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My life is ****

ok, let me break this down to you.

Girls' have two categories of guy friends. One group of friends are EFFable/boyfriend material, and the other category is "just friends". The sooner you realize this, the far better off you will be.

I think every guy has been in your situation. I know i have. It is not fun. But you will grow out of it. I mean you said you don't even acknowledge this broad. Move on. You'll meet someone better.
 
Unrequited love is something everyone goes through at least once in their lifetimes, but usually even many more times than that. I know it feels like your world might be falling apart and that it'll never get better but it will, you'll see. Just hang in there, spend time doing other things you enjoy to take your mind off of her.
 
You are 14... you haven't even lived 16. Don't worry, you'll get over it. Also, believe it or not, at your age, there are other people with worse life conditions. Yours is just a temporary thing, so don't say your life is a living hell, because it is not, you make it such, you can fix it.
 
jav6454 said:
You are 14... you haven't even lived 16. Don't worry, you'll get over it. Also, believe it or not, at your age, there are other people with worse life conditions. Yours is just a temporary thing, so don't say your life is a living hell, because it is not, you make it such, you can fix it.
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I stil haven't gotten over it yet. spend time on the internet... like macrumors to take my mind off it, but its not working as well as it did. Oh, and now she has a new boyfriend.:(
 
Techhie said:
You think your life is bad?

I'd suggest looking into the thread where a 17-year-old member got his friend pregnant. :rolleyes:
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Wooo! Thats me!

Life aint so bad no more. Decided to keep the baby. I'm just working my ass off to pay for it now. :)

@OP: Your a hormonal teenager. You will feel like this. Everyone has gone through it. By the time your 15/16, you will feel a little more balanced. Honestly, I know it hurts having someone you love just not recognise your existence. But trust me, wait, don't make an ass of yourself, and your time will come eventually. Whether it is with her, or someone else. Just relax a little.
 
Eh, this girl once told me I made her sick to her stomach. She's now my wife.

That said, I would also advise not to put too much of your heart into a lady unless you intend to marry her. It might be a little too soon for that in your case now.
 
ouimetnick said:
There was about a years differnece in between. Should I have given her $10 or $14 instead?



haha :)
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neither... should have used that money towards flowers or something. but since you're scared to even talk to her, i don't know how you would go abouts getting flowers.

there are plenty of fish in the sea, relax.

the best way to get over someone is to find someone else that you're interested in and spend time with them. works and has worked for me.
 
ouimetnick said:
I don't thnk pissing her off is much of a problem. I haven't even said high to her at all in person since Last October. I should point out I had a crush on another girl in 7th grade that kinda faded out. I had a crush on the current girl since September 2008, but it was so small, I wasn't sure. But then in March 2009, I was sure. I do know her quite well. I just don't talk to her much. She might have a boyfriend, but try don't last long. I know two of them. They didn't go out longer than a month. She dumped one, and got dumped in the other. Obviously teens don't take love seriously yet. Sadly I do, but she doesn't understand. At my school when kids break up, it's no big deal. Half of then don't care when the breakup. I'm suprised hearts aren't destoyed.



I don't think she is. She has had boyfriends before.
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I need to point out some thing to you:

1. You have no idea what true love is, your 14.
2. You don't know her well if you don't even talk to her, this is called stalking.
3. Enjoy your school years, hang out with your mates and stop worrying about some girl, she isn't going to marry you at 14.

What is with kids these days.
 
Sipheren said:
I need to point out some thing to you:

1. You have no idea what true love is, your 14.
2. You don't know her well if you don't even talk to her, this is called stalking.
3. Enjoy your school years, hang out with your mates and stop worrying about some girl, she isn't going to marry you at 14.

What is with kids these days.
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FYI, I don't stalk her. I have a paper route, and her family is one of my customers, so I pass her house doing my job. And when I hang out with my friends in my neighborhood, sometimes she joins. I used to talk to her, but I lack any confidence now.
 
Right now you think this is a big ****ing situation. In a few years, you'll look back and laugh at how you over-reacted.

Since you are serious, I will offer you some advice:
(1) You will like this girl until another girl steals your brain. Attempt to find this other girl.
(2) You are likely going to sink into a deep depression. Listen to Elliott Smith. He stabbed himself with a pencil. He knows your pain.
(3) Pick up an instrument or other hobby. Get good. You will be cool in high school.
 
First of all LOL @ this thread, no offense there op, but I found it hilarious. I mean the dog (wtf?), the $11 (why on earth did you give her cash and why $11?)...you need to take life a little less seriously, it's just a crush and, as many have told you, you will get over it, don't worry.


:D
 
ouimetnick said:
Google says I have a Server Depression Disorder

-ouimetnick
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You have that too? I know I do, friggin' XServe crashes all the time...:p

Sorry couldn't resist.

Anyway, like countless others have said before, you're 14, this seems like a big deal to you now, but you will of course look back and won't believe how insignificant that is.

Of course being 14, you will also ignore really good advice(like I did when I was 14)

You just gotta make some mistakes on your own, life will hurt but the more you reach out and grow during high school the easier life will get.
 
i was ready to give advice until i realsied your 14.

Dude, your 14. Life is easy now. As you get older, it gets hard. Crap man, im 17, and i think my life is hard. I could post a thread about it, but people would say 'your only 17!' thats because i realise that in comparison, i have it easy. The same way you have it easy. I would kill to be able to go through school again, those were the best times of my life which i'll never get back. Things were easy, i didnt have to worry about a job, money, not girls so much.

Now i have a more serious relationship, i've just finished college (which i haven't done so well at) and i need to find a full time job to pay my rent and bills cause i need to start actually living because my mums buggering off elsewhere. Meanwhile, my girlfriends off to uni in september as are some of my friends, little of which i have left due to many trivial reasons. I would love to be 14 again enjoy it whilst it lasts. I know im only 3 years older than you (nearly 4 - 18 on wednesday) you have no idea how lucky you are.

Just enjoy it whilst you can kid, girls plain aren't worth this kinda worrying. I do feel for you though, im a sucker when it comes to girls!

But really, you'll get over it. Don't worry man :)
 
I had a crush once, back in freshman year. There's NO way I'd ever go out with her now, I don't know what I saw in her. I've gotten over it and have since decided not to get involved with anybody, period. Life's been good since then. Having a crush made me pretty miserable.

1. She's young. Some girls don't notice guys until the end of their teens! It's rare, but helps make a point that she may just not care for guys, yet.

2. I'm not meaning to be offensive or accusing anybody of anything, but I went to school with many girls that seemed so fun and "normal". Yet sooner or later, some twisted truth would come out that they're into all kinds of...odd stuff. I know it may sound crazy, but hey, behind closed doors...

Just give it time. One of two things will happen. You two will work something out, or you'll wonder what you ever felt for her.
 
ouimetnick said:
I stil haven't gotten over it yet. spend time on the internet... like macrumors to take my mind off it, but its not working as well as it did. Oh, and now she has a new boyfriend.:(
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Come on mate...
She even has a boyfriend now. I understand that it sucks, but hey.... you must know now that it's time to move on.

Don't watch Hollywood cr@p. Movies involving impossible love that somehow magically seem to work out are.. well... Hollywood movies: i.e. lies.
Those movies get your hopes up, but the real world tells you what reality is.

Move on.

Some much cuter girl who does like you is always around the corner. The only thing is to be at the right corner at the right time. But be at some corner! Don't waste these months sobbing about someone else's girl.
 
Ah, love advice from people who can't even distinguish the difference between your and you're. That's cute.

Kid, this is life. It's a never ending loop of bull****. One day you'll wake up in your 30's and figure out the one person who said they'd never let you down or never lie to you won't even nod in your general direction at the supermarket. It happens. You either figure out how to accept this or you're doomed. Find little things that please you and build from there. You're 14, it gets better and worse as you grow. Sometimes if you're lucky the better outweighs the worse.
 
To the OP: Will you please do me a favor? Print out this whole thread, put it in an envelope and open it in 10 more years.
 
jessica. said:
Ah, love advice from people who can't even distinguish the difference between your and you're. That's cute.
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People with bad spelling/grammar can absolutely dole out relationship advice. My suggestion is to talk to her most of the month, and then stop doing so when she's having her period. She'll comma round eventually.
 
This actually all made me laugh a little, I thought it was a trolling joke at first too.

I know everything in an individual's life is relative to what's going on for them...However, dude you really need to just move on with this. You're 14 years old? You've got plenty more girls to fall for and have your heart broken by...start with the next one as soon as possible. For you to say your life is **** because of a teenage crush is a bit selfish. The sooner you can realize that the easier your life will get. If you think your life is ****, try to imagine the other 14 year old in this country and throughout the world who can't be bothered by getting over a crush because they can barely find their next meal.
 
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