You're not forced to enable automatic over-the-air updates. Why enable it if you don't want the update? Sounds like a problem that demands the "world's smallest violin" to play.
Agreed and besides the whiners claiming they've given iOS 7 a fair chance are full of crap! It's only been public a little over a week and improvements are still ongoing! Come whine after 2-4 months also whiners need to realize like it or not tech in general is always advancing!
Eventually things get to a point where an update needs to be forced be it smart cards/passes on public transit, windows OS old enough our grandparents used, the internet etc.
Progress happens like it or not! Hell even those old folgies on iOS 1 thru 5 will eventually like be forced to update or get new devices when their equipment someday ceases working properly in 1 regard or another
Hell there's already been talk that eventually a vast majority of iOS 5 or lower apps will cease having support or working altogether with most be iOS 6 or newer only or iOS 7 and newer only
Clinging to outdated things isn't going to magically change the fact they're obsolete , stop progress from happening or magically make the outdated no longer outdated! Change and progress happen with all things in life so accept it, embrace it, deal with it and move on!