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A Tiffany Ring or a Claddagh Ring + Welsh Love Spoon and then Engagement Ring?
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holy crap! i'm officially never getting married. you could get a pretty nice car with that much dough. hmm i'm sure that a ring<car.
Ah, you never ask how old they are, this is why I specifically asked how young she is. Working in medicine, I ask several ladies their age daily ... truly its about how you ask, and if you leave a way for them to avoid the question.... ( and you respect that if the choose that ).
Well there are plenty of rings that are significantly cheaper than that. If I remember correctly that was a 3 carat, fairly good quality diamond. Even Tiffany's has stuff that is way cheaper than that. Tiffany's, for some of their simpler rings, starts at about $8000-$9000 for a 1 carat and goes up depending on the quality and/or size of the diamond.
You might get some pretty good benefits if you bought your girl a $42,000 ring...
While I am not super high on spending thousands of dollars on a ring (and recognizing that I am a hypocrite b/c I did spend a bundle on a ring), I do think its a better place to spend the money than a car. A car is gone in 5 years while a ring is an heirloom that has intrinsic as well as $$ value almost indefinitely, is worn (hopefully) forever, and is passed down generations. Just my opinion. Now if you were instead talking about a house, or retirement savings, or even taking a vacation of a lifetime... 
Whatever you decide to do, do not get into debt getting the ring. If you are about to start your life together, think of security for the new family.
I believe (when they gave prices on their website) that you can get a Tiffany engagement ring for $2000, maybe even less than that.
Why could I never find a woman like you?
+1, it'd be nice to find someone who doesn't really care about material possessions - especially on marriage - here in the UK I believe the average wedding spend is around £20 000 which is a huge amount of money and that makes a sizeable deposit on a house.
It's bloody stupid. If you knock a zero off that, that's how much my wedding and honeymoon cost.
All saved for and paid for at the time.
I know 2 people (not the couple) who have been divorced for a few years and are still paying off the wedding day costs!
If you have to throw down 42k to "get some pretty good benefits" that's a clear sign you're with the wrong girl. Not sayin' you're behind that thought process.
Haha, yeah, my girlfriend wouldn't care how much it cost. But a 3 carat stone certainly wouldn't be bad, although she'd probably be scared of getting mugged.
What's wrong with a plain silver band?
Nothing, that's what, there should be no need for any thing else, ever.
If she doesn't like it, show her the back of your hand and send her packing.
Nothing, that's what, there should be no need for any thing else, ever.
If she doesn't like it, show her the back of your hand and send her packing.
You've already had a lot of really excellent advice in this thread. I just wanted to point out the merit in you both choosing the ring. Big romantic gestures are cute and all but I for one don't entirely understand the necessity for it. (especially as she knows it's coming, so this isn't a big surprise) You're going to build a life together, I think it's not only appropriate but very wise to state what you can afford (please assess this accurately) and go look together. She gets what she wants and (hopefully) you don't spend too much trying to push yourself financially to impress her.
I have the same sentiment about the wedding. I don't understand why people are comfortable spending their entire savings and sometimes even go into debt to buy rings and throw a big party. You're building a life together, I think a good start is important. Money woes have caused many a relationship rift, I say go in smart.
Tiffany's is overpriced. (I'll refer you to Jessica.'s posts and several others). But I'm hoping you two go shop for the ring together, and not at Tiffany's.
I have the same sentiment about the wedding. I don't understand why people are comfortable spending their entire savings and sometimes even go into debt to buy rings and throw a big party. You're building a life together, I think a good start is important. Money woes have caused many a relationship rift, I say go in smart.
Tiffany's is overpriced. (I'll refer you to Jessica.'s posts and several others). But I'm hoping you two go shop for the ring together, and not at Tiffany's.
I personally would not get engaged to someone who gave me a Tiffany's ring.
unless it was a family heirloom etcetc
it doesnt exactly demonstrate traits I look in partner and future spouse.
unless it was a family heirloom etcetc
it doesnt exactly demonstrate traits I look in partner and future spouse.
- Spending way too much for 'name' as opposed to actual goods.
- Disregarding good advice from multiple sources just to 'be different'
- not having a bloody clue what the girl likes/wants
As i've stated, she doesn't need a Tiffany ring but I'm considering it because I know it would give her some bragging rights amongst her friends and family, and tell me that wouldn't make her feel good?
Also, please ... not having a bloody clue what the girl likes/wants? Unless you're speaking specifically of yourself as someone with a distaste for Tiffany in particular, what girl wouldn't like a Tiffany engagement ring? It's like the difference between drinking a protein shake, and eating a Filet
Mignon ... Yes, they both get the job done, but if someone took you out to a date to have filet mignon, you'd most likely appreciate it more than a date to have a slim fast. Just my thought.
Finally, I've decided no crazy ring ... but a Love Spoon and a Claddagh Ring instead.
Plenty of girls. Get over the generalizations and stereotypes. Not all women are vain and materialistic. Not all women like jewelry.
I'm not saying they are materialistic at all ... I know I'm not materialistic but if someone came up to me and said ... Hey, want this Gibson Les Paul guitar? You better believe I'll be stoked and say yes. It has nothing to do with being materialistic, and everything to do with appreciating a gift.
I don't believe that your analogy is accurate at all.
The correct analogy would not involve a choice between a protein shake and a piece of filet mignon. The choice would be between two pieces of filet mignon that are exactly the same- the same cut from the same cow with the same marbling and the same weight. The only difference between them would be that one of them is double the price and is from a very popular over-priced butcher that brands each steak with the store's name and packs each steak in special wrapping, and the other is half the price and is from your local grocery store. Otherwise, both steaks are (and will taste) exactly the same.
If you buy a ring at Tiffany's or buy the exact same ring (same design, same diamond, etc.) somewhere else, it is the exact same ring minus the Tiffany's stamp and the box.
Your analogy would be more accurate involving a choice between, let's say, a quarter carat low quality diamond and a high-quality 1.5 carat diamond.
My wife would prefer me to buy her a piece of jewelry at the wholesaler and save 10 grand on the Tiffany's name.
I don't buy her jewelry so that she could have "bragging rights" over her friends. That's a pretty lame reason to buy a particular engagement ring.
If someone came up to me and said, "Hey, want this Gibson Les Paul guitar in return for your significant other giving me tens of thousands of dollars?", you better believe I'd say absolutely not.
But I think you missed the point still. I criticized you for writing, "What girl wouldn't want a Tiffany ring?"
There are plenty of women who wouldn't want one, especially if it mean the person giving it to them went into debt in order to do so. There are plenty of women who wouldn't want any ring, regardless of the price. There are plenty of women who can enjoy a gift without attaching a price to it.
You make it sound like a bad thing!
Mind how you get off your high horse before you do, noble knight!
On a serious note though, I make a rule of only physically assaulting women, small children and the disabled. (Running away from someone beaten by their own guide dog is more challenging than you may think).
*raises hand* I wouldn't. I am not very fond of or impressed by things that cost more just for the sake of it. If I can get the exact same ring either way, I'd want the one that costs less. JMO though. I like things simple. I have one ring which is my engagement and wedding ring. Platinum band with non-protruding diamonds so as not to snag my hair and annoy me.
If you're curious:
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We picked it together and I got exactly what I wanted. I wonder why that doesn't happen more often.
I know you've already decided (Claddagh, very different choice from princess cut diamond but still entirely sweet, especially if she's Irish.) but should you eventually decide to go ring shopping with her, I imagine she wouldn't be disappointed in being able to choose.
I actually think i'll propose with a Claddagh Ring since I'm Irish, then we could go out together and pick out the ring she wants ... How does that sound?
That sounds much more romantic and meaningful than a tiffany ring. I'm sure she'll say 'yes' to that
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