Not everyone has the option to stand in a few hours + line on launch day. I have a job, so preordering was my best option at the time. If the preorders fell to backorder status, then why randomly fill those orders? I see orders that were placed after mind for the same device and carrier get filled yet mine remains processing.
So all in all, I chose not to simply "get over it" but I appreciate the suggestion.
Then I guess you should have gotten up earlier to pre-order, if that was your only option and it was that important. Otherwise I'd have to assume it wasn't that important to you, and am confused why it's a big deal now.
As to why yours is still in processing, they get processed out and shipped in batches. It's quite possible yours is already shipped but the info from the batch has not been fully updated in the system yet.
If you really feel that wronged by Apple, refuse delivery, get a refund and buy a different phone.