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Time for Chapter 8:

THE ADVENTURES OF EMERSON IN NYC
Chapter 8

So, I mentioned earlier that guy X from Avalon on the 18th who was so hot called me. I was giddy like a 14 year old girl, remember? He was really nice, didn't drink much, didn't smoke, and drove me home after the night was over. But it was really odd...

Here is how it happened. I woke up at 6PM on Thursday, because I am a weirdo. X still hadn't called me. Thursday is Splash night, but I had to work on a project for school for a couple hours, so I did that from 6 to 10 (I had to go to a friend's apartment to film stuff, hence it taking four hours), and then I came home and prepared myself for Splash. I went to Splash and danced all night. I came back very late and stayed up for the rest of the night doing homework. So, Friday day rolled around and I had a class from 9:00AM to 2:40PM, which I went to. I get back home, and my sister calls me, she wants to hang out. My friend is leaving town for a couple days too, so I tell her goodbye, and then I go hang out with my sister. My sister and I walk around and end up eating an early dinner at 5:00. I am dead tired at this point, I had been up for 23 hours. After this dinner we go to a cupcake shop, and we stayed there for a while. They had a live guitarist there who's job was to strum me to sleep, and he did it quite well. So, I say goodbye to my sister because I am too tired to keep my eyes open. I get back to my dorm at 6, 24 hours after I had last slept. I ended up going to bed at 7.

I slept till 7 on Saturday, 12 full hours :p. Understandable after my 25 hours of wakefulness. I wake up to find a message from guy X on my phone. He wants to hang out and he told me to call him. I decide that it wouldn't be wise to call someone at 7 in the morning, so I work on homework. I was very unproductive all day, only getting small parts of my work done, and I ended up going to a bookstore and standing in line for a good 20 minutes to figure out that the book that I needed (for school) costs $125. I'll borrow it from a friend, thanks :). They didn't have the other book I needed. So, I came back home and just hung out with friends till about 8, when I helped a friend with one of his projects. He didn't know Illustrator and wanted me to help him. So, I told my friend that X called me, and that I still hadn't called him back. We decided that now would be a good time to call.

So, I call X, and we have a short conversation along the lines of

"Hey 'X', this is Emerson from Avalon"
"Oh, hey"
"sorry I missed your call, I have a freakish sleeping schedule, I slept 12 hours last night"
"it's fine, I understand"
"so, what's up?"
"nothing much, hey, have you heard of spirit?"
"nope"
"<tells me about spirit, a club>"
"sounds awesome"
"hey, do you mind if I call you right back"
"sure, no problem"
click.

So, I wait a couple minutes for him to call back... nothing. Hours pass... nothing. I wasn't just sitting there, twittling my thumbs btw :p , I was juggling and discussing with my friends what I should do that night.

This was Sat. night, the night that I was psyched to go out, I had my outfit on and everything, and then I argued myself out of it because all the clubs were too expensive.

So, I end up going to bed pretty late on Sat night/Sun morning. I wake up today, Sunday, at 2PM or so. I spent the whole day doing homework, and I was actually very productive and got a lot done this time :D. Sunday nights are my avalon nights.

So, I go to Avalon with 2 friends. I had been wondering if X would be here since he was last week. And guess what? When I got there I saw one of X's friends. He approaches me and talks to me a little while, informing me that X was coming soon. That particular night was sponsored by 'Gay College Party', so they had gotten college students to be go-go's. One of my friends had disappeared at this point, so while I was trying to find him I see X out of the corner of my eye.... wearing nothing but little black boxer briefs. He was one of the college go-go boys :eek:.

I wasn't quite sure what to think. He looked great, but I was still kind of confused about how I should act because he hadn't told me he was going to do this and he never called me back after he said he was going to. I was friendly despite my confusion. We part ways after we said our hellos. I dance for about 45 minutes, and then it was his turn to get on stage. It was really awkward, him being on stage in the buff, and me dancing in the mob. My friends were thoroughly enjoying how my nice ride home had turned out to be a part time go-go boy :).

I see him exit the stage, and then he appears later fully clothed. My friends had left to go to Spirit, the club that X had told me about when we talked before. He approaches me, and we start dancing. I got a really strange vibe from him. He seemed very stand-offish and wasn't dancing much. He wasn't smiling or happy, like he had been last weekend. I was kind of annoyed with his attitude and I didn't really want to dance with him at all because his bad mood was rubbing off on me. He bends over and says "this won't work, I just want to be your friend", and I just said "okay". I have so many conflicting emotions about him. I would have been crushed if he had said that to me while he was driving me home a week earlier, but after all the awkwardness of him not calling me back like he said he would and then his bitchy mood, I didn't care that much. I felt like a different person had rejected me, not the same person that I had met a week earlier. Oh well. It still put me in a bad mood.

I danced anyways, and I was dancing to Beyonce's "crazy in love" when a guy leaned over and said "you move better than anyone else on this dance floor". I was very flattered :eek:, but I can't say that he was the best looking of people. But he started dancing with me, and he was very nice to me, so I danced with him despite not being attracted to him.

I ended up dancing with him for a long time, without really wanting to. He wrote down his email address and told me to email him. I probably will, but I'm going to try and make it clear that I'm not interested in anything but friendship. The club was quickly dying off. The music got progressively worse, and nobody attractive was on the floor, deepening my bad mood. X left at this point, kissing me on the cheek and saying goodbye. This actually made me feel better, not like I still stood a chance with him, but it made me feel that things weren't awkward between us. I don't really want to date him, he was very negative tonight, and that turned me off. I wanted to keep dancing though, I still had energy in me, so I ended up being one of the last 3 people to leave the dance floor. I left the floor feeling better about X.

So, I left the club in a very dissatisfied mood. I still had a bit more energy in me, which means I didn't get as much exercise as would be possible. But I was incredibly bored with the club, I might as well have been dancing alone in my room. I was so dissatisfied because I hadn't danced with anyone that I was attracted to the whole night, the only one that I had danced with only wanted to be my 'friend'. So, I felt that I hadn't gotten as much exercise as I could have, I hadn't danced with anyone I found attractive, and I had been rejected by a guy who I wasn't sure if I liked or not.

I won't be calling X, if he wants to hang out as friends then I would do that, but he'll have to call me. Maybe I'll talk to someone nice at whatever club I go to on Wed.

_Emerson
 
It's not that I don't find your story interesting on some level, but... maybe you should get a blog? Or is the token gay thread all about your dating journal? (Is that rude? Haha.)
 
wongulous said:
It's not that I don't find your story interesting on some level, but... maybe you should get a blog? Or is the token gay thread all about your dating journal? (Is that rude? Haha.)

Not at all. I'll stop if that's desired :p.

I do it more for therapeutic reasons than anything else. Feel free not to read them, they aren't important to anyone but me, really. :)

Grey Beard said:
Hey Emerson,

If Tweedle Dee and/or Tweedle Dum, tweedle.
Does it take a Twit to Twittle ?

Oh, maybe that should have been twiddle.

Grey Beard

all of the above? :confused: :eek:

Goodnight, I have class tomorrow at 9:00 :(.

_Emerson
 
The nebulous X

scem0 said:
I got a really strange vibe from him. He seemed very stand-offish and wasn't dancing much. He wasn't smiling or happy, like he had been last weekend. I was kind of annoyed with his attitude and I didn't really want to dance with him at all because his bad mood was rubbing off on me. He bends over and says "this won't work, I just want to be your friend", and I just said "okay"._Emerson
Emerson,
If you are sure you didn't pick up the wrong idea at your first meeting, it could be something as simple as him being bi-polar or he'd received bad news ? Also, everyone has bad days (even you dude) Perhaps next time he calls it may be a bed of roses. Everyone really deserves a second chance if at all possible.

I often have on again - off again days. I'm not bi-polar (or bi anything) guess with me it's just the brain chemicals being screwed up by my meds.
Grey Beard
 
I think not

scem0 said:
Not at all. I'll stop if that's desired :p._Emerson
Not for my money Emerson. I think you'd be surprised at your readership, I really think that you do a sh*t load more, for a heap of folk here than you know.
Grey Beard
 
scem0 said:
So, I felt that I hadn't gotten as much exercise as I could have, I hadn't danced with anyone I found attractive, and I had been rejected by a guy who I wasn't sure if I liked or not.

I won't be calling X, if he wants to hang out as friends then I would do that, but he'll have to call me. Maybe I'll talk to someone nice at whatever club I go to on Wed.

_Emerson

Just a thought, could he have just being (a bit clumsily) trying to prove the "I wanna be friends" point? Sometimes trying to make it clear to someone that you just want to be friends can make you a bit more stand offish than you mean to be. A couple of pages back, you said you weren't sure about a guy, and wanted to make it clear you were just going to be friends with him. Could this be the same thing the other way round?

But yeah, waiting for him to call you sounds like a good bet.
 
I've considered all of that. If he was bi-polar then I don't know what to say, he may have rejected me on a 'bad' day, but what can I do about it? Do I want to do anything?

If he was not getting into the dancing to try and say "I'm not interested" then what happened from last week? His hands were all over me and vice versa. He was squeezing my ass, hugging me, and was giving me lots of attention. He was smiling almost the whole time, and was eager to drive me home. He was definitely interested a week ago, and then it all changed. It can't have anything to do with drinking, he didn't drink enough to skew his judgment like that. If he had I wouldn't have let him drive me home. I don't think it had anything to do with me, my outfit was cute last week, but not that cute :D.

It wasn't just physical attraction. I felt very comfortable talking to him and his friends, and we had a nice conversation in the car when he drove me home. And I don't drink, so it isn't as easy for me to speak to a car of people as one may think, I'd usually feel more comfortable dancing with them than speaking to them.

And then there's the issue with the not calling me back. Did he forget? Did he get scarred? Did he randomly decide he doesn't like me in the middle of the week? He used the words 'right back' which usually means ~5 minutes. He never called back at all.

That's why I'm so confused by him saying that he only wants to be my friend. He was just so damned interested last week. Maybe he was embarrassed that I learnt he was a part-time go-go? No, I don't think he is that dumb. I bet he has a boyfriend and started to feel guilty as the week went by for leading me on. I never even considered that, but it would make perfect sense. In that case, I'm glad that he stopped acting interested.

_Emerson
 
scem0 said:
If he was not getting into the dancing to try and say "I'm not interested" then what happened from last week? His hands were all over me and vice versa. He was squeezing my ass, hugging me, and was giving me lots of attention. He was smiling almost the whole time, and was eager to drive me home. He was definitely interested a week ago, and then it all changed.

Maybe drugs - esctasy or other party drugs last week?
maybe he changed his mind?
Maybe he is / was in a relationship or interested in someone else?

Could be lots of things... before I would consider any psychological or psychiatric condition.
 
DJY said:
Maybe drugs - esctasy or other party drugs last week?
maybe he changed his mind?
Maybe he is / was in a relationship or interested in someone else?

Could be lots of things... before I would consider any psychological or psychiatric condition.

Or could have he have been clued in to the postings here?
 
oh no, I hope that wouldn't turn someone off of me, because I am painfully honest on these forums. :p

I'm honest in real life too, but how much can one reveal about their lives while they dance?

I doubt it was drugs, he seemed to be in a very solid state of mind. And that is an awfully short amount of time to change your mind on something. But I won't pursue it any longer. In short, I no longer care. X is X and Emerson is Emerson.

_Emerson
 
scem0 said:
oh no, I hope that wouldn't turn someone off of me, because I am painfully honest on these forums. :p

I'm honest in real life too, but how much can one reveal about their lives while they dance?

I doubt it was drugs, he seemed to be in a very solid state of mind. And that is an awfully short amount of time to change your mind on something. But I won't pursue it any longer. In short, I no longer care. X is X and Emerson is Emerson.

_Emerson
I'd not considered either him reading the lists or another relationship aspect. It's funny that we always judge things by our own personal experiences rather than on just the presented facts.
As you say X and move onto Y, easy to say but a bit tougher to do sometimes. All I can offer is, that you should be true to yourself.

Just remembering what Dave (Guitarius) said a little while back. While it makes little difference to the list or what's posted, hey Emerson and all other contributors; Hi - My name is Kevin.

Grey Beard
 
scem0 said:
Personally, I've always wanted to try the abtronic :):

abtronic_kombi.jpg


_Emerson

Eek! That thing reminds me of the electrodes they hooked up to my knees in physical therapy. You lay there and they send electric pulses through the muscles around your kneecap. It makes the muscles contract and then relax. It's the most disturbing, uncomfortable thing ever. I had to grit my teeth to get through that twice a week. Keep that thing away.
 
scem0 said:
oh no, I hope that wouldn't turn someone off of me, because I am painfully honest on these forums. :p

I'm honest in real life too, but how much can one reveal about their lives while they dance?

I doubt it was drugs, he seemed to be in a very solid state of mind. And that is an awfully short amount of time to change your mind on something. But I won't pursue it any longer. In short, I no longer care. X is X and Emerson is Emerson.

_Emerson

To be honest, it could have been your posts. Remember my comment about "your becoming a man" type post?

You came across to me as the jaded older guy, as being totally in to this guy. While you may never admit that your "saw" this guy as someone that had "long term" interest, he had you attention and attraction. I was very happy for you. And I at the time resisted in cautioning you on getting your hopes up.

For as much as I have "played" with you on online - I realized that there might not be much more than words between us. At the same point there is a dual "identity" going on for me.

One that has been there, and done that. The other is "dare" I say , as the "son" that I have not not had, most likely never will. I would like to meet you as a "friend". And despite the "play"; I never thought as much more than that. Unless time gave us the opportunity.

What you are experiencing is the growth process from a "boy" to being a a "man". Rest assured if you were my "true" son, Gay or Straight, I would be so very proud of you right now.

I would love nothing more at this point to meet your parents. To tell them that their 18+ years of love and upbringing has given this world a caring and loving individual that they can be proud of.
 
Grey Beard said:
I'd not considered either him reading the lists or another relationship aspect. It's funny that we always judge things by our own personal experiences rather than on just the presented facts.
As you say X and move onto Y, easy to say but a bit tougher to do sometimes. All I can offer is, that you should be true to yourself.

Just remembering what Dave (Guitarius) said a little while back. While it makes little difference to the list or what's posted, hey Emerson and all other contributors; Hi - My name is Kevin.

Grey Beard

Hi Kevin. My name is Chip (as one had to think hard n that one).

Grey (Kevin), consider in this day and age of the internet.

Even my own sister has "goggled" me and has been surprised. In this case, could not have been a case of "google"; but a chance "circumstance" thar led X to believe that hve been more more than meets the eye.

For after scems post, Mr. X my have felt there was more than was was there.
 
Since giving advice to scem0 is the theme of the day, I'll chime in.

scem0: Whatever Mr X's intentions are, he doesn't leave an impression of being ready for the kind of relationship you've been describing that you want. You have said that you want to make it right the first time, and if that means you want it to be a serious commitment, Mr X hasn't shown himself to be ready for that.

My first thought when you describe his actions is that he may be the kind of guy who mostly enjoy one night encounters. There are a lot of those guys out there. I may be wrong, but even if I'm wrong, given with his history with you, he needs to prove to you that he can be dependable before you let yourself get charmed if his mood turns again and he flexes his biceps or whatever it is that turn you on ;).

And for those who didn't catch it the first time .... my name is Audun ... *currently enjoying myself in a hotel room in Montpellier, France*
 
gekko513 said:
Since giving advice to scem0 is the theme of the day, I'll chime in.

scem0: Whatever Mr X's intentions are, he doesn't leave an impression of being ready for the kind of relationship you've been describing that you want. You have said that you want to make it right the first time, and if that means you want it to be a serious commitment, Mr X hasn't shown himself to be ready for that.

My first thought when you describe his actions is that he may be the kind of guy who mostly enjoy one night encounters. There are a lot of those guys out there. I may be wrong, but even if I'm wrong, given with his history with you, he needs to prove to you that he can be dependable before you let yourself get charmed if his mood turns again and he flexes his biceps or whatever it is that turn you on ;).

And for those who didn't catch it the first time .... my name is Audun ... *currently enjoying myself in a hotel room in Montpellier, France*

I am going into scem's corner on this, though to be honest we only know his side of the encounter. In this age of the internet, I have to still go with my hunch that he or one of his bud's (mates) may have seen scems's posts; and clued him in.

Unless this guy in the short time mentioned, found Mr. Right else where. Or that scem may have come of as flighty, but we know better than that.
 
gekko513 said:
And for those who didn't catch it the first time .... my name is Audun ...

Rowwwr...Uh, I mean thanks for introducing yourself, Audun.

I think by the time my photo project is up, and chatting with you I'll be Scandinavian.
 
iGary said:
Rowwwr...Uh, I mean thanks for introducing yourself, Audun.

I think by the time my photo project is up, and chatting with you I'll be Scandinavian.

BTW, Gary, what time is best for you for a meet and greet. I till want to see you on Airline.
 
Hey guys- I'm going to be a bit absent for the latter part of the week, so don't think I died. :)

I'm shooting a new film with an improv group in town and it's going to be all night shoots starting at 9pm each night til god knows when. It's a horror film that will be screened at a club after the Halloween parade on Halsted st! Yay! I got the script yesterday and it's quite violent and complicated. I'm anticipating late nights, so don't think I went away if you don't see me. :) The shoot starts Thursday, so I'm going to try to go to bed early for the next few nights.
 
leekohler said:
Hey guys- I'm going to be a bit absent for the latter part of the week, so don't think I died. :)

I'm shooting a new film with an improv group in town and it's going to be all night shoots starting at 9pm each night til god knows when. It's a horror film that will be screened at a club after the Halloween parade on Halsted st! Yay! I got the script yesterday and it's quite violent and complicated. I'm anticipating late nights, so don't think I went away if you don't see me. :) The shoot starts Thursday, so I'm going to try to go to bed early for the next few nights.


Congrats! here is hoping that you get a role opposite Jody or Ellen.
 
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