We do have get togethers outside of bars as well and take photos. Why so bitter about people wanting photos at a bar while having a good time? Don't say you're not bitter because you stated you you hated it when people do it. People don't plan ahead to take photos at bars with friends. They are usually spontaneous acts.
I’m not sure you understand what bitter means, but for the most part you’ve been civil with your questions, so I’ll try to explain some of the reasons why people may not like people taking pictures in bars— and this isn’t an obscure opinion, it was one of the failure modes for Google Glass and different jurisdictions have taken actions to limit some of the downsides of ubiquitous connected digital photography.
So why do people not like cameras in bars?
Maybe it’s because when you record everything, you remember nothing. Pictures with the trophy, I get. Pictures in the bar after every game, I don’t. But to each their own.
Maybe it’s because I’m more of a photographer than a model and don’t particularly like being in front of a camera. My friends know that, you don’t, and you probably aren’t asking me before catching me in frame. It’s inconsiderate.
Maybe it’s because I think when I’m out with friends I should be focused on them in the moment and not on publishing the events of the day or on watching someone else’s evening. Drives me nuts when I’m hanging out with someone and they’re constantly taking pictures to share and then obsessing over the responses and watching everyone else’s feed.
You say everything is spontaneous, but I disagree— people act differently when they’re being recorded.
Maybe it’s because I don’t like the fact that my image, voice and words can be put into the public domain to be viewed, scanned, analyzed and cross referenced without my consent. I’m not alone in this either— the EU GDPR rules now prohibit posting people’s photo online without their permission.
So if I’m “bitter” about bar photos, it’s in the same way I’m “bitter” about bar fights, and people who vomit in the corner, but that’s not the meaning that “bitter” generally conveys. I don’t care if you’re having a good time, I just don’t want your enjoyment to infringe on mine.
All of that said, "night mode" will go some way toward making this less annoying for me: my biggest issue actually is that a flash in a dark bar or restaurant is really distracting to other patrons even when they aren’t in-frame. On the other hand it may raise more issues for the people who hated Google Glass. I think the problem with Glass was that people never knew if you were taking a picture or not. When there’s a flash, it’s obvious. With these night modes, it no longer is.
Concerns about taking pictures without others knowing is the reason the entire country of Japan prevents muting of the shutter sound.