Ghall is obviously a young man of character, as evinced by his spelling and punctuation! Iscariot and I obviously agree that he deserves the benefit of a doubt and our best wishes.
I think a lot of the fashion advice here is good, even if it is not as tactfully stated was Iscariot's. As a self-professed "nerd," you are certainly at risk for the unkempt, no-self-respect, clothes-don't-matter-so-I'm-going-to-continue-to-dress-like-a-toddler look that the posters here seem to suspect and that "hot" girls abhor.
The "preppy" advice is worthwhile -- that is what kids today, even the "hip-hop" kids, are doing. Girls spend a lot of time preparing to look "hot" (even if they are doing it largely for one another, as kind of a pack-heirarchy ritual) and they may reasonably expect you to do some work, too.
But I think you can do it, man! You're a good guy with a sense of humor and, I think, some personal insight. I continue to have a bad feeling about this particular girl, but I'm wrong a lot, and there are lots of great girls. I told my own son, "You know, [son], the thing about girls is that they're ALL great! Prissy girls, athletic girls, intellectual girls -- amazing, all of them!"
I don't know that any of us have helped with "three years of hopes and dreams." I just posted because I thought you were misunderstanding this girl's intentions. We all are pulling for you, though. You've certainly charmed the forum, especially, it seems, "Mad Jew"!