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Ohhhh boy have I got a girl story for you guys.
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believe me , it isn't ...It has to be a fictional story
i reposted it on an asian board and they are laughing themselves sick over it...
sooooo typical of the current crop of females over there , and the guys are just that clueless...
Can you give me a link to the post? I'd love to see what others have to say about it.
2 days and no contact. It's not a total victory, but it's a start.
You are both what we in medical terms describe as "******* crazy". You should never see or speak to her again, and you should see someone professional (not a hooker) for your abandonment issues.
Thanks for the diagnosis, doctor. From where did you obtain your PhD?
Also, I see you're pretty new here. Swearing isn't really tolerated here.
I've never been abused in any way, other than this relationship I'd say. Good parents, good teachers, good schools... Actually I have a degree in psychology. I can see how the relationship is unhealthy, but quite frankly, being 25, the physicality of the relationship kind of negates many of the negative aspects.
No it isn't. A bunch of guys on the internet who actually complain about women like that are typically just losers who really have no experience with women. They can't get a girl, and so they complain about every aspect of women in their area so that they can convince themselves that it's women's fault. Besides, in some areas in Asia, and in some families, if a woman complains about things, even if they're sensible, then she's trouble.
I know lots of asian girls, all from countries like Korea, Japan, China, Hong Kong, Taiwan, and Thailand, and I haven't met all these crazy, demanding girls. I was the club president of a cultural society at uni, and over half were Japanese girls. I knew most of the other clubs, and their members. Most of them were girls as well. I know some girls who could be described as "demanding", but I also know girls like that in Canada, in Australia, the UK, Portugal, etc. What does that prove?
Oh, and my girlfriend is from Japan --- born and raised. My ex-girlfriend was from Taiwan -- born and raised. I'm Chinese, have been to Asia over 20 times. Some of my best friends are from Hong Kong, and I still go there to visit relatives. None of them are like that, and neither are their friends.
So yes, I'm confused by the generalisations.
No it isn't. A bunch of guys on the internet who actually complain about women like that are typically just losers who really have no experience with women. They can't get a girl, and so they complain about every aspect of women in their area so that they can convince themselves that it's women's fault. Besides, in some areas in Asia, and in some families, if a woman complains about things, even if they're sensible, then she's trouble.
I know lots of asian girls, all from countries like Korea, Japan, China, Hong Kong, Taiwan, and Thailand, and I haven't met all these crazy, demanding girls. I was the club president of a cultural society at uni, and over half were Japanese girls. I knew most of the other clubs, and their members. Most of them were girls as well. I know some girls who could be described as "demanding", but I also know girls like that in Canada, in Australia, the UK, Portugal, etc. What does that prove?
Oh, and my girlfriend is from Japan --- born and raised. My ex-girlfriend was from Taiwan -- born and raised. I'm Chinese, have been to Asia over 20 times. Some of my best friends are from Hong Kong, and I still go there to visit relatives. None of them are like that, and neither are their friends.
So yes, I'm confused by the generalisations.
Anecdotal evidence fight! My experiences can beat up your experiences.
i speak this from personal experience. heavy, personal experience.
trust me, i had all my friends telling me the same but i wouldn't listen to them at the time, but your in a trance man! now i look at it, i can see it from my friends and family points of view, and i was a bloody idiot to stay with the girl i was with! mate, you need to GTFO. right now. just, leave it. there is so much trouble that you know shes not the right one. it was the same for me as well... after all the **** i knew she wasnt the one i wanted to be with forever, and i knew it wasnt worth it, cause of allll the sh*t, and it ended.
I'm a happier man now, alot happier.
trust me, i had all my friends telling me the same but i wouldn't listen to them at the time, but your in a trance man! now i look at it, i can see it from my friends and family points of view, and i was a bloody idiot to stay with the girl i was with! mate, you need to GTFO. right now. just, leave it. there is so much trouble that you know shes not the right one. it was the same for me as well... after all the **** i knew she wasnt the one i wanted to be with forever, and i knew it wasnt worth it, cause of allll the sh*t, and it ended.
I'm a happier man now, alot happier.
I know lots of asian girls, all from countries like Korea, Japan, China, Hong Kong, Taiwan, and Thailand, and I haven't met all these crazy, demanding girls. I was the club president of a cultural society at uni, and over half were Japanese girls. I knew most of the other clubs, and their members. Most of them were girls as well. I know some girls who could be described as "demanding", but I also know girls like that in Canada, in Australia, the UK, Portugal, etc. What does that prove?
Heeeeey! I hope you don't mean me!
Heeeeey! I hope you don't mean me!
He does.
I see the OP marrying this girl to continue the misery. I'm just wondering where she'll want the chain attached for the ball and chain.
He does.
I see the OP marrying this girl to continue the misery. I'm just wondering where she'll want the chain attached for the ball and chain.
Isn't it obvious?
In the end it sounds like they do love each other in a strange way.... sounds like a Dom/sub relationship....
She's pushy, obnoxious, violent, high maintenance, possessive, etc. etc. etc.- and that's just some of the stuff you've told us about.. You're not really looking for advice are you? Seriously? Please tell us you just wanted to share a story about a dysfunctional relationship you WERE (key word) in.. Hey, we've all found ourselves in one of them- and if you haven't, you will.. It's all good..
If you're really looking for advice- man up, tell the nut job she's completely out of line and if she ever hopes to keep a man (or woman- let's just say "Partner") she needs to get that crap under control.. Thru therapy if need be.. Do the right thing for both of you & cut ties completely- no drunk texts or after hour booty calls..
Be prepared to change your phone #, email, facebook, street address etc.etc.. May sound extreme but she's already shown she's capable of physical violence and I'm pretty sure EVERYONE who was arrested, injured, or worse, as a result of domestic violence didn't think it could possibly escalate to that- they all thought "that could never happen to me".. Damn right it can.. NOTHING GOOD CAN COME FROM THIS.. If the "Honeymoon period" is like this what will it be like in a few years... RUN LIKE HELL!!!
Oh, and bring your rabbit indoors from now on- ya never know..
If you're really looking for advice- man up, tell the nut job she's completely out of line and if she ever hopes to keep a man (or woman- let's just say "Partner") she needs to get that crap under control.. Thru therapy if need be.. Do the right thing for both of you & cut ties completely- no drunk texts or after hour booty calls..
Be prepared to change your phone #, email, facebook, street address etc.etc.. May sound extreme but she's already shown she's capable of physical violence and I'm pretty sure EVERYONE who was arrested, injured, or worse, as a result of domestic violence didn't think it could possibly escalate to that- they all thought "that could never happen to me".. Damn right it can.. NOTHING GOOD CAN COME FROM THIS.. If the "Honeymoon period" is like this what will it be like in a few years... RUN LIKE HELL!!!
Oh, and bring your rabbit indoors from now on- ya never know..
This just about sums it up right here. Wow.
Unless you like the drama, run for the hills.
Oh, and question? When is she getting a tattoo of your name on her?
First of all, my PhD is courtesy of Neverland University. Second, as long as nothing is cencored, you can't really complain about my language.
Third, and a wee bit more serious, if you did a weighed estimate of the value of that relationship and you feel that the physicality of it negates all the bad things, it would seem that you have some sort of issues, because she is treating you like crap and you seem to both be unhappy. Also, you don't need to come from a bad home to have issues with things like abandonment (and a host of other things). As for your degree in Psychology, it might actually impair you when looking at yourself. It wouldn't surprise me if it did.
It seems to me that she has some sort of bipolar disorder, judging from the way she reacts in extremes.
My graduate degree is not from an imaginary university and my professional license is not from an imaginary board of examiners. So, take it from a genuine professional therapist:
"FOR GOODNESS SAKE THINK ABOUT THE CHLDREN!!!!!!"
Stop having sex with this woman immediately. Having a child with her would be a terrible tragedy. And don't give me any excuses about being "safe". From what you have described nothing about this relationship is safe or beyond reason for the two of you. At present she is asking for a tatoo, a "permanent" sign of your love for her. What else do women often look to as a "permanent" bond with their partner? Hmm... ? Seriously, don't mess up an innocent child's life because of the "physicality of the relationship".
Lee and Abstract's thoughts are very on target so I won't repeat. I'll just say, put that degree in psychology to good use, go back and review Prochaska and DiClementes stages of change and get through this contemplation phase quickly.
No it isn't. A bunch of guys on the internet who actually complain about women like that are typically just losers who really have no experience with women. They can't get a girl, and so they complain about every aspect of women in their area so that they can convince themselves that it's women's fault. Besides, in some areas in Asia, and in some families, if a woman complains about things, even if they're sensible, then she's trouble.
I know lots of asian girls, all from countries like Korea, Japan, China, Hong Kong, Taiwan, and Thailand, and I haven't met all these crazy, demanding girls. I was the club president of a cultural society at uni, and over half were Japanese girls. I knew most of the other clubs, and their members. Most of them were girls as well. I know some girls who could be described as "demanding", but I also know girls like that in Canada, in Australia, the UK, Portugal, etc. What does that prove?
Oh, and my girlfriend is from Japan --- born and raised. My ex-girlfriend was from Taiwan -- born and raised. I'm Chinese, have been to Asia over 20 times. Some of my best friends are from Hong Kong, and I still go there to visit relatives. None of them are like that, and neither are their friends.
So yes, I'm confused by the generalisations.
I agree. These are not generalizations but racial and gender stereotypes - persistent ones that drive a whole movie like Shutter and elements in movies like Lost in Translation. Don't be confused, be disappointed.
if a girl told me that the only way she would stay with me is if i got a tat that she wanted, id tell her to F off and that if she really loved me she wouldn't make me mutilate my body!
And i have had my share of psycho girls (none of which have asked me of such a task) and i am pretty psycho myself...
And i have had my share of psycho girls (none of which have asked me of such a task) and i am pretty psycho myself...
