I find your post confusing and, to be frank, a bit confused.
Being "niche" and being "different" are not the same thing. Apple clearly isn't niche but it most definitely IS different. There is nobody out there who does what Apple does the way Apple does it. Nobody else has the integration of the software, hardware, services and ecosystem that Apple has - nobody at all. RIM comes closest as it makes its own OS and its own hardware but RIM doesn't supply the kinds of value adding services and products that Apple supplies. Apple's offering is unique - they do 'think different'.
As for "giving people what they want", well, yes and no. It all depends on what people you're talking to. Some want massive screens, NFC and wireless charging - Apple has chosen to NOT go with the trend on these areas just like it chose NOT to go with the trend on flash, removable batteries, etc. Similarly, nobody saw the potential for the iPad - people were asking for desktop software squished into a tablet form factor and Apple chose to go another way. Apple does give people what they want but only when what they want happens to co-incide with the vision they have. Again, this is very different to their main competitors who seem to design products by consensus rather than following their own path.
You really want them to give you "nice to have" rather than "need to have" features? I think what you're asking for is for Apple to become like Samsung. They won't. I also don't quite understand why you value novelty features over real value adding features... that seems a funny way to go but each to their own I guess.
You're complaining, in the same breath, that the new iPods are more of them same AND you want your click wheel back...? I think you're a bit confused here. Either you want more of the same (click wheel) or you don't - it's odd that you seem to want both the same and different.
Finally, you're saying you want different rather than better?! I think at least you're correct in one thing; Apple absolutely isn't the brand for you anymore but it's you, not Apple, who has changed.