medical uses (some of which are actually starting to come into question), it's not good for you. Although...people's stupid drug and alcohol choices are part of the reason I'm getting paid. My paycheck has been getting nice and big ever since legalization in our state. I haven't been able to work a "regular" shift ever since. I have had to do overtime literally every damn day I work. Anecdotal evidence to the negative impacts of legalization? Yes. But still proof that this is causing problems that pro-pot people said wouldn't happen. I've lost track of the DUIs and car accidents that have been coming into our ER. It blew alcohol related numbers out of the water.

Making this garbage legal before there was a reliable way to test for it...is the dumbest possible thing that people could have demanded. But..."dumb" and "marijuana" seem to go hand-in-hand. So I'm not too surprised. Medical use...I'm okay with that. But recreational use... I have lost respect for and cut out some people who I found out they use that crap for "fun". No loss to me 🤷‍♂️ They all lost their jobs and haven't been able to find another one that doesn't drug test. And they don't bother stopping long enough to pass one. It's people like them who are perfect examples of why their is such a strong negative stereotype about pot smokers.
 
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My small group of close friends/peers seemed to have handled it well enough. That includes individuals with multiple degrees, doctors, authors, entrepreneurs in the tech sector (with major contributions to the industry, including medical informatics, machine learning), significant income, zero legal/criminal issues, healthy, articulate people with families who are huge contributors to everything positive about this country.

They just happen to eat a marijuana cookie on rare occasion.
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Oh glorious day, the fence is complete! Well, most of it, we haven't completely decided on the front facing section - and that will be partially informed by how we finish the deck. Our builder did a fantastic job, we went with a completely scratch built after seeing how crap-tacular the pre-fab panels looked, and while the price for the custom build was more, it's sort of trivial in the grand scheme of total spend on the exterior [re]build and used high grade fasteners and wood :)

The old fence was staggered right vs. left, i.e., it didn't come up to the same point (facing the house, to the rear corner on the left vs. front right corner), and now it's symmetric, both sides end at the same point. We wanted to stay in code, so that technically limits the height to 6' (plus much higher and it starts looking like Alcatraz ...) so what we did for additional rear privacy, was to extend the 4x4 posts to 16" higher, and he's building a framed area to mount matching, pine lattice, so we'll have almost 7-1/2 foot "fencing" to the rear :D

Sourcing this super high grade, specially treated locally grown pine for the deck panels, it's 1/2" radius'ed, frame is partially up, we're boxing around all the beautiful oaks in the yard, and building extra extensions for a possible screen/roof finish on the main section.
 
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My small group of close friends/peers seemed to have handled it well enough. That includes individuals with multiple degrees, doctors, authors, entrepreneurs in the tech sector (with major contributions to the industry, including medical informatics, machine learning), significant income, zero legal/criminal issues, healthy, articulate people with families who are huge contributors to everything positive about this country.

They just happen to eat a marijuana cookie on rare occasion.
Not saying it's impossible to be productive while also being a user. But people's opinions on marijuana tend to stem from their personal experience with it or people who use it. All of my interactions with people who use it...have been negative. Especially in regard to the family members who used it when I grew up. (With the exception of the few medical users I know, who's conditions are improved because of it). So that drove my opinion of marijuana. Medical? 100% in favor, as long as undesirable side effects aren't found. Which is starting to pop up. There are some side effects being discovered that are turning out to be pretty nasty. Which means my "100% support" of medical...is starting to drop a bit. There are doctors at my hospital who used to write prescriptions for it who are starting to rethink that. Some won't even recommend it anymore. Recreational usage? 100% against it to the point where I don't think I'm missing out on anything by cutting these people out of my life. That is how negative my personal experiences are. Like I said, because of personal experience...I will never be convinced that recreational legalization is a "positive". It will always be a stupid, reckless mistake in my eyes. And I will continue to hold a negative impression of the users, until they do something drastic to prove me wrong. Which I have yet to see.

In my line of work...I tend to see the negative side of pretty much everything. Because of that...it's hard to have an opinion swayed. Even my opinion of drinkers has fallen. I don't drink or smoke. Part of that is because I see what nightmares these damn things cause. If I didn't grow up in a family full of useless pot-smokers, and I didn't constantly deal with marijuana related ER visits day in and day out for 15 hours a day...my opinions of it and the users would be different. I deal with the people who decided to smoke a joint and then get in the car (which seems to be happening more than alcohol related accidents coming into our ER). I deal with the pregnant women who decided to smoke pot while pregnant because it's "not as bad as tobacco". I deal with the babies born with defects because mom decided to smoke or drink. I deal with the babies who were born with other hard drugs in their systems. I deal with the innocent drivers who are left permanently injured or dead because some jerk decided to drive drunk or high and ended up hitting them. I'm open to having my opinions on alcohol or marijuana proven wrong. But no one seems to be able to do it. The things I see every day...just solidify my negative opinions. As far as I'm concerned...negative opinions towards drinkers and pot-smokers are well deserved.

Now, on a lighter note. I'll say I'm totally jealous about the fence work! I got ours fixed after a gust of wind took it down the other day. Just for another gust of wind to come in today and take a tree down on the darn thing 😂 Knew I should've waited until the weekend to fix it 😂
 
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We have the same issues here with hospitals. A wall of smoke as you pass all the people with the cigarette in one hand and a drip attached to the other!
The one that annoys me is at work. They have outside seating right outside the café but keep that door constantly locked. You need to walk through the smoking area to get to the tables. And no one ever enforces it if anyone comes to close to the non smoking eating area.
 
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Oh yeah, and I just picked up AC+ for our 12.9/3rd gen iPP *, and I've seen a number of articles (including some from the last few months, right here on MR ...) that indicate it's from the product original purchase date. Yet, again, just like my '18 MM, the duration is shown starting from the date of purchasing the AC+. That means since again, I waited till close to the end of the window to buy it, I get an extra 58 days (purchase date 01/06/2020, AC+ end date, 03/03/2022).

I guess the potential downside of waiting is possibly having a mishap in the interim, but I am digging on the free ~2 months :D

* Figured display replacement isn't cheap, it's going to be used for some travel, by the little G, and now can be extended __beyond__ the two years via a monthly payment.
 
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Hahaha, yes, going to pick up the little G from drama, top down because this:

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Hahaha, yes, going to pick up the little G from drama, top down because this:

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Ha, rub it in, why don't ya! 😂 We're beside ourselves because it's 45 right now 😂 Our "warmest" day this week is supposed to be Sunday at 64! Oh well. Summer's on it's way and our temperatures will be right about where you are and warmer...and just as humid! I love summer...and I love Florida. But the humidity of both, can't stand it! Give me dry heat any day!
 
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