What the heck goes on in America washrooms that makes this an issue? In my culture, you go into the room, lock yourself in a stall, do some non-sexy stuff, exit the stall, wash hands and go. What's to be so scared about? It's ridiculous. The number of American young men, who'd be willing to spend their whole life as a girl, clothes, make-up, driving license and everything, just to be able to listen to girls poop, has got to be very, very small. Even in America with all those scary immigrants.
In most public accommodations I've used, that's exactly what goes on. I've come out of stalls and seen men in heels and dresses putting on makeup. I washed my hands and went on my way. No big deal. I've seen teenaged boys in there accompanied by moms or sisters or female friends. Again, not a huge deal.
Where it gets complicated is in schools, and that's probably why it's now imperative to address the issue, as more and more students are starting to live openly as transgendered. A lot of different and varied kinds of assaults, sexual and otherwise, happens in school bathrooms, most of it due to bullying. I hear it can be really bad now.
It wasn't great in my day, either. But I hear about the intensity of persecution now and wonder how things managed to get worse, not better.
There was a transgendered kid in my junior high in the late 1970's. He was a boy physically, but he wore spaghetti strapped cocktail dresses that none of us girls would dare wear to school on a regular day and he said he thought of himself as a girl, though for whatever reasons he was fine with us referring to him with male pronouns. He was very much loved and protected by us girls. But I don't kid myself that his experience of being loved and protected was a common one or that he continued to enjoy the same protections and high regard throughout his life.
What's going on is that transitioning from living as one gender to another isn't something that happens overnight. As one forum member pointed out pages and many posts ago, it involves physical changes, lifestyle changes, and legal changes that can take years to accomplish.
The legal aspect varies from state to state and therein lies the frustration for many that this issue can't easily be permanently solved with an executive order and the changes made uniform from state to state. I think it's on the horizon to make the changes uniform across the country, but not the way our previous president accomplished it. And he just applied it to bathrooms. Transgendered people need better than that. They need to be able to have all aspects of their legal existence more easily and readily updated to match their gender transition. Even if they stop short of reassignment surgery.
Some people do stop just short of surgery for health reasons or financial reasons. They need their rights to be free from harm or prosecution (for using the bathroom they feel the safest in) safeguarded. Unfortunately even some of us who agree on that basic premise disagree on how that is best accomplished.
At some point I think we just need to retrofit schools with a neutral bathroom and shower facilities to accommodate anyone who has different needs, be it for a disability or an unresolved physical gender.
Businesses will likely do it on their own. Most are, already. The ones that don't, likely can't, for example some businesses in old buildings are grandfathered into keeping outdated facilities that don't adequately accommodate wheelchairs and walkers...until they make changes that trigger the ADA requirements.
Getting back to Tim Cook, a lot of us are with him on taking a stand as an individual, as a citizen, and an influential one at that. But he's mixing Apple up into a matter where Apple as a global corporation seems fine and dandy to operate in countries that oppress the rights Apple is making a stand on here. And neither Tim nor Apple says or does as thing to speak out for the oppressed in those countries. If Apple stands for these civil rights here it must stand for them everywhere it has a significant presence. Doing otherwise is hypocrisy.