I love Mac, have since 1984 and the very first Mac operating system. I have made a very good living owning Mac Based business so I have a lot of time, sweat, money, etc. invested in Apple and the Mac, been through good times and bad times with the company.
It does not take a genius to figure out where Apple is taking the Mac OS, the iPhone is Apple's cash cow, the Mac is a small part of their business now, they are going to do everything they can to make the Mac look as much like the iPhone as they can, in many ways that makes good business sense, so I know why they are doing it, it's not a conspiracy theory, I don't think little green men are making changes to the MacOS just to piss me off.
But I don't have to like it, like I have said, I don't mind changes if the changes improve the product, but if they are just changes for the sake of making the product look more like another product, yes, I have a problem with that since those changes are not necessarily improvements. All that said, I hate the new systems settings for many reasons, it does not make good use of displays, they moved a lot of stuff around to areas that don't make sense to me (if nothing else the MacOS has always made sense to me, I could figures things out on my own without a manual, using search to find a command or just where something is located), there is no consistency to the visual elements in Systems Settings, different sized buttons, items not aligned. But, except for the system settings, Ventura is fine, though I don't have any use for Stage Manager, I don't use most of Apple's apps such as safari, messages, mail, contacts, etc. so changes they make to those don't impact me at all.