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Can you forgive someone for cheating on you?
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No, it's not, his language is a little odd but his fundamental point is that relationship rules are not a universal law, why should one be so pretentious as to say you *can't* sleep with anyone else, and you're *not allowed* to flirt with others, the "rules" are created by man, they're not legally binding they're just what modern society expects and I and I assume the poster reject them on the assumption that one should not tell another human being what they can and cannot do, and we think you haven't the right and that it is pretentious to expect it let alone demand it.
At time's my partner's stated that she's felt emotionally fragile and that she'd rather I didn't get involved with anyone else for some time, which I was fine with, I told her I had no plans or desire to at the moment and that was that.
Rules are only ever broken in this world, it is *always* better to express how you feel about things so that one's partner knows what the consequences of their actions would be rather than being told that they're now trapped in the relationship
The point is only really about language but as ever in this world it tends to make all the difference.
read through everything haha.
while i havent had any experience with me cheating or being cheated on i have heard a few intense stories regarding the matter, and from these stories i have developed some "rules" that i try to abide by.
talking to other women about intense personal feelings isn't on, its stuipid, unfaithful and just..bleh. there are SOME exceptions, say you and your partner are having problems and you need to vent that with a close friend.
messing around with someone else is not on. even if your partner knows about it.
cheating shouldnt be forgiven, because it will most likely happen again.
just a personal opinion.
while i havent had any experience with me cheating or being cheated on i have heard a few intense stories regarding the matter, and from these stories i have developed some "rules" that i try to abide by.
talking to other women about intense personal feelings isn't on, its stuipid, unfaithful and just..bleh. there are SOME exceptions, say you and your partner are having problems and you need to vent that with a close friend.
messing around with someone else is not on. even if your partner knows about it.
cheating shouldnt be forgiven, because it will most likely happen again.
just a personal opinion.
i would forgive if he asks for it. but there will be cost to pay.
well i might seem like a miserable one, but im ok as long as im being the first one.
the other one he cheats with is just a second who should be slu*** ***.
But no forgiving or taking back if he cheated on both sides. lol
well i might seem like a miserable one, but im ok as long as im being the first one.
the other one he cheats with is just a second who should be slu*** ***.
But no forgiving or taking back if he cheated on both sides. lol
lol.. i love you
Strangely that is the EXACT line I use I swear. I just tell them I love them. Works a charm.
I've known a few who used this philosophy.
Unfortunately, most relationships like this have not worked out because one or both see something better and move on only to find out what they had was pretty good -- but then it is too late. The old, "grass is greener on the other side of the fence routine."
Agree.No if they do it once they will always do it again simple as that!
No if they do it once they will always do it again simple as that!
I agree with that. It's been my experience.
1. I don't understand what you are saying cheating is though? Cheating shouldn't be forgiven? But you write it off as being something known to more than yourself? I do like that you at least let it be known its a personal opinion and not expected to be some known "rule"
2. I don't know.. but personally I would destroy any relationship I have with anyone if it hinders how I would normally be with just myself. And that means I would eat when im hungry. No matter if its something my "friend" would eat or not. I would "****" even if its something my "friend" would not ****. I guess its all about how truthful you want to be to yourself and how much you want to alter that truth for someone else....
3. We were no doubt more honest when we were younger.. than when we got older. When we didn not have a placement of a "label" to describe a feeling or action. With this, you can not have a "lie" or "truth". We were what we were without it being described. Without explanation. We did things without fear of denial or seeking to be accepted. There was no direction or aim, just you. Nothing really is everything. It is everything before being called anything.
1. im saying cheating is going behind your partners back and doing something with someone else mainly in physical relations. it also includes things like cybersex, emailing people pictures of yourself etcetc. depending on your partner this may count as emotional relations with other people aswell.
no cheating shouldnt be forgiven, its completely unworthy of being given any forgiveness.
"But you write it off as being something known to more than yourself?" im not 100% sure what you mean by that...please verify.
2. with my girlfriend, and most of my friends, i am my exact self. there is nothing that i hide from her. what is the use of living a lie with the one person who trusts you with their whole life, heart and soul??
3. more honest when we are younger?? really? im only 19 so i guess i will experince that later. but now that im aware of it i will TRY to keep my honesty as much as i will try to keep my youth
. nice little life lesson there at the end, thanks for the insight mate Forgiving - NOT Easy
It really does seem that no relationship is safe anymore. I have been married before and had sworn off relationships when I thought the "perfect" man walked into my life. We have been together for a little over 2 years now (and seeing that we are engaged, I "thought" exclusive) I just found out that he has been having an "emotional" relationship with a co worker!!
I do know how and when we went wrong, but always figured we would survive. It's been 2 weeks since I found out and I must admit, I think I can forgive him for the affair, but I'm not sure I can forgive him for breaking the biggest promise I ever asked of him. That was, if he EVER thought of crossing the line, to just let me know before he did, if would have hurt less than finding out about "her"
It really does seem that no relationship is safe anymore. I have been married before and had sworn off relationships when I thought the "perfect" man walked into my life. We have been together for a little over 2 years now (and seeing that we are engaged, I "thought" exclusive) I just found out that he has been having an "emotional" relationship with a co worker!!
I do know how and when we went wrong, but always figured we would survive. It's been 2 weeks since I found out and I must admit, I think I can forgive him for the affair, but I'm not sure I can forgive him for breaking the biggest promise I ever asked of him. That was, if he EVER thought of crossing the line, to just let me know before he did, if would have hurt less than finding out about "her"
i can say i forgive...but that negative emotion will be in the backside of my head for a loooooong time.
who am i really trying to fool?
if i care about that person...then no i cant forgive them.
and yes i hold grudges for years upon years.
who am i really trying to fool?
if i care about that person...then no i cant forgive them.
and yes i hold grudges for years upon years.
I would, if he told me about. If I found out from somebody else I be mad, but I might still forgive him. But I would never cheat, much to loyal.