But now you are missing the point - it still doesn't matter why Flash isn't there, yet that is the question you said we all need to ask. If Flash isn't there because Jobs said so, because magic made it happen, or for technical reasons, the consequences are the same regardless. Okay, I get it, Flash is all over the web, the iPad doesn't play it.
"Oh, I thought it didn't have Flash because Apple thought it didn't suit the device. But now you tell me it's because Steve Jobs has poor intentions! Well then, I had better change absolutely none of my behavior, because what you tell me is irrelevant to everything."
When those consumers can't watch video or see a webpage, they aren't going to blame Jobs or Adobe because they have no idea what either is. They're going to blame the webpage. It doesn't matter what they blame, either, because the website loses traffic and revenue as a result either way.
What I'm asking is why don't I have the choice to use Flash or not use it on my ipad. I'm not necessarily asking why Jobs decided not to install it, and I apologize if in some small part it sounded that way and you picked that up and amplified it.
Of course I am using myself as an example of what consumers might and probably would ask, and I don't see them blaming the webpage, especially when the device right next to the ipad in Best Buy says in big letters "plays Flash".