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Ohhhh boy have I got a girl story for you guys.
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OP, you and the Mrs. ought to watch Fatal Attraction together.
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I'd prefer a controlling partner than somebody who insists on mutilating myself to prove my love to her. Next she'll be asking for the OP to pierce his genitals to prove he really does love her.
Don't have children, either of you. Oh, and maybe aluminum foil would help ward off the alien rays.
Is there something that perhaps is lost in cultural translation?
Anyways she doesn't sound too crazy as females can have weird rationality for what they want. In any case take it slower and see if you can shake these things off her mine, perhaps it comes from uncertainty...
Anyways she doesn't sound too crazy as females can have weird rationality for what they want. In any case take it slower and see if you can shake these things off her mine, perhaps it comes from uncertainty...
I used to think I had a high tolerance for crazy, til I read the OP. Wow. I cut em loose at about 15% of that.
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When a partner asks to do something to 'prove' you love them, end the relationship cold. No 'just friends' business. That type of obsessive behavior can escalate into something much worse than what you've experienced. My advice is to get away from her. Don't call her. Delete her phone number etc. Get her out of your life as much as you can. If she tries to track you down outside of work or your apartment, make a polite excuse and get away. Although there is a lot to laugh at here, I know from experience that this can turn into a non-laughing matter very quickly.
In response to the Op, conditions on "love" is no love at all. Getting a Tat, proves nothing, only possessing. You may indeed have "Feelings" for her, but that is not enough for a relationship. Just observation. No advice, as its your life, not mine.
sounds like a person with a narcissistic personality disorder, or perhaps someone with a manic streak.
Avoid at all costs. It will go badly if you let it go long enough.
Get out. Flee. All advice stated repeatedly above.
For the record, the moment a woman scratches me, strikes me, or otherwise physically assaults me, I will invoke the "equality" defense and call the cops. Being female, or angry, does not confer permission to commit assault. Think very hard about spending your life with a person capable of inflicting harm on you when they are irrational. This is called "domestic violence" and it isn't fun.
Avoid at all costs. It will go badly if you let it go long enough.
Get out. Flee. All advice stated repeatedly above.
For the record, the moment a woman scratches me, strikes me, or otherwise physically assaults me, I will invoke the "equality" defense and call the cops. Being female, or angry, does not confer permission to commit assault. Think very hard about spending your life with a person capable of inflicting harm on you when they are irrational. This is called "domestic violence" and it isn't fun.
Wow - that's quite a story. Early on in college I got myself into a pretty horrible relationship (although not nearly as bad as yours) but put up with it because the girl was hot and had a healthy libido.
I'm glad I finally listened to my friends and got out - it was lesson well learned.
I'm glad I finally listened to my friends and got out - it was lesson well learned.
Wow. This is the stuff of great books. Maybe you should write a novel... It would certainly be, well, different. 
And also, this may sound crazy, but did you post at least a part of your story a while a go, because I have a massive sense of deja vu when I read this. I have a pretty good memory. Maybe I'm as crazy as you guys....
Well, if I were you, I would get out now. Just look at what you've written. You get into fights a lot, you've been on and off, she gets angry at you for the smallest things (not looking at her!?!?!) and she wants you to get a permanent tattoo. A frikin' permanent tattoo!?!?
I know that you say that you love her, but we as humans, when we look back on past events tend to put a rose tint on everything. So next time you look back don't just remember that you love her, think of all the other times, when you didn't, when she got angry at you for the slightest things, when she was disloyal, when she was mean and when she pushes your buttons.
It's your choice in the end but as your leaving Seoul so soon just keep in mind that it probably won't be long term, and if you want it to be, do you really want to have a long distance relationship with her. But if you really love her you can try and make it work if that's what you want. Not members on this thread, not her, not your friends not anyone but you.
King Mook Mook
And also, this may sound crazy, but did you post at least a part of your story a while a go, because I have a massive sense of deja vu when I read this. I have a pretty good memory. Maybe I'm as crazy as you guys....
Well, if I were you, I would get out now. Just look at what you've written. You get into fights a lot, you've been on and off, she gets angry at you for the smallest things (not looking at her!?!?!) and she wants you to get a permanent tattoo. A frikin' permanent tattoo!?!?
I know that you say that you love her, but we as humans, when we look back on past events tend to put a rose tint on everything. So next time you look back don't just remember that you love her, think of all the other times, when you didn't, when she got angry at you for the slightest things, when she was disloyal, when she was mean and when she pushes your buttons.
It's your choice in the end but as your leaving Seoul so soon just keep in mind that it probably won't be long term, and if you want it to be, do you really want to have a long distance relationship with her. But if you really love her you can try and make it work if that's what you want. Not members on this thread, not her, not your friends not anyone but you.
King Mook Mook
Both. I suggest the OP get counseling immediately. This is not the way a relationship should be. It's abusive physically and mentally.
lol wow.. what a story! rather intense.
OP you know what to do. the answer is right there. muster up the courage and be strong.
OP you know what to do. the answer is right there. muster up the courage and be strong.
Thanks for the responses everyone. I'm surprised so many people read the whole thing.
It's weird, because I've been with great girls who are easy to be with and please, but I seem to get hung up on the psycho ones, and this one is definitely the most psycho I've met. I admit I'm not perfect either.
It's weird, because I've been with great girls who are easy to be with and please, but I seem to get hung up on the psycho ones, and this one is definitely the most psycho I've met. I admit I'm not perfect either.
You're part of the problem, babe. You need to go see somebody about this. This is NOT OK. You holding on to people who abuse you and even drive you to near violence is extremely problematic.
Dump this crazy woman and go find a therapist. I'm not joking.
Thanks for caring, Lee. You're always insightful. I've been to a therapist many times before, so it's clear I have issues as well. I always put other people, even the bad ones, ahead of myself. I guess I'm due for some 'me' time.
I just hate the thought of being alone. When I'm alone, I get bored, and when I get bored, I get depressed. Korea has a way of sucking the life out of you.
I just hate the thought of being alone. When I'm alone, I get bored, and when I get bored, I get depressed. Korea has a way of sucking the life out of you.
