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Question about girl and STDs.

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uberamd said:
Er... did you see what his reply was to the guy who gave the long, good advice? I directed my comment at his reply to that. Its good that he is asking, but someone gave good, thought out advice to him and he said he already knew plenty. If thats the case, why did he even ask?
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I see your point. It just seems that a lot of this is getting blown out of proportion though.

But I also think he was just looking for some reassurance, not a lecture. Knowing about something is different when one potentially has to face it in real life. ;)
 
People lie on their taxes and in bed.

This week I had to deliver news to a patient that he was a new HIV converter. He remarked that his only sexual partner since his last negative HIV test had said he was "clean" and had "tested negative".

Real life experience - try to learn from it.
 
eawmp1 said:
People lie on their taxes and in bed.

This week I had to deliver news to a patient that he was a new HIV converter. He remarked that his only sexual partner since his last negative HIV test had said he was "clean" and had "tested negative".

Real life experience - try to learn from it.
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Yep - you NEVER trust what anybody says about that stuff.
 
MegaMillions said:
Alright thanks everybody. Consensus reached: She will get tested, or I will remain a virgin for now.
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Smart boy (not being derogatory, I just happen to be very sure that you are much younger than I am). You are smarter than most.

And it's good to see that you got some very useful information from the community here. It doesn't always work out that way.:eek:
 
Never take anything on assumption. It always, always pays to be safe, especially with something like this, because one slip is all it takes to change you life.
 
Well, AIDS takes 6 months to detect. So does that mean I can't safely do this until six months from now when her negative HIV test shows up?

Do you think there's actually a chance she could give me AIDS, even though neither of the guys she did it with have it, and they used condoms?
 
It depends on when they were tested, when she was tested, and whether everyone is being truthful.

The best advice you'll ever get on this subject is this: use a condom, no matter what anybody tells you to the contrary. If you get any resistance, run. If your gut tells you something is amiss, then it very well could be - run.

Having sex, whether it's your first time or not, is not a time to start thinking with your knob rather than your cranium.
 
I'm going to make this short and to the point: 1) assume anyone you have sex with has an STD and take the appropriate precautions (condoms, etc.); 2) go out there and ENJOY HAVING SEX!!! Ignore the moralistic pronouncements from the Temperance Society on here.
 
MegaMillions said:
Well, AIDS takes 6 months to detect. So does that mean I can't safely do this until six months from now when her negative HIV test shows up?

Do you think there's actually a chance she could give me AIDS, even though neither of the guys she did it with have it, and they used condoms?
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no, it means you can do it now,
take every sensible precaution.

you should always test yourself and your new partner before having any sort of sexual activity. It is just common sense.
Any person who says no to testing, i say No to.
 
Just my two cents here...

That she calls STD testing invasive is really not sitting right with me.

Does she mean embarrassing?

STD testing is performed either via a pap smear procedure, or a blood test. If she's sexually active, she should be getting routine gynecological exams anyways, and an STD test is not more invasive than that. And if it's a blood test, that's hardly invasive at all.

I know it was mentioned before, but that bit just really sounds a bit suspect to me.

Other than that; however, all the advice has been good, IMO. STDs can be passed in ways other than penetrative intercourse, HIV takes a while to show up on blood panels so use condoms anyways, don't take anyone's word, and etc.
 
Leareth said:
no, it means you can do it now,
take every sensible precaution.

you should always test yourself and your new partner before having any sort of sexual activity. It is just common sense.
Any person who says no to testing, i say No to.
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But she didn't say no to testing. It's just impossible to detect HIV until 6 months after contraction.
 
MegaMillions said:
Right, but that other guy said it means I can do it now, and just take every precaution.
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Sure, as long as you're convinced that everyone's being truthful - it's not like any lovers in this world have ever lied to each other about anything, right? :rolleyes:

The smartest thing is just like you said - take every precaution.
 
dukebound85 said:
since when is having only 2 sexual partners whore'ish?
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Sadly, people set their standards lower. I've been having sex since the end of middle school (a mistake I've realized) and I made hella sure that my wife never had sex before. I can't imagine having a partner who has had casual sex with someone besides me. Good thing she doesn't think the same.
 
spaceboots06 said:
Sadly, people set their standards lower. I've been having sex since the end of middle school (a mistake I've realized) and I made hella sure that my wife never had sex before. I can't imagine having a partner who has had casual sex with someone besides me. Good thing she doesn't think the same.
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Double standards much?
leekohler said:
Let's face it- infidelity happens.
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Not always.
pelicanflip said:
Condoms are not 100% fullproof. End of story. Only way to guarantee not getting an STD is by not having sex.
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Yup. Never fully rely on one.

Threads like this make me thankful both me and teh girlfriends only sexual partners have been each other. No worryings over STD's, which is just as well since I'm a natural worrier anyways.
 
Well, of course i'm gonna use a condom.

So, considering that, and considering that she most likely is clean... that's pretty damn safe, right?
 
jessica. said:
Honestly, I'd stay away from that dirty girl.
If you're worried and she won't get a test then she's not worth having.
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i think this....
dukebound85 said:
since when is having only 2 sexual partners whore'ish?
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... sums up what i think perfectly. :rolleyes:

MegaMillions said:
Well, of course i'm gonna use a condom.

So, considering that, and considering that she most likely is clean... that's pretty damn safe, right?
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yeaaa as clean as it gets!!! go for it!
 
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