I've rationalized that by her naivety
Oh yes, he's told her that he has a "girlfriend" so she uses that in her argument lol "But he has a girlfriend!" I don't understand how she doesn't realize that doesn't matter to some people?...
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My girlfriend, a hotel room, and a 30 year old
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I've rationalized that by her naivety
Oh yes, he's told her that he has a "girlfriend" so she uses that in her argument lol "But he has a girlfriend!" I don't understand how she doesn't realize that doesn't matter to some people?...
There is ZERO reason for a woman of any age to hang out with a guy of any age she used to work with who used to hit on her, in a private setting like a hotel room. If it was a bunch of people getting together I'd be more willing to believe she isn't banging this dude. Why would she want to catch up with some guy who was "upset" he didn't get to throw it in her? She doesn't work with him anymore, they have no professional relationship.
If she wasn't up to no good, she would have brought you with her. I know you want to believe she isn't ********ting you, and as would I if I were in your situation, but based on what you've said, she is playing you.
Give me one good reason why she needs to hang out with this guy. A legit one. If you're in a committed relationship with someone, there is no reason to go hang out in someone else's hotel room. If they really wanted to go catch up, they'd do it out somewhere in public. When you want to bang without getting caught, you go to a hotel.
She asked if I wanted to come to the hotel room with her. I said no, there's no reason I have to be there while you catch up with your "friend" just go to some public place like a bar or coffee shop or something.
Seems like she was more concerned about upsetting him than me lol which is awful.. but deep down I don't think she meant it that way. She's just blind...
Seems like she was more concerned about upsetting him than me lol which is awful.. but deep down I don't think she meant it that way. She's just blind...
That's her problem then. Not mine. If I have done nothing wrong and she ends it because she's that retarded then that's on her and I wouldn't want to be with someone who thinks how I'm acting is controlling and untrusting
Go get a hotel room and get some girls up in there. Tell your girl they are just coming over to watch a hockey game.
Hotel, Man and woman and a little alcohol.
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Sorry but I would never knowingly say that was ok.
First of all if she valued and respected you she never would have put herself in such a situation, one on one.
I don't buy any argument that she called you out of trust and respect.
She called to let you know she is looking at an option.
its good that you came to ask but I think your gut knows the true/right answer.
Sorry but I would never knowingly say that was ok.
First of all if she valued and respected you she never would have put herself in such a situation, one on one.
I don't buy any argument that she called you out of trust and respect.
She called to let you know she is looking at an option.
its good that you came to ask but I think your gut knows the true/right answer.
I'm on the fence simply because of her hypocriticalness. She says she would be upset if the same situation happened with you with a woman, but still does it anyway?
I would be uncomfortable in that situation as well I would admit. But I would know if she didn't have cheating intentions( of course only way of knowing this is if you trust her not to cheat), that if anything inappropriate happened she would slap him out the window and leave. It sounds like you do as well as you stated, you trust her, not him. Being reluctant to leave the hotel to go somewhere better suited is a definite red flag on his intentions.
I understand you being uncomfortable and definitely voice it to her( not in an argumentative tone or intention), but you can't control her and the moment you do is when you're in the wrong.
I would be uncomfortable in that situation as well I would admit. But I would know if she didn't have cheating intentions( of course only way of knowing this is if you trust her not to cheat), that if anything inappropriate happened she would slap him out the window and leave. It sounds like you do as well as you stated, you trust her, not him. Being reluctant to leave the hotel to go somewhere better suited is a definite red flag on his intentions.
I understand you being uncomfortable and definitely voice it to her( not in an argumentative tone or intention), but you can't control her and the moment you do is when you're in the wrong.
Trust me there is a woman out there that will value you and your trust and not text you from a hotel asking if she can spend a night with another man.
insisting to meet in his room means he had an agenda and she being ok with that means most likely something you don't approve of occurred
Face the reality of the situation, she cheated on you
Face the reality of the situation, she cheated on you
Exactly.
Then she told you part of the story to make her be able to live with it to trick her mind in to thinking she fessed up and you can now forgive her.
What was the hockey game score? She should have known the answer if she was watching it. Or maybe the TV was less important than other activities.....
I wouldn't go to meet my friend in a hotel room, nooooo waaaaay dude, just no freaking way.
Two adults in a hotel room, having a Bud, yea right.
The most important question is: she's not his friend, she was offended by him(or that's what she says and the plot started there already) so why the hell is she meeting him? Go one shoot me but really I don't know. What's to catch up here? Him molesting her? Ohhhhhh where catching this up, I forgot.
I wouldn't go to meet my friend in a hotel room, nooooo waaaaay dude, just no freaking way.
Two adults in a hotel room, having a Bud, yea right.
The most important question is: she's not his friend, she was offended by him(or that's what she says and the plot started there already) so why the hell is she meeting him? Go one shoot me but really I don't know. What's to catch up here? Him molesting her? Ohhhhhh where catching this up, I forgot.
Actually I think "beta" is more appropriate.
renewed said:
Women as a general rule can (and will) rationalize just about anything.
To the OP: it's a lot easier to start over at 22 than 32 or 42. Learn from this.
One more thing to consider here though... although I still stand with my last posts.
If she was going to cheat on you with that guy why would she even need to tell you shes going to the hotel room?
She could have just lied and said she was at a cafe or bar or something but then went to the hotel room anyway....
She its a tricky one.. but she still went against your feelings
If she was going to cheat on you with that guy why would she even need to tell you shes going to the hotel room?
She could have just lied and said she was at a cafe or bar or something but then went to the hotel room anyway....
She its a tricky one.. but she still went against your feelings
She said he offended her so the OP wouldn't question whether or not she would do anything with him. It was to ease him. If she would of said he was a really good guy and super funny then the OP would have no question.
She has you where she wants you OP... questioning your gut.
lol i was like "he's 30? really?"
"ya but he's so immature i dont think of him as that old" uh.... lol isnt that even worse? yes.