What plan are you on? My wife and I are on a family plan as well with me being the primary number. We both bought 3GS's launch day and we share 450 minutes and each have $5 texts. After FAN i'm paying about 120 a month. Yet neither of our lines are eligible. Does anyone else have a similar plan but have their primary as upgrade elegible?
You're not paying nearly enough to get the early upgrade. ATT wants to see ~80-100/month/line to qualify people early. These are high value customers that they don't want leaving.