I'm in somewhat of the same boat too:
Order: iPhone 4 32gb White
Current status: In Progress
Ordered on 6/15 11:30am EST, but shows 6/16
Confirmation emails: none, still nothing.
Online order confirmation #/receipt: yes
Credit card: amount being held, but no charge showing
I haven't spent all that much time on the forums, but am starting to get excited for the new phone. Somehow my order ended up with a White - even though I'd prefer black. I was changing the colors and hitting submit and reloading the page because I kept getting errors. Once it was added I didn't even consider trying to change the color- I just checked out.
Here's a screenshot from 6/16:
http://www.twitpic.com/1x9awr
Well if you actually get a white one and I receive the black one I ordered, maybe we could trade