I think it is to everyone's benefit to know how to be comfortable by yourself imo
You do not have to be bored if alone either.
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I think it is to everyone's benefit to know how to be comfortable by yourself imo
You do not have to be bored if alone either.
This is something that is wrong with me. Me and my gf are coming up on 3 years going out, we are flying along - its a great relationship. But the last 2 months and for the next few weeks she is helping out her friends family two hrs south from me - I am totally struggling being alone all week and I just get really bummed. Its like I always want to know what she is doing and I want to be apart of it because its fun. Sure I hang out with my own friends but you can only do that so much. Buying the ps3 has helped though! Eh anyway Idk
It's not Korea, it's you. I don't mean to be harsh, but I heard this line so much from ex-pats when I lived in Japan and believed it until I realized that the truth was closer to the opposite of that. Not entirely the opposite though. I think those people, not unlike what you've said about yourself, had other issues they needed to sort out. Please do take care of yourself and get away from that woman!
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You said in your post that you were happy when you thought she was going to leave you because you had just bought a new pair of shoes and had gotten a haircut. If that's all it takes to get over her, I would suggest trying it again.
Do you lead a very hectic lifestyle? Your thinking and logic sound a bit manic. You might benefit from spending time in quiet reflection and getting to know yourself, slowly. Maybe try not dating for 5 years or so. I'm not saying that sarcastically either.
Do you lead a very hectic lifestyle? Your thinking and logic sound a bit manic. You might benefit from spending time in quiet reflection and getting to know yourself, slowly. Maybe try not dating for 5 years or so. I'm not saying that sarcastically either.
I have to wonder if this has something to do with the type of people who "need" or crave constant adventure being the ones who would move to a different continent. But then they move to the different continent and find themselves without friends or anyone to hang out with. I could see that being very difficult, ESPECIALLY for a person who needs constant attention.
Luckily, I crave time alone. I rarely get it any more, but when I do, I soak up every minute of it. Can't get enough! That doesn't mean that I don't take every opportunity I can to hang out with friends, but I can easily go for weeks without needing to be around others.
Oh, and OP...holy crap, man. Get the f--- out. You absolutely have some psychological issues if you are staying in that kind of relationship. It seems to me you crave her control and the attention, because there is no sex good enough and no girl hot enough to put up with that kind of psychotic behavior.
Learning to be alone is one of the best things you can do. It's not easy, but I think you'll find that once you figure that out, your relationships will get much healthier.
If you don't, you're going to keep attracting abusive people because they'll know you're more afraid to be alone than you are of their abuse.
And dammit- you're too damn cute and sweet for me to just sit here and say nothing. Now run along- you've got a psycho to dump.
She's a crazy bitch, and you're a lying crazy a******. She had some really weird/crazy demands from you, and her jealous attitude isn't healthy. However, you lied often, and strung her along by telling her that you'd do all those things. You didn't do it. That, and you didn't treat her very well. You're just another s***ty boyfriend. If you think she deserves it because she's crazy as well, then let me remind you that the simple solution would be to dump her, not be a bigger a******.
I don't think either of you deserve to be happy.
Stop punishing others by getting into relationships with women. Same goes for her with regards to dating men. Sort yourselves out first, and then....maybe.
I remember THIS thread of yours. Judging from your account of things --- mission accomplished. It's always going to be the same old problems until you sort your shiz out first.
I don't think either of you deserve to be happy.
Stop punishing others by getting into relationships with women. Same goes for her with regards to dating men. Sort yourselves out first, and then....maybe.
I remember THIS thread of yours. Judging from your account of things --- mission accomplished.
It's always going to be the same old problems until you sort your shiz out first.
While I haven't been with a woman as cazy as this, I do have past experience dating women who are similar. After years of trial and error I was finally able to be honest with myself and found that I was only dating them for the sense of excitement and physical pleasure they would give me. I was not in love with them - but rather the idea of us being in love.
While I know our two situations are not entirely exact, I think it's safe to say that you are just looking for that 'fix'. This isn't a movie where the quirky girl and the quirky guy somehow find true love. This is real life - the girl is crazy and you are dillusioned in thinking she is anything but.
While I know our two situations are not entirely exact, I think it's safe to say that you are just looking for that 'fix'. This isn't a movie where the quirky girl and the quirky guy somehow find true love. This is real life - the girl is crazy and you are dillusioned in thinking she is anything but.
I think the OP enjoys the crazy factor in this relationship. Probibly with her because she's crazy in bed too. They usually are. Whatever you'' do don't get her pregnant. Tired of seeing screwballs having kids.
He is not going to dump her. I have been in a similar situation. A very physical relationship is nice. (for a while) Talk more about the tattoo. If she doesnt bend, and you want to stay with her, I say get the effen tattoo. You can always cover it up! (Just think of the sex you will get with her name on your arm!)
P.S. I have never been a fan of putting a girls name on my body, but if my crazy ex told me to do that, and she'd come back to me... I'd be at the nearest tattoo parlor ASAP!
P.S. I have never been a fan of putting a girls name on my body, but if my crazy ex told me to do that, and she'd come back to me... I'd be at the nearest tattoo parlor ASAP!
Tell her you are saving your money for something a bit more substantial in the commitment department...and it will change your relationship FOREVER...she will think its a engagement/wedding ring...and it could be but it could also be a plane ticket out of there.
That's the most f***ed up ting I've ever heard. You need to get to a therapist as well.
