b0fh666
macrumors 6502a
women of 45 are not a good match for a dude on his 25s 😛
so, OP, basically party the hell out until you are 45-ish or so and avoid 'relationships' like the plague until then 😎
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women of 45 are not a good match for a dude on his 25s 😛
so, OP, basically party the hell out until you are 45-ish or so and avoid 'relationships' like the plague until then 😎
I don't want to be in other relationship, I just want her back guys, I know we can work things out :'(
keysofanxiety
macrumors G3
As the risk of sounding unsympathetic, there is a strong possibility that you'll review this thread in a few years time and feel extremely embarassed for how woeful you're acting.
What's done is done. Buckle up, dry your eyes, and spend your time and effort being productive and bettering yourself rather than moping about lost loves. Especially on a public forum.
Meister
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Scepticalscribe
macrumors Haswell
Wise words, especially the second paragraph.
Although others have suggested that the OP enjoy his youth, the old 'plenty of fish in the sea' style of argument, I would suggest that he take a look at himself.
While the girlfriend in question may well have checked out of the relationship some time ago, there may have been reasons other than attraction to someone else. The truth is, women tend to stray, or remove themselves from a relationship, when their needs - emotional and otherwise - are not being met.
In his OP, the OP himself has written - twice - that she said that he 'wasn't there for her'. If he is to rescue this relationship (a tall order), or ensure that a future relationship doesn't fall into the same trap, he may need to take a long, hard look at himself.
Again, wise words, and an opinion I have long held, myself.
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b0fh666
macrumors 6502a
Scepticalscribe
macrumors Haswell
Not at all incompatible when you think of the rich store of experience they can bring to bear, along with the fact that people (especially women) in their mid 40s tend to be a lot more at ease with themselves and relaxed in their own skin, and comfortable with themselves as sexual beings, in a way few young women have yet managed to achieve.
Besides, as a vastly experienced (in the ways of the world) and somewhat venerable (male) doctor of my acquaintance once observed in conversation: 'An eighteen year old male will stick it in a keyhole'. Therefore, aside from the quite notorious issues of male entitlement, most young men would do well to contemplate partnering an older lady.
Actually, I must confess that I have long been intrigued by the fact not an eye is batted at the thought of well-to-do older men (the very gentlemen whose sexual prowess may be fading and whose physical peak is best glimpsed in the rear view mirror) seeking to date women half or a third of their age, when the reverse situation, - when it happens - is so widely……….derided.
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b0fh666
macrumors 6502a
all true, but you fail to see the balzachian woman's side of things... 😀
sex, OK, anyone can do it... but a relationship? no way (based on the small universe of women that age I know, of course).
mobilehaathi
macrumors G3
SS strikes me as the sort of person who may have some insight into the "woman's side of things."
Scepticalscribe
macrumors Haswell
Ah, the spluttering stupefaction of the young male when confronted by a vista and possibilities beyond his socially defined and incredibly limited and quite narrow horizons never fails to rob me of breath....
Thank you. Yes, I think I can modestly attest to that.
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Meister
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I wasn't taking about coitus. I was just refering to relationships.
I have a hard time imagening having any meaniningful interaction with a young woman. It's sad, because men, especially in their teens and twenties, tend to feel attracted to young women. They're guided by hormones and prone to life changing errors.
The worst thing is that I always thought I was there for her, I thought I always knew when she was upset or sad. I can't forgive myself for being such a bad boyfriend with the most amazing girl.
b0fh666
macrumors 6502a
so, women in their mid-40s are generally interested in having relationships with men in their 20-s? news to me, but if you say so...
I'm male (and in the 40s), I'd find impossible to relate to a girl in her 20s... Interesting none the less
Scepticalscribe
macrumors Haswell
No, that is not what I am saying at all.
I am merely suggesting that it not be automatically excluded when considering what may constitute a valid 'relationship'.
This is because - as older women - who are so often blithely dismissed (indeed discarded) by both young and older men - are often in tune with themselves, and know who they are. So many youngsters have hardly any self awareness - the howl 'I want' does not constitute a statement of self-awareness, merely a statement of desire. Indeed, older women tend to be more sexually aware and in tune with themselves, and are often more comfortable with themselves and relatively at ease in their skin by the time they reach their forties. Moreover, they are less likely to put up with.idiotic nonsense..
You know, if you watched TV (not that I do so that often), especially the egregious variant known as US TV, one could be forgiven for coming to the conclusion that all women - indeed, like the replicants in Blade Runner - are programmed to die at the age of, say, around 35, because so few of them of a more venerable vintage are actually featured in fiction, or drama, (or portrayals of 'life'), or even on current affairs programmes (unless they are the subject matter, for which, read, probable victim).
But, just as older men write glowingly of how the fact that they are 'hardwired' (this ghastly fusion of tech jargon and a half-digested notion of biological determinism) allows them to - nay, makes it inevitable for them - to note approvingly the appealing glow of the flesh of a youthful female, I might note that a well turned leg or toned limb on a healthy young male creature can - in the right light - be a sight worth resting my (bespectacled) eyes on.
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The first thing you need to do is to stop blaming yourself. Its not your fault and there is probably very little you could have done about it. Some things are not meant to be.
Put it down to life experience there will be other similar experiences in your life probably before you hit 30. Take a break and spend time with your friends do not consider visiting her, its over.
What you are going though is not unusual but it will pass. Time is a great healer.
impulse462
macrumors 68020
sorry OP, but the "i love you...me too" line; that was hilarious. anyway who cares, just move on
Meiser, your posts throughout this whole thread are cracking me up. I agree with you.
If there's no cellulite, don't touch her.
impulse462
macrumors 68020
I was joking, but on the whole agree with him. Older women are not nearly as fickle as younger women are. They know what they want, and have a better understanding of what is fair to expect from a man.
Meister
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I know I am.
The only reason men feel attracted to young women is because they are controlled by the lowest animalistic instincts. Being with a real grown woman is so much better it's not even funny. I'd honestly just recommend to skip the tweentys and thirtys altogether.
Life is often about trade-offs.
Older women: better brains, worse bodies.
Older men: worse brains, worse bodies.
No wonder SS is lusting after the boys.
impulse462
macrumors 68020
Scepticalscribe
macrumors Haswell
Well, let us just say that it might take the form of an occasionally quietly admiring glance from a discreet distance.
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