I think the moral of the story for all of us is to avoid AT&T for pre-orders moving forward. I've been with the company since cingular days and even before that, when cingular was voicestream. Pre-orders on the iPhone isn't really AT&T's strong point, but it's never been this bad in as far back as I can remember.
The irony of it all is that you can still pre-order, even as people are getting shipping estimates going all the way into Thanksgiving. They obviously have every intention of milking this for all it's worth. 'Pay us now, you'll get your phones eventually, but don't worry, if you don't have one you can still pre-order.' Ridiculous. I should have just waited until the Apple site was up and running. Shame on me for not going with my gut from the beginning.
And thats my biggest beef. I ordered before NOON CST on the 12th and my shipdate is the same as someone who can place an order right this very second. How does that work exactly? It's obviously BS and not even a real date. They would be better of saying they have no idea when it will ship.