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My life is ****

A few options...

A) Go for her best friend. Doing this will surely force her to realize her true love for you.

B) Buy a guitar, some tight jeans, some flannel, and write some love songs about how depressed you are over this unrequited love, then be the coolest guy in highschool, playing your guitar in study hall, scoring babes at will.

C) Trick her into loving you. Not many people know this, but girls love to be tricked.
 
Ask her out. The worst she can do is say no. And see a doctor. Depression is nasty stuff. Don't be embarrassed, they deal with crazy people all day.

It's better to be depressed about love than about trivial things.
 
Just a quick update. Today was the last day of eighth grade. i'm done with middle School. A kid also decided to tell guidance about me being depressed, so the day was ruined. To deal with my sadness, I carve her initials/name i to my arm with a knife or a sharp object.

So a kid apparently noticed it and told guidance. Its like the 9th time I've done it, and my folks and school think its the second time. So the principal gave me my graduation paper thing and my mom picked me up. Then I had to go to a mental emergency room thing where they evaluated me, and that took about 4 hours. So I skipped the graduation and dance like I wanted. So now my parents AND school now everything and stuff.

So on monday (iOS 4 comes out that day) I'm going to see a phycologist who can hopefully make things a bit better.
 
ouimetnick said:
So now my parents AND school now everything and stuff.

So on monday (iOS 4 comes out that day) I'm going to see a phycologist who can hopefully make things a bit better.
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I'm sure it feels terrible to you at the moment, but this is a crucial first step in recovery. It's a very good thing that your parents and school know; their reactions may seem unreasonable or excessive, but they're only acting with love and a strong desire to provide you with the help you've been seeking.

Good luck with the psychologist. Don't expect an instant cure; it will take some time before you notice a change, but things will gradually start to improve. :)
 
ouimetnick said:
So a kid apparently noticed it and told guidance.
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You may feel a little hostility towards this 'kid,' but it sounds to me like she/he did you a favor. I went through things like this when I was your age and older, but didn't get much support. It took me a long time to sort out some problems, some I'm still sorting out... 20 years later.
 
yojitani said:
You may feel a little hostility towards this 'kid,' but it sounds to me like she/he did you a favor. I went through things like this when I was your age and older, but didn't get much support. It took me a long time to sort out some problems, some I'm still sorting out... 20 years later.
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Well my guidance counselor said I know this kid and amnfriends with him. I've narrowed it down to 4 people.
 
Concentrate on talking to the counsellor about your problems, don't just use it as a time to guess who told on you. To be honest, if it really was a big secret, why did you scratch your arm in a public place? Attention seeking or a cry for help?

You are only fourteen so your perspective is a little skewed. Do some voluntary work and find out what it is to have real problems. You have family who care, friends who care and the opportunity to talk to a professional. Not everyone is that lucky. Looking at the kit you have, you're quite well off as well.

Your friend asked the girl out. She said no. She knows you like her. If she was interested she would be spending time with you. If at anytime she is interested, she will spend time with you. She doesn't therefore she isn't interested. To paraphrase a recent movie, she's just not into you.

By the way, girls who turn blokes down are not necessarily lesbians. It means they may not fancy you. The lesbians thing is put about by men who lack real self confidence. The only way they can accept that a woman doesn't fancy them is by convincing themselves that she is a lesbian. :p
 
JackHobbs said:
Concentrate on talking to the counsellor about your problems, don't just use it as a time to guess who told on you. To be honest, if it really was a big secret, why did you scratch your arm in a public place? Attention seeking or a cry for help?

You are only fourteen so your perspective is a little skewed. Do some voluntary work and find out what it is to have real problems. You have family who care, friends who care and the opportunity to talk to a professional. Not everyone is that lucky. Looking at the kit you have, you're quite well off as well.

Your friend asked the girl out. She said no. She knows you like her. If she was interested she would be spending time with you. If at anytime she is interested, she will spend time with you. She doesn't therefore she isn't interested. To paraphrase a recent movie, she's just not into you.

By the way, girls who turn blokes down are not necessarily lesbians. It means they may not fancy you. The lesbians thing is put about by men who lack real self confidence. The only way they can accept that a woman doesn't fancy them is by convincing themselves that she is a lesbian. :p
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My bedroom isn't a public place. I don't scratch it in public. And we used to talk during the 6th grade and little of 7th grade. I would still talk to her even when she found out. Her friends think that maybe she is a bit "scared" because she knows I'm obsessed with her, and can't get over it. Her friends all know I'm in depression, and she knows it too.
 
1) Build a bridge.
2) Get over it.

Seriously, if this is a genuine post/thread, you're going to look back on it in five years and groan. Cutting yourself? Yeah, that's going to solve a lot. You're fourteen (or so you say). You should be riding bikes and having fun with friends, not carving some silly broad's initials into your arm. If you keep this **** up, you'll get to a point in your life where the only person who is willing to stick their face in your crotch is the damned dog.
 
renewed said:
I don't even see the point of dating or thinking about girls before the age of 18... honestly I wouldn't even deal with them until age 21-22.
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+1

Girls in high-school are idiots. They have figured out they are attractive, and can manipulate boys, not men, anyway they want.

3-4 years after high-school you will see a few things.

1. The popular cool kids won't be anybody anymore.
2. The "hot girl(s)" wont be hot any more
3. That quiet girl(s) you never really talked too have become VERY attractive.

Don't waste your time with the girls that let boys treat them like crap. Real men don't treat women like crap. These women, sadly, have been conditioned to this treatment. It is all they know, and all they will accept. You can't change them, or save them. You might save one, but the odds are against you.

Listen to everything they say. They give you hints all the time. So pay attention. "I really like that band" Buy her the CD. "I wonder if that place has ..... to eat, I really like it" Wait a few weeks and take her there.

Best way to get over her is to occupy you're self. Since your only 14, I would say this is the perfect time to prepare your self for high-school. What are you good at? What ever it is capitalize on it. Like sports? Try out for the team. Can you play the guitar? PERFECT. You'll have more women wanting you than you will know what to do with. Can you sing? Even better. Learn a few songs. Some serious ones, and some funny ones, I suggest "Show them to Me" for the funny one ;)

You have a lot of time ahead of you. Its hard now, but will look so easy when its over. Don't let it get the best of you. The more experience you have the easier things will get.
 
Shyfty said:
1) Build a bridge.
2) Get over it.

Seriously, if this is a genuine post/thread, you're going to look back on it in five years and groan. Cutting yourself? Yeah, that's going to solve a lot. You're fourteen (or so you say). You should be riding bikes and having fun with friends, not carving some silly broad's initials into your arm. If you keep this **** up, you'll get to a point in your life where the only person who is willing to stick their face in your crotch is the damned dog.
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Not phrased in the most elegant way but I completely agree.

At 14 I had crushes on girls, I went out with a couple of them. It always hurt when we split up after (OMGOSH) going out for up to (get this!) 3 weeks. Some of those girls I fancied for what seemed like forever but after the break it... yea it wasn't great but because you're so young you can just hop to the next hormonally charged teen.

I broke up with the Love-of-my-Life at 15. She soon found herself a boyfriend and was very happy with him. It hurt. So I went to a different college than her when we hit 16. On the first day I met a girl who I've now been going out with for almost 8 years. Wasn't expecting love and it just whacked me in the face.

Move on. S'all you can do. Spend time with buddies, focus on your education, go canoeing or do all 3.
 
Since u said not to make fun of u, then i won't..........there's something called time, friends and family. U will eventually grow out of this crush and move on.....there will be many more heartbroken moments and I guarantee it. Battle harden your heart and u will learn to recovery fast.
 
Dagless said:
Not phrased in the most elegant way but I completely agree.
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I apologise. I didn't realise the rule of thumb here was to phrase everything elegantly.

Easy mistake to make, you know, what with all the people floating around who can't even spell.
 
I remember those days, good luck, having crushes is awesome, made me really like my music which I would listen too when I felt down.

Advice, get some confidence, and learn to be sure of yourself, and do things for yourself and not other, then people will the drawn to you, it makes life easier.
 
ravenvii said:
I can't believe this thread is still going.

There's real **** out there, and your "issue" ain't one of them.
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You couldn't be more wrong. This may seem trivial to you, and you might have reacted differently than the OP given the same situation, but the OP's feelings are very real and clearly very painful.

I don't care how high your horse is; you have no right to judge others based on a situation over which they have no control.
 
EricNau said:
You couldn't be more wrong. This may seem trivial to you, and you might have reacted differently than the OP given the same situation, but the OP's feelings are very real and clearly very painful.

I don't care how high your horse is; you have no right to judge others based on a situation over which they have no control.
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In reality the OP might be depressed/really sad, but his presentation and reasoning is very immature.
 
Queso said:
Seriously? This is all you've got to worry about? And it's only been since September?

People are losing their houses because they've been out of work for years. Others have families that are only being fed thanks to social welfare and the kindness of friends. Still more people are watching relatives or friends die slow painful deaths from cancer, AIDS, or any number of other debilitating diseases. Even worse those relatives or friends are actually going through the pain themselves.
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It always amuses me how people expect others to feel good about their current situation just because there are people out there who are off worse then them. Just because something is better doesn't mean it's actually good.
 
rdowns said:
He's a 14 year old kid.:rolleyes:
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Age is no excuse. It may explain his actions, but it's pretty sick of any of you to be giving advice over a forum (for computers!). This kid needs professional help and he certainly hasn't been getting it here.


People, this website is for tech news! Don't come here for any real problems.
 
ravenvii said:
I can't believe this thread is still going.

There's real **** out there, and your "issue" ain't one of them.
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This. Im 18 and i think i have problems.. i bet its nothing compared to what other people have to deal with.


TuffLuffJimmy said:
Age is no excuse. It may explain his actions, but it's pretty sick of any of you to be giving advice over a forum (for computers!). This kid needs professional help and he certainly hasn't been getting it here.


People, this website is for tech news! Don't come here for any real problems.
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True, but some people feel more comfortable through anonymity. By coming here he can seek advice from many individuals and do it in confidence too. Its only a 'tech site' but alot of people here are very knowledgeable and offer great advice. Yeah his problem isn't really a problem, but I guess at the end of the day he is a kid and it seems like a problem. If he actually has serious issues, then yes, see a doctor - but it sounds asif he's just lovestruck.

Also, this 'computer forum' has a community disucssion (amongst other similar ones) for a reason - people talk about more than computers here :)
 
Thank you so much, I needed a good laugh.

If you really think your situation is special and your lack of a relationship with this loser princess is special, then maybe you have far bigger problems than the loser princess not noticing you.

That being said, been there, done that. Grow up.

That bitch doesn't deserve you, or if she does, you are bigger loser than you sound.
 
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