As someone living in the US, the EU is full of people who were not elected by me, do not represent me, but somehow have a pretty heavy hand in things that could impact me. That may be where they were going with that "unelected bureaucrats" comment. If the EU wants to demand and make decisions that impact everyone, then EVERYONE should get a say in those elections. Don't want our opinions on your elections? Then butt out of our lives, stay in your own lane and worry about the EU countries that elect you.
Oh no, if one country has never ever projected its power outside of their borders it's the US. How could they do this to you?! Apologies for being flippant, but if there's one defence the US very clearly cannot fall back on then it is how unfair it is that stuff people do domestically have an impact on them.
In seriousness, though, these proposals do not tell Apple how to run their business in the US. Sticking to your line of argument, how the Europeans regulate their markets is really for them to decide on how someone living in America feels about it doesn't really matter.
If the tech companies generally find it easier to make global changes, that's really a decision they make, isn't it?