I just had a chat with Apple's customer support and a call with a customer service manager.
I explained the situation: Apple.com showed me as shipping on Thursday, FedEx had me for Friday delivery then changed it to Pending Friday evening. After chatting with the Rep, where he said even though standard shipping was faster, he couldn't refund the shipping charge due to policy. We politely went back and forth until I asked for an escalation. Just got off the phone with a manager who said she would refund the shipping charge.
Still don't have any expectation as to when it will be delivered. FedEx still shows Pending 18hrs after changing from Friday delivery.
I thought Tim Cook was an operations/logistics genius. Granted, he's not overseeing each and every detail but this is in his DNA. This is very unlike Apple, very disappointing.