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She’s ignoring my texts, except last night she did text but she’s been silent since mentioned she’s busy with family. More like she just doesn’t want to argue probably.

I’m going to leave her.

I know, I know, I’ve said this before.

But this time I’m not dumping her. No drama. No fan fare. No big show. No arguing. No me telling her I’m leaving.

Just going to pull away.

A man can only care so much until the benefit of caring is less than the benefit of moving on.

I’ve reached that point.
 
Hieveryone said:
She’s ignoring my texts, except last night she did text but she’s been silent since mentioned she’s busy with family. More like she just doesn’t want to argue probably.

I’m going to leave her.

I know, I know, I’ve said this before.

But this time I’m not dumping her. No drama. No fan fare. No big show. No arguing. No me telling her I’m leaving.

Just going to pull away.

A man can only care so much until the benefit of caring is less than the benefit of moving on.

I’ve reached that point.
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Are you running a social experiment here on MRs? 😝 I’m having some trouble not believing this is some kind of new fangled Reality Thread featurette like Real Housewives, but with audience participation in text format. :)
 
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Hieveryone said:
Well, y’all were both right and wrong.

1) I relapsed on my caffeine addiction. Been drinking Large amounts over the last 48 hours.

2) I’ve been a nervous wreck. Had a horrendous mental breakdown Christmas Eve bc of family issues.

3) Having an EPIC mental breakdown on Christmas today because of girlfriend issues.

She posted on social media and her ex started commenting and she started replying. they’re in the same city and I know they talk. He always texts her when she’s with me but she always tells him to stop texting and then he does.

I’m having the worst mental breakdown I’ve had in a year, fueled I believe mainly by the sudden spike in caffeine I’m drinking.

I’m probably just over reacting about the girl.

I have no more anti anxiety medication. I finished my last emergency pill.

And here I am, wide awake, can’t sleep, nervous, anxious, I can’t express this feeling. I’m living in hades right now.
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Not sure if you are serious or not, but if you are:

You are clinging too much. What’s so special about her? Out of billions of other people... what makes you think she is worth putting yourself through all this. What’s the worst case scenario?

There are more important things in life. Go stare at a tree and remember what it’s like to be a child again.

Remember what the excitement of love is like. This definitely isn’t it. Do some self examination.
 
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Gutwrench said:
Get cracking because it’s sounding like she already dumped you.
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In his case it does not matter as he always played a second fiddle. Just the very words he chooses: "leaving" which means I am too weak and have to surrender/leave. He seems incapable of assertive action of dumping her and actually getting some moral satisfaction from being able to call a shot.
 
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So, the sorry saga continues. Groundhog Day for Dating; sounds as though the OP needs to take a class in whatever the romantic equivalent of Remedial Potions is.

Only a few posts (and days ago) the OP was discussing marriage and children with this lady and now - entirely predictably - there are fresh tempests, explosions and "relationship" ruptures.

Expect reconciliation to occur shortly, followed by meaningful Discussion about Marriage, The Shared Future, and The Possibility of the Pitter Patter of Tiny Feet.

Rinse, repeat.
 
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Everything’s fine. We made it official.

I think the caffeine messed me up to be honest

I started drinking the same amount I used to drink (400mg) after having had zero for many months because I thought what the heck it’s Christmas let’s celebrate lol (I DO love caffeine, but at night it’s horrendous anxiety). I’m still on edge from the whole thing.
 
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After a few months of dating it gets to the muddy area like what are we and I just confirmed what we are.

obviously we’ve talked about marriage So it should be obvious

but social media can mess things up sometimes and raise doubts
 
Hieveryone said:
Everything’s fine. We made it official.

I think the caffeine messed me up to be honest

I started drinking the same amount I used to drink (400mg) after having had zero for many months because I thought what the heck it’s Christmas let’s celebrate lol (I DO love caffeine, but at night it’s horrendous anxiety). I’m still on edge from the whole thing.
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There is a distinct lack of clarity in this post: But, then, in drama studies, it is said that ambiguity keeps the audience on edge, attentive and on tenterhooks, while philosophers may argue that ambiguity is a default setting, as everything is subjective anyway. And journalists are thought to report facts, although some report facts that.....not facts......or fake facts.

Anyway, clarification would be greatly welcomed: What is official?

Is the Break-Up Official, or is the Reconciliation Official? Inquiring minds want to know.
 
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Hieveryone said:
She’s ignoring my texts, except last night she did text but she’s been silent since mentioned she’s busy with family. More like she just doesn’t want to argue probably.

I’m going to leave her.

I know, I know, I’ve said this before.

But this time I’m not dumping her. No drama. No fan fare. No big show. No arguing. No me telling her I’m leaving.

Just going to pull away.

A man can only care so much until the benefit of caring is less than the benefit of moving on.

I’ve reached that point.
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There’s no “going to”.

Either leave (which involves telling her and actually breaking contact) or don’t.

The “not dumping”, “no fanfare”, “no telling her” is BS.

Man up, grow a set, tell her you’re over it and move on.

This spineless tactic of not saying anything is just a way of ensuring that you have an option in the future if she decides to toy with you again.
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Hieveryone said:
Everything’s fine. We made it official.

I think the caffeine messed me up to be honest

I started drinking the same amount I used to drink (400mg) after having had zero for many months because I thought what the heck it’s Christmas let’s celebrate lol (I DO love caffeine, but at night it’s horrendous anxiety). I’m still on edge from the whole thing.
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Oh wow. I leave to do family stuff for the christmas break for all of what... 3 days... and there’s been two flips.
 
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There is a distinct lack of clarity in this post: But, then, in drama studies, it is said that ambiguity keeps the audience on edge, attentive and on tenterhooks, while philosophers may argue that ambiguity is a default setting, as everything is subjective anyway. And journalists are thought to report facts, although some report facts that.....not facts......or fake facts.

Anyway, clarification would be greatly welcomed: What is official?

Is the Break-Up Official, or is the Reconciliation Official? Inquiring minds want to know.
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It’s young people lingo.
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throAU said:
There’s no “going to”.

Either leave (which involves telling her and actually breaking contact) or don’t.

The “not dumping”, “no fanfare”, “no telling her” is BS.

Man up, grow a set, tell her you’re over it and move on.

This spineless tactic of not saying anything is just a way of ensuring that you have an option in the future if she decides to toy with you again.
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Oh wow. I leave to do family stuff for the christmas break for all of what... 3 days... and there’s been two flips.
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I don’t think she was toying. It was the caffeine.
 
Scepticalscribe said:
Is the Break-Up Official? Or, is the Supposed Reconciliation Official?

And, seriously, I know that this is fiction (or fantasy, or delusion) because you blame the coffee.
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You are a poet and memorize a lot of GRE words correct?

If a young person says “we’re official” what would you guess it means?
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watakoola said:
There's something very wrong with me...
I drink coffee and...nothing happens.
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How!? I LOVE caffeine the high is so nice but the anxiety later on is truly unbearable.

Do you take anything else?
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I drank a lot of caffeine past 2 days just celebrate the holiday and I feel like I need my as needed only anti anxiety pill in XR version lol
 
UPDATE:

I got my doctor to run some blood tests to see if anything is off since I’ve been feeling so bad. She did a bunch. Praying the results are good
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watakoola said:
Water...
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ok how much water do you drink?
 
I think this time the issue that came up was maybe an overreaction on my part.

All of my friends were there for me these past 48 hours which is incredible. I’m truly grateful for their full 100% support.

I think the caffeine combined with bad December’s the last two years is what did it. I lost ~$30,000 and woke up Christmas morning to getting dumped by a girl I had been dating in the same week. Ironically, she wished me merry Christmas this Christmas morning haha. Turns out she dumped me bc she’s more into women than men but was still dating men at the time. She’s stunning, so it’s a real shame.

I’m feeling much better tonight though. I don’t know what came over me.
 
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