While I don't necessarily agree with your conclusion, I do agree with your observation about the blind, ideological fervor, with which some defend Apple and attack the competition.
The reality is, Apple chose to remove the headphone jack to include other technologies they ranked higher than maintain compatibility with the convenience and ubiquity of the headphone jack. I don't necessarily disagree with them. But it was a choice, not some insightful move on their part, especially given that their wired solution is proprietary, and incompatible with anything else, including the Mac.
You mean like 3D Touch?
I've never had any trouble pairing any recent Bluetooth headphones to my Apple products. I'm not sure how you can complain that yours were never charged when the the AirPods also require charging as well, and can just as easily be discharged when you need them. Indeed, my phone has almost always run a greater chance of being discharged than my headphones.
AirPods bring a lot of bonuses to wireless headphones specifically with Apple products, but basic maintenance (e.g. Charging) and pairing to other devices is not one of them. In fact if a person only uses them with one Apple product, pairing them is still a one-time procedure with any BT headphone, W1 chip or no. AirPods also being a lot of limitations when it comes to sound quality and features, so the Apple trade offs continue ...