Real talk here.
The US is still 20 years away (at least) from threatening. If ever. Men's "soccer" is just not as a popular sport as American football, baseball, basketball or even hockey. Kids play soccer in grade or high school, then never pick up a ball again. Even I played soccer in high school. And that was it. No development of top players.
The women's team is better because they have less pro options - basketball is the other one, in the WNBA. So they stick with it, playing and developing through college. But the men just don't have the top athletes playing, they go to other sports.
The US is still 20 years away (at least) from threatening. If ever. Men's "soccer" is just not as a popular sport as American football, baseball, basketball or even hockey. Kids play soccer in grade or high school, then never pick up a ball again. Even I played soccer in high school. And that was it. No development of top players.
The women's team is better because they have less pro options - basketball is the other one, in the WNBA. So they stick with it, playing and developing through college. But the men just don't have the top athletes playing, they go to other sports.