It's trueI rang Apple and first they tried to tell me that iLife is on the SL DVD so there should only be 2 DVDs in the box. I then pointed out that
a) it isn't on the SL DVD
b) the box says "Contents: 3 DVDs"
They're now sending me a separate iLife DVD.
Good to hear your problem is resolved -- this is very un-Apple and the first time I've hear anything like this.